Text: Xi Xihuan
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The prosperity of thousands of lights constitutes the warmth of this world, and each family has the trivialities and trivialities of each family, but there is also the compatibility of each family.
The old man said that whether a family's life will become more and more prosperous, it depends on whether the family's heart is together, whether it is all working hard, as long as the heart is united, even if the temporary days are bitter, one day it will get better.
Especially for women, home and marriage are often very important, because women are naturally emotionally delicate, and home will give them a sense of spiritual and emotional home.
But more and more women are beginning to be reluctant to enter the marriage, the Internet can also see many female netizens complaining about their marriage, not only failed to get the happiness they wanted, but were tortured by the unfortunate marriage to lose confidence in life, but also to the person who once plucked up the courage to marry extremely desperate.
Some men feel that as long as they give a woman enough money to meet her material needs, it is enough to prove that she has been given a happy marriage, but is it really a superior material life that a woman wants?
In fact, the prosperity of a family is often not related to money, but it depends on the man, and it is clear to see the state of the woman's husband at home.
Neighbor Gu Jie has been strong and competitive all her life, she wants to compete for the first place in everything, and she has a strong sense of enterprise at work, which also gives her greater confidence in performance, but Gu Jie is also the same in marriage and family life, no matter the big things and small feelings in the family, she has to say the final say.
After a long time, the husband was already a big grinning person, and since the wife was willing to go with her, he had no opinion.
But in Sister Gu's eyes, her husband's behavior has become a matter of leaving her hands alone, and she has no sense of responsibility for the family. Sometimes when you come home from work, you either lie on the couch and brush your phone, or you don't come home at all and go out drinking with your friends.
When the child was sick, Gu Jie took the child to the hospital in the middle of the night alone, and the phone call to her husband was never answered.
Slowly, the neighbors all said that Sister Gu's husband was blessed to marry such a capable wife, and the big things and small things in the family did not need him to touch his hands, but was arranged by Sister Gu in an orderly manner
On the surface, everything is fine in this family, but the most tired person is actually Gu Jie, not only tired, but also tired.
When the contribution of both husband and wife to the marriage in a family begins to be unbalanced, it will make the marriage become shaky, and the happiness index of the marriage will also decrease.
A husband's state at home is his sense of responsibility and responsibility for the family, if a man at home never cares about what happens in the family, and also ignores the needs of family members, then it will eventually break the other person's heart, so that the family will break down.
Friend Zhang Ying is the lucky one in everyone's eyes, with a mediocre appearance and a general job, but she has a good personality, is very easy-going, and has never had an argument with anyone.
Friends have been married, Zhang Ying married a particularly excellent man, at the wedding, everyone was happy for her, but she could not help but worry about her, so excellent men, can she control it?
However, after getting married, Zhang Ying's happiness was written on her face, and when asked about getting along with her husband, Zhang Ying said that men would accompany her as long as they were not busy at work, and as long as he was at home, he would never let her do housework or cook, all of which were packaged by men.
Later, Zhang Ying gave birth to a child, and was even more spoiled by men on the tip of her heart, and the bad emotions during pregnancy were tolerated and understood by men, and all the discomfort caused by pregnancy in life was taken care of by men very carefully.
After becoming a mother, Zhang Ying's figure was obviously blessed, and friends around her told her that women are very old after giving birth to children, and it is easy to be betrayed by their husbands, but Zhang Ying is full of security and happiness, because men have never let her suffer from loss and loss, nor have they given her a sense of uncertainty.
Zhang Ying received more praise and affirmation from her husband after giving birth, and her husband's love for her not only existed in words, but also in actions.
When men are at home, they will not do the hand-shaking treasurer, the baby is the most difficult to bring when crying at night, even if men need to work hard during the day, but they are never willing to wake up Zhang Ying at night, they are all alone to gently carry the child to the living room to coax, in order to let Zhang Ying sleep well.
There are many middle-aged women who feel that marriage has long been not the beautiful appearance they once expected, and the pillow person also has no initial expectations and fantasies for themselves, so the days are getting more and more complete, and people have become numb in their feelings.
Therefore, many women no longer expect their husbands to be at home, nor do they expect their husbands to be able to share the pressure and storm in the family for themselves.
In the final analysis, men still don't make women feel dependent and trusted, so they don't care whether men are at home or not, and this home has less temperature and happiness.
It is conceivable that even if such a family has more money, it will not prosper, and the members of a family need to often run into each other and communicate with each other, which is the process of deepening feelings.
You know, home is not a person can carry up, the need for the joint efforts of husband and wife, careful management, in order to make the life of this family more and more happy, more and more prosperous.
As the old saying goes, a family needs a clear division of labor between men and women, and although the male and female protagonists of most families have undergone great changes in today's society, it is undeniable that if the family life is getting more and more prosperous, two people need to assume the responsibility and pressure on their shoulders.
Marriage is not a partner to live a life, if you hold that mentality, you can only make life more and more boring, even if any material needs can be met, you can not get emotional satisfaction.
This will only make the distance between the husband and wife more and more distant, and the two people who should be together will become under the same roof and have no common topic, then the happiness in the marriage will be less and less.
It is said that a family needs to rely on the top pillar of the man, which is not an exaggeration, because in many things, the psychological endurance of men is indeed stronger than that of women, so when encountering problems, a family is the most test of the relationship between husband and wife.
If the man's state at home also shows how much he has carried for the family, the more he carries, the more solid the emotional foundation of the family, and the more prosperous the life is.
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