In today's life, there are no longer so strict requirements for the interaction between men and women.
Therefore, many people in life have their own girlfriends of the opposite sex. But after we decide to enter marriage, we should sort out our so-called heterosexual girlfriend relationship.
Don't ruin your marriage because of your so-called girlfriends of the opposite sex.
Although after the reform and opening up, people no longer have many restrictions on normal interaction between men and women.
But that doesn't mean we have to remove these limitations in our hearts.
We are not exclusive of normal interaction between men and women, and there are always some people who will leave spare tires around themselves in the name of male and female girlfriends.
This is undoubtedly unfair to one's other half. So if we find ourselves with such spare tire girlfriends around our significant other, what we should do is end the relationship in time.
Recently, Tian Zhipeng saw an unexpected scene at his wedding.
01
Girlfriend's male girlfriend
Tian Zhipeng and Xu Jiaxin are two college classmates, Xu Jiaxin in college when the suitors are very many, so Tian Zhipeng and Xu Jiaxin after being together, for Xu Jiaxin's requirements can also be said to be responsive. Because of Tian Zhipeng's compromise, the relationship between the two people has always been very good.
But although Tian Zhipeng is very good to Xu Jiaxin in his life because of his love for Xu Jiaxin, there are also places that he cannot accept. What makes Tian Zhipeng most difficult to accept is that Xu Jiaxin has a lot of male girlfriends around him.
Because Xu Jiaxin's appearance is very prominent, she is always surrounded by many suitors. And this also makes the girls around Xu Jiaxin particularly jealous of her. Therefore, Xu Jiaxin's friends are basically men, and Xu Jiaxin also has a lot of male girlfriends.
When Xu Jiaxin was single, her huge group of male girlfriends naturally did not say anything, but after she and Tian Zhipeng were together, Tian Zhipeng, as a man, naturally knew what kind of thoughts Xu Jiaxin's so-called male girlfriends had for her, so he also put forward a request with Xu Jiaxin to keep her distance from those so-called girlfriends.
After Xu Jiaxin was with Tian Zhipeng, she also sensed that Tian Zhipeng did not like his girlfriends, so for the sake of the feelings of the two people, Xu Jiaxin also began to keep a distance from them. But there is a person who is Xu Jiaxin's male girlfriend Zhao Kai from childhood to adulthood, so Xu Jiaxin and Zhao Kai did not keep their distance.
Xu Jiaxin's change also made Tian Zhipeng very happy, he knew that Zhao Kai and Xu Jiaxin had played from childhood to adulthood, so it was impossible for two people not to contact, so he also acquiesced to the connection between the two people.
02
Decided to get married
After the two graduated, Tian Zhipeng quickly found a good job, and the salary income was also very impressive. So under such circumstances, Tian Zhipeng and Xu Jiaxin also proposed marriage.
Xu Jiaxin was also very happy about Tian Zhipeng's marriage proposal, so she directly agreed to Tian Zhipeng's marriage proposal, and after agreeing to the marriage proposal, Xu Jiaxin also shared this good news with her boyfriend Zhao Kai for the first time. But originally Xu Jiaxin felt that Zhao Kai would definitely bless himself, but Zhao Kai became very weak after knowing the news that Xu Jiaxin was going to get married, and directly said to Xu Jiaxin that he was reluctant to marry her.
Xu Jiaxin also feels very sad about her male girlfriend's words, after all, in her mind, her male girlfriend has become the same existence as her own family, so after Zhao Kai said that she was reluctant to marry herself, Xu Jiaxin was also very moved, but she and Tian Zhipeng had feelings for so many years after all, so although the words of the male girlfriend made Xu Jiaxin very sad, it did not make her repent.
After the two decided to get married, they quickly went to see both parents and set a wedding date. Tian Zhipeng also attaches great importance to the wedding of two people, so he quickly prepared all the details of the wedding. Soon after the wedding was fully prepared, it was the day of the wedding of the two people.
03
Wedding cancellation
Xu Jiaxin and Zhao Kai can be said to be green plum bamboo horses, and the parents of the two families are also very familiar, so this time Xu Jiaxin's wedding Zhao Kai naturally became a person on the mother's side.
On the wedding day of Tian Zhipeng and Xu Jiaxin, when Tian Zhipeng had not yet arrived at Xu Jiaxin's home to greet him, Zhao Kai had already arrived at Xu Jiaxin's home, and he had been watching Xu Jiaxin dressed up as a beautiful bride. This also made his inner love for Xu Jiaxin more intense.
Zhao Kai began to like Xu Jiaxin very early, but he did not have the courage to confess, he was afraid that after the confession, the two people could not even be friends, so he chose to stay with Xu Jiaxin and become her best male girlfriend, but after knowing the news of Xu Jiaxin's marriage, he still felt very sad, so on the day of Xu Jiaxin's marriage, he also expressed his reluctance to Xu Jiaxin.
At the wedding ceremony of the two people, Tian Zhipeng saw Zhao Kai in a suit and leather shoes, which made him have a strong sense of uneasiness, and sure enough, when the mother's family took the stage to give a speech, Tian Zhipeng saw Zhao Kai appearing on the stage.
After Zhao Kai came to power, he first said to Tian Zhipeng that he hoped he could take good care of Xu Jiaxin, but after he turned to Xu Jiaxin, the two people looked at each other for a long time, and Zhao Kai choked up and did not say a word, and Xu Jiaxin immediately blushed. After watching Xu Jiaxin for a while, Zhao Kai said, "I don't want you to marry." After listening to Zhao Kai's words, Xu Jiaxin also directly hugged Zhao Kai and cried.
Looking at the scene in front of him where the two people were inseparable, Tian Zhipeng couldn't bear it any longer, and he directly took off the corsage on his chest and threw it on Zhao Kai and said, "You two knot." Then he left the wedding scene directly.
The guests at the scene were stunned by this sudden scene, and the wedding of the two people became a farce. After Tian Zhipeng left the wedding scene, the relationship between the two people also came to an end, and Xu Jiaxin also regretted it, but now it is irretrievable. After Xu Jiaxin and Tian Zhipeng completely ended, Zhao Kai also began to pursue Xu Jiaxin, but Xu Jiaxin only treated Zhao Kai as a good girlfriend, so he directly rejected Zhao Kai's pursuit. After this incident, the two people also gradually disconnected.
In life, it is inevitable that there will be some friends of the opposite sex around everyone, but when we get along with them, we must learn to grasp the sense of proportion. Especially after you already have a partner, you should learn to keep a good distance from your friends of the opposite sex.
In life, although everyone has the right to make friends freely.
But this does not mean that after you have another half, you can also unscrupulously maintain ambiguous relationships with some of the opposite sex.
Especially now, there are many people in life, they always like to use the guise of girlfriends, in life, with the opposite sex except for their other half, maintain some ambiguous relationships. Such an approach is undoubtedly very shameful. And this also makes the word girlfriend have other meanings in people's minds.
When deciding to enter into marriage, we must clarify our bottom line.
If your other half is in marriage, or before entering marriage, you have violated your own bottom line.
Then the end of time, the relationship between two people is the best choice. In life, in fact, there are very few people who can accept that their other half has too much contact with other friends of the opposite sex.
Making friends with the opposite sex in life is a personal freedom, so even if it is our own other half, we have no right to interfere with their freedom of friendship in life.
But even so, when making friends, we should have our own one-shot title in our hearts.
We can't let friendship affect our own love and marriage, and if the existence of friendship affects our own marriage, then we should also consider whether we should give up such friendship.