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As the saying goes: "Life and death have a destiny, and wealth is in heaven." ”
Human life expectancy is limited, but the vast majority of people are reluctant to mention the word "widow". After all, when people reach old age and have someone around them, life will be warmer, even if it is noisy and noisy, it is better than being alone.
Reality and ideals, there will inevitably be conflicts, whether you accept it or not, reality will always give people a hard blow.
When people are old, if they are widowed, how should they live the rest of their lives? Instead of panicking and coping, it is better to be mentally prepared, no matter which one comes first tomorrow or accident, you can be calm.
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First, "children and grandchildren are full of halls, it is better to be a halfway couple": for twilight love, we must follow the fate, do not blindly refuse.
There are always some young people who hear that their parents want to find a wife, and there is one more "stepmother and stepfather" in the family, which is very disgusting. On the one hand, it is afraid that the parents will give their property to "outsiders"; on the other hand, it is worried that the reputation is not good.
After all, the parents are not young, the ability to distinguish between social affairs is limited, in case they encounter a liar, they are really in trouble.
My neighbor Uncle Zhang, after the death of his wife, under the arrangement of his friends, participated in several blind dates and invited several guests. But three consecutive relationships failed in less than two months.
In order to prevent Uncle Zhang from finding his wife, his daughter controlled the pension and the son took the real estate certificate.
Last month, Uncle Zhang married Aunt Liu, who had been divorced for many years, and they were eight years apart. But it was a good talk. The important thing is that Aunt Liu also has a house and pension, and she is not bad at all. At this moment, Uncle Zhang's children breathed a sigh of relief.
A reliable twilight love can bring a lot of happiness and romantic time to the elderly. However, when looking for a partner, polish your eyes, don't be deceived, and don't be too anxious.
No matter how good the children are, they have to go to work, they have to make money, and they can't spend time with their parents every day. You can't live alone in an empty house every day.
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Second, "the golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as your own kennel": do not live with your children until you have to.
Some elderly people, afraid of being alone, immediately moved to their children's homes after being widowed.
Smart old people, not afraid of loneliness, as long as they can live their own lives, they can live a free life. If you can accept it psychologically, it is also a good choice to go to a better nursing home.
The old man lives in his own house, no matter how chaotic the home is, how small the room is, but it is all up to him.
Living with children for a long time, it is inevitable that they will be rejected. The living habits of the two generations are different, and the attitudes of children, daughters-in-law, and sons-in-law to the elderly are also different, and once the feelings are unbalanced, contradictions are inevitable.
The old man was always cautious in front of his children, and his appearance was really humble. Until the day when you can't move, don't live a life of "sending people under the fence".
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Third, "Amorous people are always ruthlessly hurt": if you are cruel to your relatives, friends, and children, you will be better off.
We always think that the most hurtful feeling is love.
In fact, for the elderly, love can not hurt themselves at will, after all, the pain that should be experienced has been experienced. On the contrary, it is those unclear family feelings, parents and children's feelings, which lead to their own very uncomfortable lives.
For example, the son was not angry enough to find a job, but because of his limited ability, he was dismissed and later lost his marriage. As a parent, how can you not be heartbroken? As soon as the parents were in a hurry, they pulled out the old bottom, hoping to help their son.
Everyone is an independent individual, not a relative, friend, or child around you.
For widowed elderly people, money is particularly important. Don't lose money because you care about your feelings. Otherwise you will be hurt more than anyone else.
Usually, less casual, less questioning about children's affairs, and breaking off relations with very ordinary friends.
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Fourth, "death is like the quiet beauty of autumn leaves": looking down on life and death, the mentality will be better, but it can prolong life.
"One Hundred Years of Solitude" writes: "Buy a permanent ticket and board a train that never ends." ”
Life is a "one-way ticket" and you have no way to go back in time. Time will surely slip away from you. Excessive worry is pointless.
A friend said: "Among the parents, if one person takes the first step, the remaining one will soon become old." ”
Some people, because of widowhood, have more grief in their hearts, more and more every day. For several years, I could not get out of the shadow of pain.
Take life, old age, illness and death as a norm, and accept it from the heart, then the mentality will be more calm, and the smile on the face will be more. Putting sunlight in your heart is a kind of health in itself.
Living health is not only responsible for oneself, but also makes children worry less. You must also understand that the "old wife" who has passed away must also hope that you will live happily.
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Fifth, "born like a summer flower": as long as you live, you must continue to forge ahead, and your blessings will increase.
One writer said, "The secret of a person's happy old age is nothing else, but a decent agreement with loneliness." ”
A lonely person, but also very decent, it seems to be a very difficult thing, in fact, you dare to fight with fate, it is not so difficult.
One breath remains, and the struggle continues. Your beauty is on the way to progress.
For example, if an old man insists on reading every day, he will not think about it and can make his spirit more full. Play chess with old friends every day, then life will not be cold, and everyone will take care of each other.
For example, an old man who insists on doing good deeds has never lacked sunshine in his life. The more times he was liked, the more his happiness increased exponentially.
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Man, a hundred years of transparency, a hundred years of loneliness.
What kind of age you reach, what kind of things you encounter, what kind of feelings you will have. Whether we can live better and better is to change our thinking and, on the basis of reality, innovate the old.
Here, I hope that the elderly can take care of themselves, grow old and strong, and live a passionate life; I hope that children can understand the lives of their parents and have a grateful heart; young people can accept the elderly and help the elderly.
Widowhood is not the end of life, but another beginning.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.