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1. Keeping your distance from the opposite sex is responsible for your partner.
We all know that Zhou Yangqing and Luo Zhixiang have been together for many years and have been maintaining a good relationship, but just when everyone thought that the two people were going to get married, Zhou Yangqing suddenly announced that he broke up with Luo Zhixiang, because he cheated many times during the relationship, and even sometimes he even talked to many girls at the same time.
Zhou Yangqing also said that Luo Zhixiang and a female artist named "Butterfly Sister" under his umbrella are the closest. This news really shocked me, after all, Luo Zhixiang's people have been standing very well before, and the popularity of passers-by is also good.
Later, when Luo Zhixiang replied, he only said that "Butterfly Sister" was a very good friend of his own, and there was no improper relationship. But Zhou Yangqing, who has been a girlfriend for many years, can care so much about this girl, even if there is no further development, the two people will definitely exceed the distance of the so-called "friends".
Now this is indeed the case in society, many people are doing various ambiguous acts in the title of "male girlfriend" and "female girlfriend", and after being known by their other half, they also say that we are just good friends and are justified.
I was wondering, is this deformed relationship really normal? In love, maintaining a proper distance from the other opposite sex is the most responsible attitude to the partner.
2. The night before marriage, the girlfriend spends the night single night at the male girlfriend's house, boyfriend: the wedding is canceled, and you are single!
Recently, we received a message from a fan Xiaoyue, saying that her boyfriend was about to enter the marriage hall, and he was determined to break up.
Xiaoyue said that she and her boyfriend were introduced to each other, got along for more than a year, and their temperament and personality were more appropriate, so they recently opened the mode of talking about marriage, because the two people are not young, and the parents of both sides are quite satisfied with each other, so it has been particularly smooth when discussing marriage matters. The two men also received their marriage licenses before the wedding.
Until the night before the wedding, Xiaoyue's good friends rushed from other places to attend the wedding, and after arranging the new house at night, a few bored people threw around Xiaoyue's "single night" of running a bar, Xiaoyue felt that there was nothing to play, and did not want to let everyone be disappointed, so she went out with her friends without telling her boyfriend in advance.
That night, everyone had a lot of fun and drank a little too much. After the show, the drunken Xiaoyue was taken home by her best male girlfriend without knowing what was going on, and slept at the male girlfriend's house for one night.
The next day, when the boyfriend rushed to Xiaoyue's house with the team of kisses, he was told by Xiaoyue's parents that Xiaoyue had not returned all night, and the boyfriend was particularly anxious to call Xiaoyue's phone, but it turned out to be answered by the male girlfriend.
The male girlfriend told her boyfriend in detail about the situation last night, and asked her boyfriend to hurry to his home to pick up Xiaoyue, and the boyfriend was very angry after listening to it, and decided on the spot that the wedding was canceled, and he also broke off relations with Xiaoyue in the future.
After waking up drunk, Xiaoyue did not know what was happening, in the rebuke of her parents, Xiaoyue was particularly regretful, she quickly found her boyfriend and wanted to apologize to him, but her boyfriend and family avoided her.
Two days later, Xiaoyue received a message from her boyfriend asking Xiaoyue to return the dowry, and urged Xiaoyue to quickly go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce certificate. Xiaoyue feels that her boyfriend is particularly unreasonable, obviously nothing has happened between herself and her boyfriend, why should she be so angry?
The two people who met in the Civil Affairs Bureau had a big fight because of this matter, Xiaoyue felt particularly aggrieved, she just wanted to spend a "single night" before getting married, why did she go online? After listening to Xiaoyue's words, the boyfriend only said lightly: "Since you want to be single night, then I will pay you back to be single." ”
Xiaoyue was frightened by her boyfriend's resolute attitude, she cried and begged her boyfriend to give herself another chance, and said that she would never interact with this male girlfriend again and live with her boyfriend with peace of mind.
However, the boyfriend said that he was unwilling to continue the marriage, and decided that Xiaoyue was a girl with a chaotic private life, making him very insecure, and he would no longer believe Xiaoyue. Xiaoyue finally asked me in her submission, is it that you can't have friends of the opposite sex after marriage? Did he really do it wrong?
3. In love, the best way to give each other a sense of security is to always have a "sense of boundaries".
I believe that in every love, we need each other to give ourselves a sense of security, and the starting point of this sense of security should be to consciously make the other party feel at ease with the relationship, rather than relying on endless supervision.
On social networks, many people are posting messages about the insecurity of the other half, and in the face of such love, everyone feels tired, because they will worry about the other party leaving them at any time. So why are so many people insecure? Is it true that love itself is not secure?
I remember there was a passage in "Strange Story": "Marriage can't give you a sense of security, but people can." ”
In all intimate relationships, most of the security is related to distance, simply put, that is, the farther away you keep from the opposite sex for the sake of the other half, the more secure you give the other half.
Just like Xiaoyue's story, it is because she has never realized her mistakes, does not know how to stay away from those so-called "male girlfriends" in the case of having the other half, only to break her feelings, so that she has become the laughing stock of everyone, if Xiaoyue still does not understand these truths in future love, then I think the final result of each of her feelings will be the same end.
It can be seen that when you feel insecure in this love, you must know that what is wrong is not the love itself, but the person in front of you.
Because only if this person knows how to maintain a "sense of boundaries" with the opposite sex will give you a feeling of being valued and protected. Then you will not suffer from gains and losses, and become better people together in mutual encouragement and help.
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