01
There is a folk saying: "People are not ruthless and unstable." ”
A person, if his heart is not fierce enough, believe that he is difficult to stand firm. Especially in today's complex and unpredictable world, sheep will not have good results, only beasts of prey can survive for a longer time.
In fact, the law of the jungle has always existed in our lives, the survival of the fittest, cruel screening, this is something that no one can do. The only thing we can do is to cultivate an indifferent heart and look at this cruel world with a cold eye.
If people are too enthusiastic, they will be regarded as weak and deceitful; if they are too soft-hearted, they will provoke the targeting and suppression of others; people who are too kind will become the backspan in the eyes of others.
In this regard, some people will especially wonder, human society, but not the animal world, why do we have to engage in the "weak meat and strong food" set?
It can only be said that human beings themselves are animals. As long as it is a creature, it must compete. It's just that some people have failed to compete and can only be depressed. And some people compete successfully and divide up resources.
People, if you want to laugh to the end, you have to "be fierce" to your heart. Especially middle-aged people, when they are old, they should not have the luck of children.
People over fifty, no matter how kind, we must also be "fierce" in these places, and don't be too soft-hearted.
02
People over fifty years old, they must be ruthless in the matter of "refusal".
Since ancient times, people have had a flaw - they do not know how to refuse.
Others ask you to do things, you don't want to do it yourself, but you don't know how to refuse. At this time, you will be pinched and will not dare to resist at all.
When someone asks you to borrow money, you don't want to lend it to him at all, but you get in the way of human feelings and eventually lend the money to the other party. In the end, it's just that you exchanged money for your enemies.
Why don't you understand "rejection" and cause so much trouble?
Because we care too much about other people's opinions, most of our minds are focused on other people's requests, and we haven't considered ourselves at all. Isn't this the sadness of being human?
Learning to "refuse" may seem impersonal, but in fact, it is beneficial to us without harm. Just think, even if you help others, others will read you well?
Don't be naïve, in today's day, it is good that others are not allowed to inch forward.
Therefore, it is the king's way to make a decision on the matter of "refusal".
03
When people are over fifty, they must be ruthless in the matter of "breaking off diplomatic relations."
When people reach middle age, there will only be fewer and fewer friends, not more and more.
The first is because we have seen through it and know that no matter how many friends there are, they are just passers-by, and they have no value. The second reason is that we feel that instead of focusing on unnecessary passers-by, we should focus on our families.
In your opinion, do you have the courage to "break off relations" with others?
More than 80% of people do not have the courage to break off relations. In their view, friends are the best in the world, and multiple friends and multiple paths are the truth, so why offend others?
Thinking like this actually hurts a lot of people. Imagine, for some relationship, if we should continue to break, then in the end we will not be disturbed?
Some people have a good relationship with us, then we can have more contact with us; some people have a general relationship with us, then we need to keep a certain distance from us; and some people have a particularly bad relationship with us, then the severance of relations is the best result.
Breaking off friendship is not a desperate love, it is precisely the beginning of "hello me or good", if you can't be a friend, then be a stranger.
04
People over fifty must be ruthless in the matter of "tolerance.".
Nowadays, whether online or offline, there is an "old good man" view - it is better to be a person or be tolerant.
Tolerance has always been regarded as a code of conduct for "kindness". Therefore, we would rather hurt ourselves than tolerate others, and no longer think about it, just like the old good people.
It can only be said that good old people can only be unlucky forever. Because your tolerance will only encourage the arrogance of some people and make others hurt you more brazenly, this is the stupid practice of "begging for food".
Don't think that your good can be exchanged for the sincerity of others, don't think that your tolerance can save a person, and don't think that your kindness can be rewarded.
You know, Thunder splits true filial piety, and fortune is fierce.
Some people don't have to be tolerant, so we have to keep it in mind for the rest of our lives. And some people don't deserve forgiveness, so we have to show a tough attitude. At the very least, don't let others think we're unprincipled, weak and deceitful.
05
People over fifty years old should be ruthless on the issue of "less nosy.".
There is a saying that "right and wrong are only for the sake of opening more, and all troubles are due to strong heads." ”
The right and wrong in this world are all provoked by our mouths. The troubles of this world are closely related to our behavior of being strong.
Whether it is too many mouths or strong heads, its essence is still "nosy" after all.
Seeing what problems others have encountered, we will wishfully help, afraid that others will not know that we are kind. What good results can such behavior have?
Seeing what misfortune others have encountered, they casually extend a helping hand and think that they can get the gratitude of others. This, it is easy to be targeted by white-eyed wolves, and there is no good fruit to eat.
When people reach middle age, there are some things that we should not take care of, so we should not take care of too much. Be cruel, indifferent, indifferent, take more care of yourself, and protect yourself. This is the right way.
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