Recently, in the tree hole, I received a message from a classmate.
"Once we had nothing to say, but now she has better friends."
"It turns out that not only love has a third party, but friendship also has a third party."
Listen, I actually don't know how to comfort.
After all, we often have the illusion that a good friendship does not need too much daily maintenance, that each other will occupy a high position in each other's hearts, and that when there is something wrong with each other, they will come forward.
But I ignored that it was no longer an ordinary friend, but a close friend.
And many friends, are limited-time, there is a freshness period, even if you unilaterally regard it as a close friend, the other party may demote you, and finally silently move out of the list of friends.
Long-time friends, to be honest, are really luxuries.
I'm not a good person for maintaining friendships.
Nor is it the kind of person who is keen to party.
Or, rather,
As we age,
Recognize fewer and fewer friends.
When I was a child, I had a lot of playmates.
Through the streets and alleys, visiting each other's doors,
Everyone's parents know each other,
We all thought we would be friends for life.
We once had a ten-year covenant,
Say that every year in the Mid-Autumn Festival, we have to come out and play together,
But every year there are fewer and fewer people,
Until finally I was the only one left.
At that time we didn't have mobile phones.
Some people because of graduation, moving, etc.,
If you don't see it, you really don't see it.
Junior high school,
Met a good friend named Brother Shui,
Nothing to say,
We are all together in class and after class.
No matter what difficulties the other party encounters,
Each other must be the first to come out and help.
Let's be honest,
At that time, we all thought that each other would be brothers for life.
But going to school is going to go from thing to thing,
After graduation, everyone works in a different direction.
Brother Shui will join other people who are closer to his circle,
I also became less familiar with the topic of their circle.
The brother who was the second and third best with him,
Now is his first choice.
His status in my heart is still very high,
It's just a little bit of a pity.
Maybe it's really that I didn't do well,
Learn about things at each stage of him.
Or maybe it's really that I'm taking a different path.
The heart is there, but there is less spiritual communication.
university
I don't have many friends.
I have a very eccentric personality.
There are edges and angles,
It will offend a lot of people.
High school best friend Can,
Universities that volunteer together,
different specialties,
Also because of the different styles of doing things,
There are different positions in the school.
There have been contradictions and differences,
He is still a person I admire.
But he will meet more like-minded people,
I will also meet people who are more in line with my personality.
Not long after graduation, start a business,
Need to find a partner,
What popped into my head was another brother from junior high school.
That is, I often mention Zheng Zong in articles.
I envy him,
A lot of friends around,
Often will organize a group meeting,
In contrast, I'm a bit of a maverick like a freak.
He is in the development of the workplace,
And I'm relatively close to the contract,
To be honest I would value him very much,
But I would also think,
I may be just a very ordinary one of his N friends.
Once organized for ten years flower street bureau,
After starting a family and having a new life,
I also became one of the occasional absences.
In fact, I am very happy that my good friends will find me as a brother when they get married.
I'm glad my friend's parents will remember my name.
But there will also be a little bit of jealousy in the heart,
Because I know that I'm just him at some stage,
Very nice friend.
After work,
I can't meet friends my age at all.
Maybe it's a colleague who's older than me.
Maybe it's a subordinate who's younger than me.
They will all be the spiritual motivation that underpins me at this stage.
But I'm also afraid.
If my job changes,
Will they still remember me.
Actually thought about it,
It seems to be true,
Maybe because of reading,
Maybe because of student organizations,
Maybe because of work,
There is a phase that heats up friendships.
But when everything that overlaps fades,
Some people really get less connected,
Even disappear from your world.
Just thankfully,
The people I met later,
All have at least WeChat contacts,
Occasionally, I will click on the like to see the dynamics of the other party,
At least by chance.
before
I may really be like the students who asked the question.
Think about it,
Whether I am still important to someone or not.
A friend,
At some stage,
I don't need to.
until
Find that some people have moved away from you,
Not because you don't value him anymore.
It's each other's cognition, each other's circles,
It's already completely different.
One day,
I'm back in the fantasy journey to the west that I've been playing for more than a decade.
Is the game still fun,
It doesn't seem to be that strong anymore.
What do I miss?
It's a junior high school class that secretly talks about games,
It's a weekend when friends play together,
It was a group of people I didn't know in high school.
Encourage me to abandon the college entrance examination.
It's college that no one understands,
I immersed myself alone.
It was when I graduated that I got my first job.
I met the first co-workers who accepted me.
It's this,
It has already become some mark of life,
Special symbolism.
"Be a brother in your heart."
"Although there will be many people who play together at different times, when they really encounter big things, they still want to talk to you."
I've also suppressed it,
Troubled.
Just gradually let go of themselves,
Maybe I don't need to be in anyone's heart
Rank the first friend.
I just want to,
When you have something to do with each other and encounter some difficulties,
One who is still willing to open up to each other.
Time and experience can make everyone have a different vision,
It will also make everyone meet different people,
Everyone used to be a very important role for each other,
Maybe we don't want to occupy the first place at every stage,
I just want to be in the river where people grow,
Become one you will occasionally remember,
Feel that the other person can trust the character who can be communicated.
At last
Maybe you don't see this article at all.
Thanks again,
I've met you in my life.
Whether there has been a conflict, there has been a quarrel,
You have always been the ones who are important to me.
- End -
Once longed to grow up overnight and chase the stars and the moon
Only then did I feel that the gentle world was in the student time
Spend a long time with you in college
@Ghost Talent Junshi Brother