Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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After separation, qualified exes will not appear in each other's lives. It is not a good thing for others to be themselves!
Everyone knows that the ex is an untouchable minefield in the current life, why does your other half still have "contact" with the ex?
And, when you stop it. Clearly feeling the rejection of the other half?
Before we talk about why our predecessors existed, let's consider this question:
Is there a truly pure friendship between men and women?
After you have thought about this first question, you will continue to think about the second question:
If, between men and women, is there an ex-relationship, can they still be friends?
No matter how many people argue and do not admit it, those who have experienced it will answer very affirmatively: there is no pure friendship between men and women! In particular, two people in an ex-relationship can't be friends!
The title of "friend" between men and women is nothing more than an "honorific title" for the relationship of "cognition". But this title never includes "predecessor".
Regardless of the identity of the man and woman who respect each other as "friends", if it is a true and pure friendship, then they must be established in a work-only partnership, or just a chance encounter to say hello!
In addition, private exchanges are very close to work and all kinds of care and small talk are frequent, so don't use the name of "friendship" anymore!
Mo said that others believed it or not, and the person himself did not believe in his heart except for verbal denial!
Some people think that as long as there is no physical contact between men and women, it is not a transgression! Actually, is this really the case? The truth is:
All transgressions begin with ambiguity, and all ambiguity begins with no physical contact. And all actual betrayals are derived from crossing the line.
Therefore, it is too far-fetched for the men and women in the ex-relationship to be "friends"! So, what is the psychology of people who are ambiguous with their ex?
People who obviously have another half, but still maintain an ambiguous relationship with their ex, are nothing more than the following two kinds of psychology:
The first kind of psychology: still in love
Some people, separated from their ex, are passive! Most likely, because of parents, because of other objective factors that reality is irresistible. Or maybe it's the ex who loves something else...
In short, I never wanted to give up! Even if you know that you have no chance to become a husband and wife in this life, don't let the years after separation dilute yourself in the heart of your ex.
Therefore, it is necessary to contact, to accompany in another identity and form.
Song Dacheng in "Longing" is such a psychology towards his predecessor Liu Huifang!
At the beginning, Liu Huifang empathized with other love, and after saying "I take you as a brother", she turned around and married Wang Husheng. Since then, the two people of the unmarried couple have really gotten along as "brothers and sisters".
In the process of getting along with the brothers and sisters in "Longing", Song Dacheng still regards Liu Huifang as the focus of his life even if he becomes a family. People say that Song Dacheng is a good person, but in the treatment of his predecessors and currents, he is really bad.
He knew that Liu Huifang did not love himself, but he could not get rid of Liu Huifang's "needs".
Therefore, he would rather bear the people of the world than fail Liu Huifang. If nothing else, he just wanted Liu Huifang to know that Song Dacheng was an indispensable person in her life.
Real-life "Song Dacheng" abounds!
Perhaps, this is the true expression of the typical "love but not can not"?
Two people who have been in a relationship between men and women, after separation, are only "Zhou Yu hitting the yellow cover", one is willing to be consumed, and the other is willing to give everything.
Even if life is messed up at the moment, I think it is worth it!
The second psychology: revenge
Between men and women in the world, there is never a good dispersion after a good gathering! How deeply you love at the beginning, how much hatred you will have caused by sadness when you are separated.
When you have fallen in love with a person, you run to the idea of whether you are poor, rich, healthy, sick or sick, carrying a person to the end of his life, which heaven is not beautiful, love to the halfway separation, how many people hate can not fulfill people's wishes regret?
You think that if you fall in love, even if you can't have a lover and eventually become a family, you can say goodbye in the most decent way. Unfortunately, between people, the most unpredictable thing is the "heart".
Lin Pinru in "The Temptation to Go Home" changed shanshan's identity to contact her ex-husband, although the ex-husband once fantasized that this was Pinru, and really fell in love with "Shanshan", but still could not escape Pinru's revenge!
Although it is a plot, some exs, why not use a different face to try to get revenge?
When love is a thing of the past, someone who is deeply hurt or still loves someone who doesn't want to let go, there are two extremes:
With the most crisp means, there is no need to hide and hide to carry out revenge and give yourself anger.
Use the most feminine means to maintain the most friendly relationship, so as to wait for the opportunity to retaliate, so that the ex is invincible!
Compared with the two extremes, the second is far more terrifying than the first!
Why would I persuade a lot of counselors not to keep in touch with their ex anyway?
Because you will not only mess up your current life, but also the unpredictable harm or obstacle to the rest of your life because of the presence of your ex.
No matter from which point of view, it should maintain the form of "old and dead" with the predecessor.
Then your significant other is in touch with your ex, either because of love or because one of them wants to gain psychological balance by some means.
In the real relationship between men and women, whether they have entered the marriage or not, I believe that many people are troubled by the existence of their other half's ex. It doesn't have to be that way!
If your significant other is in constant contact with your ex despite your feelings, it is best to advise you to stop the loss in time! Otherwise, you have to be prepared to endure such consumption for the rest of your life.
Whether your significant other is in love with or revenge on his ex, he is not a qualified partner for the rest of his life.
There is a saying:
Being intimate with an ex makes no difference like coming home!
The exs are still in contact, no matter what kind of psychology they are in, they must not cross the line! If you don't have enough pressure, don't waste too much time and energy on someone who is ambiguous with your ex!
Remember:
Anyone who has a constant relationship with an ex is not worthy of you because of the "irresponsibility" of the current feelings!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: Do you think people who still have connections with their ex are worth the rest of their lives? Leave what you are sorry to say to others in your heart and leave it in the comments section below!