How many friends do you have?
For this problem, some people say that their friends are all over the world, especially many, some people say that they are friends, but there are only a few, and some people say that they do not have a friend.
Maybe there have been, but the current state is really impossible to find.
Perhaps, in the eyes of some people, it is a very incredible thing to have no friends, and it is completely undeserved, and they cannot even imagine what kind of state life would be without friends.
However, in this world, there are really not many people who have no friends.
Such a person may think that he has some strangeness, some pity, some loneliness, but in his own opinion, it is not necessarily.
Perhaps, he still enjoys this state and has been living quite well.
It's not that there's no one around, it's just that it's not arbitrary.
In the eyes of some people, they feel that if they have no friends, they are people who do not have contact on weekdays.
In fact, a person who has no friends, he thinks, does not mean this.
People are living in the crowd, and it is certainly impossible to do without some intersecting people.
However, some people may feel that they have eaten a few meals with each other, chatted for several days, and become friends in the address book, that is, friends, and some people will think that friends should not be so superficial, they should think of each other at the same level, and cherish each other.
He never regarded some general friends as friends, nor did he regard some people who ate and drank as friendships.
In his world, he also has colleagues, classmates, relatives, and neighbors, but there are fewer people who can communicate deeply, appreciate each other, and are more like-minded.
For a man like that, his standards for friendship are very high. It seems that he does not casually regard anyone as a friend, which will seem a little impersonal, in fact, he is just very measured, but also very boundaryful.
Neither allowing yourself to expect anything from anyone, nor casually promising others anything, a person who knows how to keep his boundaries, he is actually far more reliable than many people, and he knows better what kind of relationship he wants.
Have more time for yourself and don't always have to deal with anyone.
Love, friendship, any relationship, that needs to be maintained.
You need to give some help when the other person needs it, and you need to don't always push back when the other person says a party.
For such a situation, when a person has too many friends, many times it will be really busy, there are always endless meals, and there are always many things that need to be handled by themselves.
Unconsciously, a lot of energy will be plundered by others, and there is no way to do their own things well.
If a person's relationship with the people around him is relatively shallow and not how familiar, then he will not always trouble others, and others will certainly not always trouble him.
In this way, in addition to work, a lot of time and energy, he can keep all to himself.
You can do what you want to do, meet some people you want to meet, learn what you want to learn, try to improve yourself, and make life what you want, instead of always being around, saying something against your heart, and doing something against your heart.
In this life, everyone's energy is limited, the time spent on others, there will be nothing left, know how to use time to complete themselves, little by little, they will feel more abundant, life is also possible to slowly become what they want.
Knowing how to be alone, the heart is often more powerful.
Friends are indeed more meaningful to everyone.
You can share with each other, accompany each other, participate in each other's lives, and give each other support when needed.
However, as we get older, we will also find that many things, in fact, others can not really help us share, after all, we have to rely on ourselves to bear.
Rather than feeling lonely, the more he wants to get into the crowd, the more he longs for others to give him a warmth, and he has no friends, he is more willing to face many things silently.
He knows very well that in others, he simply can't find the sense of belonging he wants, and he goes into the crowd and scatters the scene, and his heart will only feel more lonely, and the sense of security he wants can only be given to himself.
A person who doesn't rely too much on friends, he can eat alone, go shopping alone, watch movies alone, always do a lot of things alone, he doesn't feel that it doesn't matter, he just enjoys those years.
For some days, he had long been accustomed to being alone, and even if he was alone, he could withstand all the wind and rain in this world.
In the eyes of others, he was alone and appeared to be very weak, but he himself knew that he already had a very strong heart, far better than too many people.
Friends, if you like to make friends, you can make more friends.
And if you don't meet yourself and don't have friends, it's not a bad thing, it's also very good.
There is not only one way to live in life, everyone can live according to their own ideas, to live as they like.
No matter how you live, as long as you don't feel lonely, you don't envy others, and you don't think it will look miserable, that's enough.
In this world, the crowd is surging and people are coming and going, it seems that there are more people around, a person's heart, after all, only himself will understand, a person's situation, after all, only their own face.
When you can beat a team, you can ignite your life, and there are not so many people involved in your life, so what.
Feeling happy and fulfilled is often more important than anything else.
Text/Tan Meng
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