When many people hear about having a spare tire, their first reaction is definitely accusation, irony, and even avoidance. For those who have spare tires, they feel that they are very resourceful, and they feel that since they can have multiple choices and leave multiple back roads when doing other things, then it is natural to treat feelings and marriage.
But they did not understand that whether it is feelings or marriage, it should be a matter of two people, as long as there is the participation of a third party, whether they are voluntary or passive, the feelings will definitely be hurt, and it is difficult for two people to return to the original. This is the most wrong place to raise a spare tire, and it has nothing to do with whether the other half is worth relying on.
This is a truth with cheating, many people are unhappy in marriage, and the other half always has various shortcomings, but we still can't cheat, because this is the bottom line of marriage, and it is also the bottom line of feelings to be single-minded about each other in the relationship, and it is also the bottom line of feelings when they are single-minded and unacceptable. So don't always think about leaving yourself a way back, so that you can only make every relationship of your heart can not be wholehearted, but also let every relationship can not end with a good result.
01. The wife's fan of confidence and superiority
Liu Gang's wife Zhao Lei can be said to be a beautiful woman, but Liu Gang can also say that Zhao Lei has no other advantages besides being beautiful. The reason why Liu Gang was willing to marry Zhao Lei at the beginning was also because Liu Gang's own conditions were very good, and he did not have too many requirements for girls, which he liked.
But Liu Gang did not expect that even if Zhao Lei's other conditions were frequent, the confidence and superiority that a face could bring her was beyond ordinary people.
At the beginning, it was the early stage of marriage, because Zhao Lei's parents deliberately stressed that Zhao Lei could not always stay at home, which would make Zhao Lei more and more delicious and lazy. So Liu Gang used his relationship to find a job for Zhao Lei, but he could also exercise people, but Zhao Lei was very reluctant to do it for two days, and then directly lay at home and began to miss work.
"You also said that this job is good, I want to see it at all, my position is also a small leader, how low salary is not to say, there are so many people come to me every day to do those troublesome things, is this what you mean by idle?" Zhao Lei looked dissatisfied, completely ignored Liu Gang's persuasion, insisted on resigning, and said that he would let Liu Gang find her a job that could earn money at home.
Where in the world is there such a good thing? So Liu Gang could only agree with Zhao Lei's idea of wanting to be a housewife in desperation, but Liu Gang also knew Zhao Lei's personality, and Zhao Lei absolutely could not be a person who would do housework well, so Liu Gang was also very prescient to hire an hour's work for the family, but in this way, Zhao Lei had something to say.
"Since you have this money to invite people, why don't you directly hire a full-time nanny, you have to go to work so, do you understand that women are used for pets, I am responsible for beautiful flowers on the line." 」 Zhao Lei said it very reasonably, but Liu Gang was speechless.
"You mean you don't want to do anything, you just want to spend money to dress yourself up, right?"
"Can't you?" I tell you, a man really has the ability, that is, to make his own woman beautiful all the time, I am giving you a long face, you don't want to be in the blessing and not know the blessing. Liu Gang listened to such a crooked reasoning, but because his salary is not low, and he almost completes a project, there is a large bonus, so Liu Gang also acquiesced.
02. The mischievous wife
However, Liu Gang did not think of his connivance and acquiescence to Zhao Lei, but in Zhao Lei's eyes, it was a hint that he could fool around.
Because after Zhao Lei completely relied on Liu Gang to raise, nothing happened at the beginning, but Zhao Lei would often go out to play, and she could especially spend money and buy clothes. These Liu Gang also said Zhao Lei, but after all, he didn't mind so much, but I don't know when it started, Zhao Lei changed from simple shopping, eating to bungee drinking.
If Zhao Lei simply gathered with her little sister once or twice, Liu Gang could bear it. But it was because of this trip to pick up Zhao Lei that Liu Gang found that there was only one female girlfriend in Zhao Lei's so-called girlfriend group, and the remaining three were male girlfriends.
