Well, Quan Xi Hee deleted the video on Station B...
Was she really a little collapsed this time, who was scolded by the whole Internet?
In case there is a treasure in the confusion of eating melons, the sheep first take everyone to sort out the past
Over the weekend, an interview went viral, and Chizuko Ueno, a well-known feminist scholar in Japan, and three Chinese UP masters who graduated from Peking University came for a half-hour conversation
Who is Chizuko Ueno?
Renowned sociologist, pioneer, leader and theorist in the field of women's studies and gender studies in Japan, and professor emeritus at the University of Tokyo.
In the field of women's studies, Ueno basically belongs to the "godmother" level of East Asia, and the best-selling books "Misogyny" and "Feminism from Zero" are all written by her. Chizuko Ueno: I really can be speechless, feminism is not dogmatism
It stands to reason that inviting such a big-name character to visit should produce a high-quality video, but the questions asked by the three really make everyone look stupid...
The sheep first briefly retold the content to Baozi, who had not seen the video.
Why would the UP master, represented by Quan Xihee, be scolded so miserably? The main thing is that the level of questioning is too secondary.
First of all, the Peking University trio briefly introduced the situation of Chizuko Ueno
The video was normal at first, Quan Xixi and Ueno chatted about the situation of books in China and Japan, and then threw out the first heavy question -
"You had no plans to start a family in your 20s, did you have been hurt by men? Or the influence of the family of origin? ”
To be honest, in the eyes of the sheep, this issue is an "insult" to the identity of feminist scholars.
Ueno, a person who studies sociology and gender studies, does whether or not she marries necessarily has to do with the influence that men have on her?
Ueno probably did not expect to hear this kind of proposal, and asked about the marriage status of the Peking University trio, and sighed like this——
"It turns out that everyone is married..."
Then he explained again that he had no interest in marriage because of the state of his mother in marriage, and looking at such parents, it was difficult to have the idea of getting married.
Immediately afterwards, the Peking University trio began to explain why they got married-
One is to feel that they can enter a happy marriage by their own ability; one for functional marriage; The other is to feel that the age is up.
I don't know if it's a sheep's delusion, but the three of them have a "sense of urgency" to seek recognition when explaining their reasons for marriage, as if marriage is an unbearable thing for people who consider themselves feminists.
After all, in the eyes of authoritative feminists like Ueno-sensei, most women in marriages are holding back
After this question ended, the Peking University trio immediately threw out a second heavy question: Will Ueno Sensei have a moment of love brain?
After Ueno said some of his views on love, he couldn't help but "complain" a little
To be honest, the sheep were already a little unbearable when they saw this... It's already lucky to be able to invite Chizuko Ueno, not to mention that men and marriage are uncomfortable
What is feminism?
Gender is really a social issue, it is a big and broad concept, and there are obviously many aspects that can be explored, why do we have to focus on the issue of men and women.
They even ask whether a qualified partner should be fully in a woman's shoes
Quan Xixi even said that Dink's self agreed to have a child with her husband after four years of marriage, because after 4 years of married life, he trusted her husband more.
Because of this incident, many people scolded her for compromising male rights.
Ueno-sensei replied: It took four years to judge that this man was trustworthy, and it was also a great thing.
What makes it interesting is that when Ueno-sensei said this, he looked at his friend with emotion and covered his chest with his hands.
Have the treasures noticed?
This is clearly a state of "comforted".
The reason why this interview was unsuccessful was because the three people carried private goods, they always started from their own perspective, and did not focus on the woman as a whole.
The question "As a woman, as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter-in-law" was asked throughout the interview.
Although it does lead to many sharp views of Ueno-sensei, for the female group, they do not solve the confusion for everyone by asking questions.
They seem to have asked a lot of more practical questions, but in fact, the starting point is "me" as a case, not so much a feminist interview, but let Ueno provide them with life solutions.
So as soon as this video was released, someone in the circle of friends of the sheep immediately fired: this is not to ask Ueno to talk about feminism, but to invite Ueno to be a gender expert.
And because the video went viral, some of Quan Xihee's previous views were also sorted out. Quan Hee Hee is at fault, the fault is that she is "new and old"
For example, in order for her husband not to cheat and give up Dink to have children
Another example is to put her husband's surname "Cai" in front of her Weibo name
In the face of all these remarks, Quan Xixi suddenly became the biggest "network black" on the Internet this week.
But is she really wrong?
To be honest, it's normal for Quan Xihee to be scolded for this video, because the three of them have too much of our expectations for contemporary independent women.
High education + high income, such a group of Kochi women should be shining professionals, and the suitable men should be equally excellent.
But what about all hee-hee?
She not only asked Uedino questions around marriage, her husband took the college entrance examination three times, Dink regretted it before marriage, and even wanted to go over to prostitute
In the video comments of Quan Heehee, sheep has seen a very accurate description: the three of them are soberly compromised.
This means that as Kochi women, they know very well how a patriarchal society works and what role women play in it, but even then they still choose to make certain sacrifices.
This reminds the sheep of a point that Shao Yihui once mentioned in the conversation, in the contemporary era of great change in gender perception, we are actually new and old people.
What is new and old?
Born in a traditional society as a child, he was exposed to new trends of thought as he grew up.
