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One
His friend Xiao Liao came to work in a big city and always decided not to marry. It is good not to get married, to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not to take care of the in-law relationship, to chase dramas after work, to meet male girlfriends on weekends, cousins in the same city, and a few good classmates, and they have a lot of fun.
When she first came to work in the city, she was often called home by her cousin to play with her little niece. Cousin is a workaholic, always on business, with the baby this matter she does not worry about throwing the burden to the mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law can not help the child kindergarten homework, the cousin is busy with work and the baby can not be completely out of the body. Xiao Liao lives not far away, and can be reached by bus in 40 minutes after work. Every time Xiao Liao visits her cousin's family for hospitality, her cousin is not in this home as if she is the hostess, she knows the position of every item in the family, what clothes the child has she remembers, how to match the clothes is arranged by her. She saves her monthly salary to buy clothes, toys, and books for her little niece. The dependence of the little niece's family on her makes her feel very happy, and there is no home feeling like this!
In addition, Xiao Liao also has a male girlfriend who has played from childhood to adulthood, that guy is diligent and self-motivated, but unfortunately failed to get into a good university after failing the college entrance examination, found an ordinary job with a low salary, because the family conditions are not good, people are not good at words, and the pursuit of girls is always a failure. Xiao Liao became his brain trust after learning about it, helping him successfully pursue a girl with low requirements and average appearance. On the day of his wedding, Xiao Liao took out his savings to help him make a bride price, and the wedding was also handed over to her to plan and advance funds, and the male girlfriend was grateful. On the night of the wedding, the male girlfriend set up a group, including him, his wife, and Xiao Liao, and he treated Xiao Liao as a family, hoping that his wife could accept her like he did.
Two
Newlywed Yan'er, the male girlfriend is not like many new people and the bride like glue, the bride every three to five moods, unreasonable, the in-laws turned upside down, the male girlfriend family is afraid of divorce as much as possible, it seems very humble. Xiao Liao did not want the male girlfriend's family to be wronged and said a few fair words, which ignited the bride's young lady's temper and forced her husband to break off relations with Xiao Liao. On the one hand, the wife is on the other hand, the confidant who has helped himself many times for many years, how to choose? The male girlfriend needs someone to give birth to him, and cherishes this hard-won marriage even more, so she made a vow in front of her wife and Xiao Liao as required, broke off relations with Xiao Liao, and deleted her WeChat.
The relationship that has been in business for many years was actually ruined by a woman, Xiao Liao was unbelievable, and at the same time, he was very sad that the male girlfriend was so thin. I comforted Xiao Liao that the male girlfriend already has his own home, he must be a person with a sense of family responsibility, and he cannot say that he will leave the marriage. His wife doesn't like you, so you avoid it. If he really considers you a friend, he will come back to you not long after. Sure enough, a few months later, the male girlfriend added her back with another WeChat, asked her to meet, apologized to her, and promised to repay the money in installments. The male girlfriend will ask her out later, but she can no longer be as anytime and anywhere as before, because the wife will find that the family will set off a storm again, and he does not want the couple's relationship to break up because of her.
As soon as he spoke, Xiao Liao listened with a chill. When you have your own home, you will treat people outside the family as outsiders, and when outsiders have conflicts with their families, they will protect their families first, regardless of right or wrong. Xiao Liao felt very depressed and depressed for a while, thinking that this big city and his cousin's family welcomed him, and he would not be disappointed.
Three
When I came to my cousin's house, my cousin was promoted and didn't have to travel as often as before. She has a high income and has momentum, and she commands people, her cousin nods her head, and her aunt only promises. Having her at home is like King's Landing, and everyone has to watch her face and live a life carefully. Xiao Liao was not accustomed to welcoming such a person who had no one and no quality in his eyes, and because of a small matter that confronted her tit-for-tat, his cousin issued an eviction order, ordering her never to step into the threshold of her home. If the cousin's family resists, they divorce. The cousin alone could not afford the heavy mortgage, car loan, and child support, so he had to say to Xiao Liao, "I will send you away." When my wife is at home, you must not come. ”
Once again, she was invited out of the house by trusted people. A home can have only one mistress, and a home can have only one woman to be favored. She is domineering, she is unreasonable, and as long as her husband allows, outsiders cannot control her. Xiao Liao gave so much kindness, but he was squeezed and disliked. The hostess did not want to listen to her reasoning, did not want to be grateful for the cultivation of morality, she could not control and influence. It is an unexplainable phenomenon, marriage fortunately gives a haven for emotionally unstable women, tolerant men give domineering women the confidence, single Xiao Liao failed to enjoy this right, always on the way to being expelled, witnessing people who care about her have to keep their distance from her because of their partner's temper.
Four
Xiao Liao also has a few good relationship classmates, after getting married and having children are busy, it is difficult to meet, gradually she has become a single person, whenever the lights of the city come at night, the lights of thousands of households are particularly dazzling, as if showing off the warmth and liveliness of the family, and as if she was laughing at her who had naively regarded friendship and family affection as the reason for daring to be single.
When I saw Xiao Liao again, she said that she agreed to the blind date and asked me to help introduce her, before she was so arrogant, now she shrugged her head and looked tired, and the warmth of human affection appeared deeply on her face. Everyone who compromises to reality and gives up being single, most of them have this experience, no matter how much you pay, others always treat you as an outsider, and at the critical moment they will abandon you and save their families. When you come to a big city, the enthusiasm of others is only superficial, it is polite, polite, even if it is a little sincere, they will not go to the soup for you.
A home built by oneself may be a person's spiritual harbor. Find a suitable person, the soul and the same, honor and disgrace, the same goal, do not forcibly insert into other people's families, leave dignity for themselves, leave space for others, and socialize with the dragonfly.
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