Regarding betrayal, the writer Wang Shuo once said: No matter how to find excuses, never repeat the good past, forgive everything. But when the two of them are in the same room, it will come to mind that this person has betrayed me, the person I care about the most, who has inserted a knife in my heart. ”
Fidelity is definitely the last bottom line of marriage, and it is a existence that must not be touched. Whether it is a man or a woman, no matter how deeply they love, as long as the other half betrays himself, whether mentally or physically, it is a fatal blow, and no generous person can forgive the other half for betraying himself.
As a human being, some things must be done, and some things must not be done. Interacting with people, you must have a sense of proportion, especially the opposite sex, be cautious, if you are not careful, you may harm yourself, hurt the hearts of people who love you, and even let yourself be ruined.
Zhou Guoping once said: "The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, interpersonal communication, to know how to abide by the necessary distance between people." ”
Some people may say that I did not betray him, I never had this thought, but he always doubted me, and when he saw which friend of the opposite sex I was close to and had more contact with, he was suspicious.
It is true that some people are too controlling and suspicious, but in many cases, the other half of you cannot be blamed for doubting you and not trusting you, but your behavior is inappropriate, lack of sense of proportion, and people have to doubt you.
"Auntie, please believe me once, I am really innocent with him, I didn't do anything, I didn't betray Fang Chen."
"I'm going to get married next month, but you spend 1 night with your boyfriend, wanting to be my daughter-in-law and dreaming." Lonely men and widows in the same room, stayed for one night, do you dare to tell me that you are innocent? Even if you are innocent, I will not tolerate a girl like you who does not know the point and does not love herself to be my daughter-in-law. ”
Listening to the answer of the mother-in-law, Cui Qin felt very broken, the mother-in-law refused to accept her, the boyfriend was angry, even her parents scolded her for not knowing the inspection point, to break off relations with her, Cui Qin's reputation was discredited, and there was nowhere to go.
01.
Originally, next month, Cui Qin was going to get married, and her boyfriend who had been talking to her for two years was about to step into the palace of marriage. The parents of both parties have agreed to the marriage, the man's family gave the bride price, and the Cui Qin family paid a part of the money and bought a marriage house for Cui Qin and her fiancé in the city together with the man's parents.
Now, nothing is gone, the dowry money has been returned by Cui Qin's parents one by one, as for the marriage room, the two sides are still continuing to discuss, planning to find a safe way to solve, anyway, the two people can not get married.
What happened that would make Fang Chen and his parents so angry that they had to break up the marriage with Cui Qin? This has to be said about something Cui Qin did some time ago.
"Not long ago, when I looked through the circle of friends, I found that my best friend was out of love, the mood was very low, and even had a bad tendency, I contacted him, he was drinking at home to pour sorrow, I am not worried about his accident? So he rushed over, went to comfort him, chatted with him, and talked for a night before calming his emotions. ”
The friend fell out of love, went to comfort him, accompanied him for a night, it sounded no problem, but Cui Qin's friend was not a girl, but a boy, and Cui Qin called a male girlfriend.
"In my opinion, it is no problem for the opposite sex to make friends, and there can be pure friendship between the opposite sex, and I am with him!" 」
02.
Cui Qin's male girlfriend, named Zhao Yu, was met by Cui Qin when she was in high school, and was also cui Qin's first tablemate in high school.
At that time, Cui Qin left her hometown and came to the county to study, because Mandarin was not standard enough, always with a rural tone, was ridiculed by many classmates, plus after entering a middle school, her results that have been among the best in the countryside are no longer an advantage, and the midterm exam is not good, which makes Cui Qin suffer.
At this time, the helpful Zhao Yu extended a helping hand to Cui Qin, encouraged Cui Qin, taught Cui Qin to do the topic, and the two people talked about everything and became a good friend.
Although in the first semester of high school, Zhao Yu is no longer Cui Qin's tablemate, but the two people are classmates after all, they can still learn and progress together, and the relationship is still very close.
After finishing high school, the two people came to the same city to go to college, and did not break off contact, but felt that they were very close to each other, and the friendship became stronger and stronger.
"But I don't feel for him, I don't feel for him, I really just treat him like my best friend, I hope our friendship can last a lifetime, he's my good buddy, that's all." 」
Cui Qin has a male girlfriend, boyfriend Fang Chen is aware, at his request, Cui Qin generously introduced Zhao Yu to Fang Chen.
However, what Cui Qin did not expect was that Fang Chen was full of hostility towards Zhao Yu from the moment he saw Zhao Yu, and repeatedly made requests to Cui Qin, hoping that Cui Qin and Zhao Yu would keep a distance, and they were too close to each other, making him feel uncomfortable.
Cui Qin thought that Fang Chen's possessiveness was at work and did not pay attention to it, but Fang Chen's attitude became more and more tough, and in desperation, Cui Qin had to agree to Fang Chen, call Zhao Yu in front of Fang Chen, and delete Zhao Yu's contact information, so that Fang Chen was satisfied.
In fact, she communicated with Zhao Yu in advance, and added Zhao Yu with the trumpet she used to play games that even Fang Chen did not know, and the two continued to keep in touch.
03.
That day, Fang Chen couldn't find Cui Qin, asked where Cui Qin was, and listened to Cui Qin say that he was comforting his lovelorn friend, and at first there was no abnormal reaction.
However, he was still suspicious and felt that something was wrong, perhaps the sixth sense factor, which made him think of Zhao Yu. Where Zhao Yu lived, Fang Chen also knew, so he specially came to wait near the neighborhood where Zhao Yu was located, and saw Cui Qin and Zhao Yu walking out with a smile, and instantly lost his mind.
"He pounced on it and was about to hit Zhao Yu, it was really a neurotic offender, and I couldn't stop it." We all explained, but he just didn't believe it. ”
Fang Chen not only did not believe in cui qin and Zhao Yu's innocence, but also told his parents about this matter, and then, with his parents, he went to Cui Qin's house and asked to retire.
I just comforted the male girlfriend who lost love, how did I get to the step of retiring from marriage? Cui Qin had not yet reacted, and the parents who heard their daughter's behavior could not bear it.
Cui Qin's mother was so angry that she sat on the sofa and cried, while crying, she scolded Cui Qin for being humiliated, so that she could no longer go out to see people, Cui Qin's father slapped her daughter fiercely, drove her out of the house, and threatened to never recognize this daughter again.
"Marriage can't be done, and my parents don't want me anymore, am I really doing something wrong?"
04.
Tor Hobbes once said, "Every time people violate reason, they are punished by reason." A life that loses its mind, like a wild horse that is out of control, is out of control no matter what. ”
Not knowing how to keep a distance from the opposite sex, clean yourself, and cherish your marriage is against reason. Gua Tian Li xia, really easy to arouse people's suspicions, cause gossip, harm each other.
Sometimes, it is not your other half who does not trust you and is suspicious of ghosts, but your behavior is really inappropriate, not enough to be disciplined, so that they dare not risk believing you. Who would dare to risk being betrayed and turn a blind eye to the excessive intimacy of their significant other's relationship with the opposite sex? Ask yourself, can you do it?
Whether it is a man or a woman, you must learn to deal with heterosexual relationships and take responsibility for your love and marriage, otherwise, it will be difficult for you to get true love.
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