Parents are gone, and siblings are the closest people.
Brothers and sisters get along harmoniously, and three "additional conditions" are needed.
01, brothers do not share the same wealth, but rely on themselves.
The best relationship between people is that there is no relationship.
Any relationship, only by maintaining proper distance and intimacy, will not hurt.
The same is true between brothers and sisters, far away from the incense and near the smell, too close, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions.
Some netizens complained on the Internet: In the past, the teaching books taught us to "melt the pear", but the reality is incomparably punching the face.
Of the three brothers, they married earlier than they did and borrowed a house to live outside.
The old father fell ill, he paid for it himself, and then because of the maintenance problem, they quarreled, and finally they took their father to the family to take care of it.
Now that the family's old house has been demolished, there are more than 100 million yuan of relocation funds, and it is clear that his and his daughter's accounts are also among them, but they have not received a penny.
So I still live in a 25 square meter house.
Finally, he sighed, sharp words, no family affection.
It is true that brothers and sisters interact, and some small things that raise their hands are not enough to worry about, but when it comes to the issue of interests, it is another matter.
As the old saying goes, people are not sages, and the word "profit" is in the heart.
Family affection and friendship are always fixed in the interface of mutual equalization of wealth, and if wealth is tilted, the essence of its inclusion will also change.
Siblings are a kind of network, but don't expect it all the time.
In this life, people must rely on themselves, sometimes do not take their brothers and sisters too seriously, and maintaining an appropriate distance is also the best protection for themselves.
02, be generous, think less, you will not feel suspicious.
Knowingly, someone asked: After the parents are gone, the brothers and sisters basically stop coming and going, is it true?
Gao Zan replied: The old man is uneven in the water, his parents are still alive, and his brothers and sisters may no longer come and go.
In fact, the relationship between brothers and sisters is mostly determined by parents. However, parents are also ordinary people and cannot be considered thoroughly.
Most parents only love their children based on their own subjective ideas, so not all children will be satisfied.
But if a person is not a sage, who can be blameless?
Even if the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat, there are also fat and thin.
For parents, it hurts to bite any of the ten fingers, but they may hurt the weakest one, because the weakest one should help.
At this time, we must learn to be tolerant, respect the "eccentricity" of our parents, and be grateful for our parents' nurturing.
People say that the ten fingers are not the same, but each has its own function. If you have to take it apart, then the palm is gone.
The same goes for siblings.
Brothers and sisters become enemies, neighbors next door to see jokes, cannibalism is not advisable, hand in hand to go forever.
Kiss or not, the family breaks the bones and tendons, the blood is thicker than the water are all born of a mother, each let a step of the sea and the sky.
03, in the face of conflict, we must learn to take the initiative to reconcile, but also accept the other party's apology.
Whether you admit it or not, blood relatives are connections that cannot be ignored. This affection will often beckon you to do something.
Between brothers and sisters, it is a blessing to be confused.
I have seen such a story: after the death of his parents, the eldest and the third became enemies, because of the problems of their parents' time and place in life.
At that time, the father promised a homestead to his daughter who took care of yujiasan, but the boss disagreed and felt unfair.
The eldest and third sister both thought that they were reasonable, but when the father was alive, he was hindered by the love of his parents and did not dare to blatantly make a fuss and be unhappy, but as soon as the father left, the two people immediately turned their faces and went to court.
In the end, it was the second brother who gathered the two people together and persuaded each other to resolve the contradiction.
The Bible says, "Love your enemies." ”
In fact, brothers and sisters are the dearest people in the world, brothers and sisters have a vendetta, only "love" can resolve.
As the saying goes, "Home and everything is good." ”
When people come to this world, it is the fate of cultivation to have brothers and sisters, and only by loving each other is the best way to treat each other well.