In fact, we just want to find a person who can talk, be temperamental, be comfortable together, be separated for a long time, miss it a little, be quiet for a long time, want to make a fuss, quarrel and immediately regret losing. Love is like this, friendship is the same. Regardless of the Cold War quarrel, there is no overnight vendetta, never give up on the person who really loves you because of freshness, so how can the love in the face of breakup be saved? When love is about to leave, it is useless to plead bitterly, how can we save love?
1. Accept the fact of breaking up
How to save love after the breakup, maybe there are differences between you because of some things, there are misunderstandings, some girls will lose their tempers when they are in a bad mood, and do all kinds of things until they break up. But after the breakup, I began to miss all kinds of sweetness when I was in love, remembered the boyfriend's kindness to himself, began to regret it, wanted to reunite with his boyfriend, so he started all kinds of entanglements and begged the other party to return to his side, but the other party did not buy your account, so he constantly alienated you, hated you, and even more seriously, he would block your various contact information, want to save love, what you have to do is accept the fact of breaking up, carry out a new life, find out the real reason for your breakup, and learn to start with each other from ordinary friends.
2. Understand each other's needs
Communication is a bridge for two people to communicate effectively, if the lack of good communication is very easy to cause emotional problems to continue to squeeze, resulting in the last party can not bear to completely break up and break up. But many girls, especially those who have been broken up, ignore a very important point: is it true that they understand each other's core needs? Is what the other party wants? It's like the other person wants to eat an apple, and you give the other person a whole cart of oranges, and the result of this in the long run is that people often hear, "You don't understand me at all, you don't understand me." "Effective communication is also a necessary part of the relationship between the two parties to constantly grind and adapt." Effective communication becomes even more important when the two sides have serious differences on certain issues. This can ease the tension between the two sides and avoid further intensification of contradictions.
3, make yourself more excellent
After the breakup, if you want to save your love, find out the real problem of your own, fundamentally change yourself, and also change the other party's cognition and attitude towards you, what you need to do is to change yourself from the inside out, change a style of style, make yourself look new, and believe that your ex-boyfriend will also shine when he sees you. Change your past life mode and life attitude, and re-establish your social circle and circle of friends. When the other person asks you to meet again, create a sense of distance to make him feel uncomfortable and make him curious about you. This stage is the most difficult period, but be sure to grasp the scale, do not show him very eagerly, create a sense of mystery, maintain a sense of distance, and is also a way to re-attract your ex-boyfriend.
How to save love after a breakup, you have two choices: continue to work hard to save it, or just accept the breakup. No matter how life is your own, you must be happy, as long as you are good enough, people who love you will flock to you.
Love and friendship are the same, when they first met, they are always used to presenting the best side to each other, after a long time together, various shortcomings are gradually exposed, the other party sees you thoroughly but still does not dislike you, that is, people who are really good to you, cherish those who are really good to you, do not let them gradually disappear from your life, whether it is love or friendship, do not run, will be like a strange road.