And it is precisely because of this inconsistency that many of us have become people with a certain sense of femininity, but still can't get rid of the shackles of traditional concepts in the choice of certain issues, so that the more they live, the more screwed.
For example, where does the twisting feeling of full hee come from?
On the one hand, she does not want to get married, but she does not know how to face the questions of her relatives in her hometown if she does not get married; On the one hand, she thinks about Dink, but she is worried that Dink will cause a rift in her marriage; On the one hand, she thinks she is doing the right thing, but she also wants to find approval from the authority.
She wanted both universal female values and independent women in the elite of her class.
Many people say she threw these questions out for marketing, but sheep doesn't think so.
Because as early as when chatting with Dai Jinhua before, she had sought answers to Dai Jinhua around marriage issues.
The sheep used the word "answer".
Because these women often struggle with the choice between two choices, and when they make a decision, they will be daunted.
In the video, Quan Xixi calls her married and childbearing self a "flawed feminism" and Chizuko Ueno a "perfect feminist", which shows that she has subconsciously regarded married and childbearing as a "stain" of feminists.
Why did she keep asking questions about marriage over and over again?
Because she was looking for a sense of identity.
In other words, she doesn't know if she's doing the right thing or not.
In fact, more than once in the video, I saw the moment when Quan Hee was "comforted" by Chizuko Ueno's words.
As a self-proclaimed feminist who is married and has children and compromises her husband in some ways, her previous life was probably also mired in contradictions.
So much so that when Ueno, a feminist scholar, did not attack her marriage and fertility or even "affirmed" her approach, her state relaxed significantly.
If the treasures have seen the title before the video has not been modified, they may agree more with the sheep's point of view -
"If the 75-year-old grandmother tells the truth: love and children, it is better to do than not do well."
Lo and behold, isn't this borrowing Ueno's mouth to stand for her personal approach?
Of course, although the sheep watched the video the whole "old man subway mobile phone .jpg", the sheep still did not think that this video was absolutely clumsy.
Because the video provides us with a new perspective: even Kochi women who graduated from Peking University and have a free wealth are still struggling with the opposition between old and new trends.
For example, Mr. Ueno expressed in the video: "If you are obsessed with marriage, then what you like is marriage, not men." ”
There is so much talk about gender in this era that we often don't know how to do it is absolutely right.
This kind of confusion, I believe that not only one person has it.
Should independent women get married? Should independent women receive a bride price? Should independent women compromise with their husbands? Do independent women have to be strongmen in the workplace? Do independent women have to be financially free?
In a sense, a large part of us who have accepted new ideas are confused and hesitant.
The most important thing is not to fool yourself
It is normal to be in a state of confusion, a patriarchal society has been maintained for thousands of years, and women cannot get out of the thinking dilemma in just a hundred years.
The popularity of any trend of thought takes time.
In the stage of the spread of feminist thought, there will inevitably be a large number of people who are struggling and confused.
Ueno expressed a core point in the video: Don't fool yourself.
In other words, it's okay to feel lost, but don't make a choice in vain.
Feminism is not only a sociological concept, it can also be turned into a pragmatism.
Because it can help women see the essential differences between men and women in the social division of labor, marital status and the distribution of benefits under the dual gender system.
When you have a clearer understanding of the social structure, you can make the choices that are most comfortable for you personally.
Women have long formed a set of inherent thinking cognition under the influence of "romantic love" in film and television books, and the emergence of feminism is to break this layer of fairy tales -
For example, marriage is essentially a contractual relationship and a means of managing society; For example, men and women are actually just different roles shaped by society; Another example is the human liberation talked about in the world under the patriarchal society, which is essentially the liberation of men.
Feminism breaks illusions and unleashes reality.
But feminism is not dogmatism.
Whether it is getting married, becoming a mother, going to the workplace to struggle, or "rotten" at home, these choices are not absolutely high or low.
So Yang thinks that Quan Xixi is right to get married, because she made this choice on the basis of knowing the nature of society.
Her fault is that she is not firm enough, trying to make up for her "failure" from Chizuko Ueno, and then seek marriage recognition.
Her approach and the netizens who scolded her for marriage are actually forcing each other to accept their own views: everyone thinks that she should not compromise marriage and men, and she is also telling everyone through Ueno that her choice is right.
Seriously, is it necessary?
The sheep felt that the treasures did not have to be so indignant and tangled.
Feminism has given us the social truth under the binary gender system, and how to choose after that is personal power, as long as you can bear the consequences of this choice.
Quan Xixi said that she married to gain freedom from being urged to marry.
Although speechless, the sheep also respect.
Finally, the sheep wants to say that the sexes are not opposites, and the social structure is the source of the distribution of power between the sexes.
We don't have to pay so much attention to men and marriages, and the freedom to make every choice in a sober state is the best state of contemporary women.
Did you fool yourself? Maybe.
In this era of gender perception change, it is normal for us to feel confused, and the only thing we can do is to turn feminism into a channel for us to see the world clearly.
So as to try to get rid of the gaze of patriarchal society, pay less attention to what men think, how society looks, pay more attention to their own ideas, and have more self-awareness and encouragement.
There is no standard answer to feminism.
When you know everything and can take responsibility for your own choices, you are already a very independent and sober personality.