My husband and I are both post-80s. He, two years older than me, an Aries polytechnic man, usually gives people the feeling of that kind of standard and proper steel straight man.
So, for this reason, I have shown great tolerance and restraint in this regard since I met him. Try not to think about his stereotypes and bad words, but also force yourself to accept his indifference and rudeness, and even after a long time, you have slowly "become accustomed" to a certain way of life that he brought to me.
But in fact, I still care a lot, but although I am unhappy, I will carry it myself, and then I will find a way to divert my attention. After all, every woman will have a princess in her heart, a romantic and vain heart, and will hope to be carefully cared for and treated tenderly by her other half.
Therefore, over the years, my depressed emotions have been accumulating, often inexplicably irritable, and even began to become more and more emotionally low-iq and inferior.
I have been married to him for 11 years, he has not even sent me a single flower, and like Valentine's Day, March 8th, wedding anniversary and birthday, he also ignored it all...
Take last year's 10th wedding anniversary. Out of the vanity of a woman, I had already warned him a week in advance, hoping that he would invite me to dinner alone and then give me a brand bag or something, and he was not without time during that time.
But by that day, instead of saying anything to me, he had drunk a lot of wine, returned later, and pretended to be indifferent and did not have any explanation.
I asked him, do you know what day it is? Have you ever forgotten anything? He could even pretend to be very innocent, play dumb puzzles with me, and guess all the special days.
So, at one point, I was completely dead-hearted and wouldn't think anything of him anymore.
However, during the Spring Festival this year, something happened that made me "impressed" him.
That day, I went with my mom to the old house to move things and inadvertently found an old wooden box in the attic that he had used before.
The box was locked with an iron lock, but the hinges were rusty and I pulled it off on my own with a gentle pull. The box then contained his previous stuff, including love letters he had written to his ex-girlfriend before, as well as diaries and gifts that were later returned.
Come to think of it, the sea is really overwhelming. He wrote more than 30 love letters alone, and the envelopes were all affectionate, and almost every letter would have words like "baby", "kiss you", "think you want to insomnia".
And most crucially, he can remember not only his ex's birthdays, his favorite dishes, but also the birthdays of her girlfriends and parents...
It can be said that what I learned about him later is really the same as the previous him, or the kind of "meanness" in his bones, which is completely judged by two people!
So, I can see clearly now, where are the steel straight men under the sky? It's just that he doesn't love you enough. As for the fact that a man doesn't coax a woman, it's all fake, or it's just a pretext that he doesn't love you enough or isn't willing to give for you.
And the so-called low emotional intelligence, do not understand the style, do not know how to please people, no romantic cells, in fact, it is all just because he does not love you enough!
So, I will tell my cousin now that although a woman looking for a man cannot just blindly listen to him say good things and see how he pleases you, reality tells us again and again:
Behind a man's true love for a woman, he must have his own abnormal endowment, and he must also have a way to give up and change something so that he can be willingly good to me!
Instead of listening to his so-called excuses, or making excuses for what kind of person he is.
No matter how much a man loves a woman, if he is stingy even with the most basic words of praise, even gifts are not willing to give you, always have no time to accompany you, and always look like he has no desires and no demands, then this kind of love must be unhealthy, or not pure enough, even with disguise.
So, I'm going to tell him very bluntly right now:
Please don't tell me what kind of person you are, or what kind of nonsense you are looking for to deceive me.
If you still want to live such a good life, or want me to see you as a normal man and husband, then please also see me as a woman with blood, flesh, vanity, and longing for the praise and love of men!
Only in this way can we be equal with each other! The road behind will also become a little meaningful!