The "four changes" between men and women indicate that the relationship is abnormal

Friends are the purest and most beautiful relationships in interpersonal communication, and in this relationship, male and female friends are a special existence, because in addition to friendship between men and women, there is also love, not to mention that friendship and love between men and women can be transformed into each other, and the acquaintance of men and women to love and marriage is often a gradual transformation process from friendship to love, so the feelings between men and women are originally subtle, and the relationship is not easy to control, if the two sides do not pay attention to measure and scale.

Relationship is easy to change, and when the change, it is not easy to find, often in the quiet qualitative change, let people caught off guard, in fact, the relationship between men and women changes, not suddenly, there is a gradual process, in this process there are also some performance changes are obvious, as long as you pay attention to it is not difficult to find, then what signs appear between men and women, it shows that the relationship between the two is not normal, usually, there are "four changes" between men and women, indicating that the relationship is abnormal.

1, will become "inconsistent". Normal male and female friends exchanges, bright and honest, frank and generous, unfettered together, behave casually, naturally and realistically, just feel that the relationship between each other is better than ordinary people, mutual interaction feels good, get along more harmonious and pleasant, as the saying goes, the two sides are "talking together", "getting together", and in the whole process of communication, there are no distractions about each other, there are not too many thoughts and thoughts, it feels innocent, relaxed and simple, no matter when and where it is the same.

There is almost no difference and change, and the performance is the same and consistent. But once the relationship between male and female friends changes, it is not so, in public, each other may feel uncomfortable, uncomfortable, some restraint and twisting, at this time the two people interact, always feel that others seem to be intentionally staring at themselves, feel pay special attention to the words and deeds of both sides, think that others have a view of the two, in fact, this is an illusion and illusion, in fact, others may not care about you at all.

I don't think much about your relationship, but my own emotional changes are caused, I become sensitive, affected by this psychology, often in front of others, I will pay attention to the interaction performance of the two, and both sides will intentionally avoid suspicion, and even some pretend, false, and deliberately create a feeling that the two have no relationship. However, in private, as long as the two people communicate alone, they behave closely and closely, their words and deeds are casual, and their relationship is very good, far better than ordinary friends, which can be said to be different inside and outside, and they are "inconsistent in appearance".

2, will become "stomach and stomach". As ordinary male and female friends, get together and talk and laugh, participate in things together, be free together, is happy and harmonious, friendly together, once separated, no longer think more, no longer pay special attention to each other's current situation, not too much thought, although sometimes also pay attention to each other's dynamics, often just on the matter, will not worry too much about each other. However, if the relationship between male and female friends is abnormal, the situation changes greatly, and at this time, both parties act calmly and indifferently in public.

There is also a little indifference, and even deliberately alienate each other, artificially pulling away the distance between the two, creating a feeling that both sides do not care about each other, but once they leave, it is a different situation, as long as the other party is not by their side, full of thoughts about the other party, they will always remember each other in their hearts, remember each other, their minds are all in each other's place, there is a strong desire to see each other and the two people to get together, suffering from the pain of not being able to see each other all the time, there is always a sense of loneliness and loneliness.

For this reason, they will think of each other all the time, they will always worry about each other's everything, and this feeling is accompanied by each other all the time, like a shadow, it is a kind of all-round concern, in short, there is a feeling of unclear and unclear and cannot be put down, lingering, always hanging on to the stomach, thinking about twilight, is this feeling can not be eliminated, full of two people's hearts, feel very uncomfortable, involuntarily always want to greet or care, will continue to use communication tools to contact, interaction is more frequent.

3, will become "mood changeable". Ordinary male and female friends, no matter what happens and experiences together, are to let their respective emotions express in time, emotions released on the spot, after which they will not be entangled in it, deeply trapped in this, will soon be put down, the mentality can be calmed and adjusted, return to the natural state, will not think more, will not always put on the heart, it is difficult to let go, very little will be affected by this, let their emotions be disturbed and left and right, no matter what friends have experienced together.

Once separated, normalcy will quickly return. However, if the relationship between male and female friends is not normal, the situation is completely different, when they are together, everything that happens on both sides can be integrated into it, empathy, even if they are separated, it is difficult to put down, a person is always trapped in it, it is difficult to extricate himself, when he and the other party experiences a joyful experience, when they are alone, they are still unsatisfied, excited, they are overflowing with joy, they cannot hide it, if they hear what annoyances the other party has, they will also be sad and unhappy.

Feel uncomfortable, always worried and worried about each other, with a lyric to describe is "happy your joy, sad your sadness", even if nothing happens, it will be alone, because the thoughts will appear to be unguarded, trance, or restless, restless, restless, mood changeable, this is closely related to another person, the biggest change at this time is the mood is volatile, undulating, making people feel unpredictable.

4, become a "small belly chicken intestine". As ordinary male and female friends, they will treat each other equally and treat each other equally, and at the same time, because everyone is selfless in their hearts, they will not think wildly, nor will they be jealous or jealous of each other, they can understand each other, tolerate each other, do not care too much and do not ask and interfere with each other's life and communication. If this is not the case after the relationship between men and women is abnormal, the emotional focus of treating friends immediately changes, and excessive attention and emphasis on the people they love are obviously different from other friends.

It is typical of favoritism over the other, and at this time it is easiest to analyze and guess each other's words and deeds, judge the intentions and motivations of each other's every move, the most prominent change is to start to like to think blindly, prefer to guess and question each other, especially when the other party shows enthusiasm or closeness to another person, will feel particularly uncomfortable, extremely dissatisfied, disgusted with anyone other than themselves, once found that there is some anger and jealousy in the heart, that is, we all commonly known as "jealousy", the heart always thinks about how to obstruct.

Or always think about investigating the implementation, figuring out the degree of relationship between the two sides, not only that, at this time, you have subconsciously regarded the other party as your own person, you will always pay attention to and intervene in each other's life, including some trivial things will intervene, but also will ask too much questions and interfere with each other's behavior and communication, always uneasy about it, will think too much about it, but also like to be calculated, giving people the feeling that they are not generous at all, small belly chicken intestines, all this is not for normal ordinary friends.