This makes Liu Gang intolerable, after all, Zhao Lei does not do anything, just wants to maintain beauty, then she can barely satisfy her own ability. But if Zhao Lei spends her own money, does not do anything serious, and is ambiguous with other men, Liu Gang will have some unacceptable.
So the next day after Zhao Lei woke up, Liu Gang directly told Zhao Lei about this matter, and thought that even if Zhao Lei was a little unhappy, he would reluctantly agree, but he did not think that Zhao Lei did not feel that he had done anything wrong.
"Who doesn't have one or two good friends of the opposite sex anymore, can you please stop being so rigid?" I just went out and drank a little wine, jumped a few times, how did it become an unforgivable sin in your place? Zhao Lei directly hit a rake, thinking that Liu Gang was too aggressive.
03. Let the wife recognize the reality
Zhao Lei's unrepentant appearance also made Liu Gang directly angry, and Liu Gang finally began to tell Zhao Lei the focus of the matter, "The focus is not whether you have friends of the opposite sex, but what kind of relationship you have with your friends of the opposite sex." When I went last night, you obviously had a girlfriend, but you were going to lie in the arms of your male girlfriend. You are already a woman with a family. ”
"What's wrong with having a family? Who knows if you're reliable? It's also good to find a few spare tires, in case you abandon me one day and give me nothing? Then don't I call the heavens ungodly, and the earth ungodly? Zhao Lei still did not feel that she was wrong, and even indirectly told Liu Gang that her ambiguity with her male girlfriend was intentional.
Liu Gang finally understood that he originally wanted to marry a wife who was beautiful and could make himself happy, but now he married a wife who had no sense of family and no family concept, so what was the need to continue such a marriage? Therefore, Liu Gang, mixed with anger and disappointment, simply filed for divorce from Zhao Lei.
And Zhao Lei may not have expected that the things she was worried about would come so soon, and she could not take care of the softness under the shyness, but instead put a harsh word to Liu Gang, "You have the ability to leave, I have three male girlfriends as spare tires, not afraid of your divorce." ”
Liu Gang didn't bother to take care of this, he just wanted to quickly part ways with Zhao Lei, and Zhao Lei was still as confident as before, and he didn't care about dividing up Liu Gang's property at all, so he divorced Liu Gang.
After the divorce, Liu Gang's life finally relaxed, and he also wanted to wait for a few years to find a suitable person to marry, but he did not expect that after only half a year of divorce, Liu Gang saw his ex-wife again, and it was Zhao Lei who took the initiative to find the door.
After careful inquiry, Liu Gang knew that the three male girlfriends of Zhao Lei were simply enjoying ambiguity, and as soon as Zhao Lei divorced, they directly told Zhao Lei that they would break off their friendship, for fear of being blackmailed by Zhao Lei.
And Zhao Lei is naturally full of regret now, after all, when she married Liu Gang, her life was really good, so this time it was to remarry, but how could Liu Gang remarry? After simply and neatly refusing, thinking of Zhao Lei being punched in the face by reality, she couldn't help but smile.
Now when it comes to falling in love, there are many people who like to have spare tires, because they don't feel that they can have a fixed future with the person in front of them, so they feel that it is better to find a few more people to be stable. But this kind of thinking is originally wrong, and this practice is also disrespectful to others, so this practice is impossible to accept whether it is in love or marriage.
Unfortunately, Zhao Lei can't figure this out, after marriage, she still wants to take three male girlfriends as spare tires, not only does not care about the family, but also always has a variety of crooked reasoning, want liu gang to unilaterally pay their own unilateral enjoyment, but unfortunately Liu Gang is not a wronged head, and can not accept Zhao Lei after marriage is still ambiguous with other men, so he chose divorce.
The funny thing is that Zhao Lei was quickly punched in the face after half a year of divorce, and wanted to return to the previous days, but unfortunately, where in the world is there such a good thing? Therefore, whether it is a man or a woman, we must understand that in the relationship, we should be loyal to our other half, and do not always think of leaving a way back for ourselves, so that it is not only disloyal to the current feelings, but also a kind of harm to others.