I think modern people's weddings are getting more and more out of the original direction, and weddings are originally ceremonies that are meant to be closely bonded between two young people who love each other. The night of the cave flower candle, when the gold list is titled, is the two happiest moments in life. But the wedding night has become less anticipated, but the process of getting married is stressful.
There are many boys who only want to fall in love, dare not get married, and the conditions for marriage make people anxious, so there are many boys who are still single in their thirties. Marriage requires a house, a large bride price, and some boys know that their parents have no savings and can only struggle on their own.
But struggle is not easy, thirty years old can be mixed up with a personal sample is not bad, how many people at thirty years old are still struggling in their careers. Nowadays, men who marry in their thirties abound.
There was a tragedy on our side, the boy crossed the door in order to marry the girl, the matchmaker lied in the middle, saying that the boy's family is very rich, in fact, the boy's family has no savings except for a house and a small shop. The bride price and the car are both money borrowed by mortgaging the house.
After the girl got engaged, she found out this truth, and she repented, refused to marry the boy, and wanted to repent. The boy spent so much money, it was irretrievable, and now even his wife could not get it, and he was angry and corrupt, and finally made the girl pay the price of her life.
This is a real case that happened to me, and through this incident, we can see how many people have been harmed by the high dowry and the wedding customs that have become popular.
Xiaoyue is a woman who is deeply affected by the bride price, and it has been ten years before she finally dares to speak the truth to her parents: "Mom, the 200,000 bride price you want, let me carry ten years of foreign debt!" Do you know how hard life is? ”
Ten years ago, Xiaoyue married her husband, because Xiaoyue was her first love and a rare yellow flower girl, so her mother asked for the highest standard of 200,000 dowry money according to local customs.
The husband loved Xiaoyue very much, in order not to embarrass her, he had to grit his teeth, borrow money everywhere, and gather the two hundred thousand to give to her mother. Mom was very happy, the wedding was beautiful, Xiaoyue originally thought that her mother would return the 200,000 yuan to her.
Unexpectedly, my mother saved the money, said that in a few years my brother would get married, and this money was reserved for my brother to get married, so that I could marry a daughter and marry a daughter-in-law without earning or losing.
Xiaoyue and her husband had to work harder, cutting back on food and clothing to pay off the debt of 200,000 yuan. In the past ten years, they have to pay off their mortgages and repay the money borrowed by these relatives and friends, and the pressure on their husband and wife is very great. Xiaoyue has a job during the day, and at night she also goes out to work part-time as a tutor, and often comes home tired and paralyzed.
They have a daughter, although the daughter does not need money to go to school, but various training classes and cram classes cost a lot of money. In order not to let the children lose at the starting line, they gritted their teeth and squeezed out some of the children's education funds.
Xiaoyue never dreamed that it would be such a married life, shouldn't she live a happy and happy life after marriage, why would she live like this?
In the past ten years, she has never dared to complain to her parents. Because once you tell your parents, your parents will definitely have a deep sense of guilt, and how to get along in the future!
Now that she had finally paid off her debts and was debt-free, Xiaoyue finally had the opportunity to tell her mother all the grievances she had suffered over the years. After listening to it, my mother also shed tears of sadness, crying and saying, "I am useless in those two hundred thousand, and I have given your brother to marry a daughter-in-law!" "The mother and daughter hugged each other and cried, which could not blame anyone.
Emotional conclusion: Don't let the bride price ruin the happiness of your daughter, as a mother's married daughter, don't you want your daughter to live well? You want such a colorful gift, and the money will eventually have to be borne by the daughter and son-in-law.
I think that a good mother will not ask for too much dowry money, and even if she does take the dowry, she will compensate her daughter and son-in-law's family in another way. Use it to buy them a car, or to give them a down payment.
If you really take the son-in-law's high dowry money to your own squandered mother-in-law, you will not be respected by your son-in-law!
Topic: Do you think that as a parent of a woman, should she return the bride price to her daughter and son-in-law? Feel free to share your views!