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"Old Ji Futuo, determined to be in a thousand miles." The martyrs are in their twilight years and their hearts are full of hearts."
This phrase, from Cao Cao, is often used to motivate the elderly. In addition, people's life expectancy is getting longer and longer, and they often emphasize "living to be old and learning to be old", and the elderly are not more monotonous and boring than young people.
One of the most emblematic is the blind date of the elderly.
We often say that the marriage market for young people today is too realistic, either talk about the garage problem as soon as they meet, or a few words to pick out the job, salary and family situation. So, what kind of scene is the elderly engaged in "twilight love"?
In fact, it is more cruel than the world of young people.
◆ Male elderly: I hope to find someone to take care of me, but don't try my money!
In a hard-core blind date show in the northeast, a certain uncle surnamed Zhang said that the criteria for choosing a mate were very concise: to find a younger one, you must be able to serve me, it is best to wait until I leave; I can't care about money, I don't want pure feelings to be stained with copper smell.
In the end, how did this uncle Zhang's spouse, who had almost no pension, find it?
Not only did no one pay attention to him, but a straight-talking aunt also gave him a headache to drink, "You are looking for someone to serve you, are you paralyzed?" ”
In fact, most elderly men look for their other half, more or less with some "find someone to take care of me" psychology, but they are not as dare to say as Uncle Zhang.
It is no wonder that our national conditions are like this.
The older generation has always pursued the idea of "male outside, female inside", usually the male of the family goes out to work, and the female is a housewife at home, with a baby, living the life of a husband and a godson.
After a long time, most men feel that life should be like this, and men are meant to be taken care of and served by women.
◆ Female elderly: I am looking for the other half, not to be a nanny to take care of people
The good thing is that not only are young women awake now, but older women are also waking up.
They look for the other half, and the conditions for meeting are more straightforward than those of young people.
"How much can I get in a month?"
"How much pocket money can you give me?"
"What's the body like?" Do you take medicine every month? ”
As more delicate women, of course, they also hope that the other party can give emotional comfort, but before that, the material foundation is also very important. Retirement, savings, and health are the necessary items to determine whether we can move forward together.
A big mother once decided to spend the second half of her life with her widowed second brother-in-law, who was nearly ten years older than herself. But when she heard the second brother-in-law's intermittent snoring, a kind of fear came to her: the second brother-in-law was much older than herself, and her children were out of town, if something happened, how would she explain?
One thought cuts off many possibilities.
And those elderly people who have successfully dated each other, if you look for common ground, all of them are these:
There is a certain economic foundation; there is no worries about good health; the children of both sides are filial and supportive.
It can be seen that the elderly are blind dated to a certain extent more "rolled" than the young people.
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