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People are afraid of being alone, especially after getting older. An old man, a crutch, standing there, is often a bleak landscape.
Therefore, many elderly people like to join in the fun, idle, just find some familiar people, gather together.
As the saying goes, "Three women in one play." ”
As a woman, find a few friends, twitter non-stop, time passes quickly, and you can still get the happiness of "hip hop ha".
Writer Muder said: "A person who cannot warm others on the spiritual level cannot touch the joy and happiness of being warmed." Even if there are countless people around such a person, he can only walk alone. ”
In fact, true friends are noble personalities and match each other. The happiness created by a group of rabble-rousers together is also temporary, and then it turns into pain.
As a woman, after the age of fifty, I would rather be alone than break off relations with the following "friends".
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First, in order to sell insurance, friends who often talk nonsense: affect emotions.
There is a kind of person, in order to get a commission, to relatives and friends, even coaxing and cheating. When the insurance policy is in hand, it will not care about the future. Such a friend is chilling.
Of course, we can't beat people to death with a stick and treat all insurance sellers as "enemies." It is just to say that we must pay attention to the color of the words and refuse to hurt.
In life, I often encounter such a person: "I will send you a message at every turn: If you do not protect your family in time, in case you are seriously ill in your life and there is a disaster in your family, you will regret it." ”
When you read such words, your heart is very uneasy, and if you believe in his words, it is easy to be led by his nose.
In many families, the economic power is in the hands of the hostess, so many people who sell insurance will desperately lobby the hostess. Moreover, they all grasped the weakness of women's "soft heart".
Understand that money is in your own pocket and is the most secure. After the age of fifty, it is necessary to prepare pension insurance, medical insurance, and other things should be handled with caution.
But any friend who desperately sells you insurance is very selfish, and it is best to break off relations.
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Second, friends who sell health care and skin care products: take the interests too seriously.
There are two sayings: "Everyone has the heart to love beauty." Women are born beautiful, but also need to dress up in three points. ”
Many older women, applying a little rouge powder, eating more supplements, nourishing the body, will appear younger.
The years urge people to grow old, and we all want to keep our youth. However, don't really spend too much money on "appearance". And don't over-dress up.
In life, many elderly people often go to participate in some free knowledge lectures. At first, I felt that I had taken advantage, but later I learned that I invisibly changed the concept of pension, took the initiative to buy some things that I couldn't even understand the name according to the requirements of the other party.
Therefore, when you meet friends who sell health care products and skin care products, you have to turn them away. He pulls you to an event, also refuses, and keeps your head clear at all times.
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Third, the "male girlfriend" in life: easy to misunderstand.
In the "Love Defense War" emotional program, there is such a story: the man Xiao Bi fell in love with a woman named Shangguan and spent six years with each other, but because of the appearance of "male girlfriends", the beauty of love was overturned.
Once, a woman and a girlfriend went to a restaurant to eat and met a cute boy Xiao Liang. His girlfriend has a good feeling for him, but she is hindered by face and does not dare to take the initiative to approach. Shangguan dai girlfriend, to get the contact information, but do not know, chat a few times, have a good feeling for each other, the other as a male girlfriend.
Tu Lei, a love mentor, said: "I don't believe that there is any pure friendship between men and women. Having a good male friend is understandable. If there is no distinction between primary and secondary, beyond the ordinary friendship, it is inevitable to be suspicious. ”
In marriage, there is no room for a grain of sand. The emergence of "male girlfriends" will definitely make the people around them feel very uncomfortable.
Think about it, a woman, at the age of fifty, still can't understand love, what is this IQ?
Teenage couples come and go. These few words are well known to everyone, but many people cannot analyze them in depth and will not create conditions for "love to old age".
The older you get, the more you must know how to cherish marriage. When you meet a male girlfriend, let it go generously, and never interact again, it doesn't hurt.
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Fourth, "twilight love" is a very frequent friend: the concept of love is not decent.
Fifty-year-old women, if you have a family and someone to love, will not feel that twilight love has anything to do with herself.
The reality is very cruel, many fifty-year-old women, because they have been single before, are more and more eager for love. Start a beautiful twilight love, although not as romantic as young people, but it is down-to-earth.
Choose an object, really don't be too careless. No matter how old you are, don't marry out hastily, let alone betray your family.
Those friends who randomly start and end twilight love, their view of love, is somewhat distorted. Either covet money, or be casual, or just tease others.
The older you get, the more you need to be serious, be an elder with a look, and establish a good family style.
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Fifth, friends who have no mouth: it is easy to cause quarrels.
Women love to nag, but they can't talk about it, and they have to pay attention to proportions.
The old ancestors told us: "No one behind people says, and no one behind people does not speak of people." ”
There are people behind people, and everyone has a mouth. People who can control their mouths are more self-disciplined and worth interacting with.
Really don't think that women are born with "long hair and short knowledge", and that anything they say will be forgiven. When you meet a friend who has no mouth, you will find that you have no secrets at all, and everywhere you go, there are people pointing behind your back.
People want faces, and they have secrets. To say more is to tear your face and cause trouble, so you must pay attention.
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Host Lu Yu said: "Even if you are a friend, you can't cross that line, otherwise you won't be enough friends." ”
The really reliable friend is very plain, but also knows the rules, is good at grasping the scale, and will restrain himself.
The older people are, the more they must learn to do subtraction, give up annoying friends, leave three or five confidants, the circle is smaller, and the fun is more.
Of course, refusing to interact with people, we cannot use intimidation, violence and other means, but speak euphemistically and warn pertinently.
In the second half of life, spend more time on caring for your family, whether it is the workplace or the love scene, it will come to an end and open a new model.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.