1
Today is the seventieth birthday of the mother-in-law.
I started busy early in the morning, stewing chicken, steaming fish, making longevity noodles, too busy to touch the ground.
Originally, I told my husband Li Qiang in the morning that he would go to the unit to take a look, and then take a leave of absence to come back and help me. But now it was more than ten o'clock, and I still didn't see his figure.
I was so anxious that I had to speed up, and after a while two big sisters came, and a large family waited for dinner, and I was embarrassed that I couldn't bring out the dish.
After a while, when the door slammed, Li Qiang returned, and I quickly beckoned him into the kitchen to help.
Less than two minutes after he entered the kitchen, the eldest sister and the second sister and the two families arrived, and Li Qiang hurriedly put down the dishes in his hand and said: "I'll go out to entertain you, you get it yourself, move fast." ”
In the living room, the two sisters, Li Qiang and her in-laws happily gathered together, laughing and joking.
I was choosing green vegetables in the kitchen, and the voice of the eldest sister came into the eardrums: "Dad, Mom, I bought a coat for one of you, a couple of Tang costumes, try it!" ”
The second sister did not show weakness: "Dad, Mom, I bought you a massager, this has a very good effect on waist, shoulder and leg pain, I tried, absolutely easy to use ..."
The mother-in-law was very satisfied: "Oh, tut, or a good girlfriend, when I was young, I didn't think, this age is older, you said that if you don't have a daughter, how desolate it should be in your old age." Downstairs your aunt Wang, alas..."
My heart is not very good, the girlfriend to buy a dress to buy a massager is filial piety, I gave you three thousand dollars is not enough to buy these things? Also, I serve you three meals a day, year after year, day after day, is it not filial piety?
It was almost twelve o'clock, and I made all the dishes and brought them to the table, and everyone toasted to my mother-in-law one after another.
I was busy getting them napkins, small pickles, chili oil, and I had just sat down before I could eat two mouthfuls of food, and the son of the eldest sister said, "Grandma, what kind of wine is this, how can it be so delicious?" ”
The mother-in-law smiled and piled up a big cosmos on her face: "The bulk liquor sold in the supermarket downstairs, I heard that it was brewed by myself," and then turned her head to look at me, "Wang Jing, you go to hit five pounds, let my grandson take it when he leaves." ”
Husband Li Qiang also echoed: "Yes, go quickly, so as not to wait for people to sell out." ”
When I came back from the drink, I looked at Li Qiang, as if he hadn't seen it, and drank happily with his two brothers-in-law. I kicked him hard again, and he reacted.
After brewing emotions for a while, he got up and raised his wine glass: "Dad, Mom, big sister and brother-in-law, second sister and second brother-in-law." Taking this opportunity today, I want to say something, I and Wang Jing, we, we want to buy a house, I hope you can support..."
At the dinner table, the noise suddenly disappeared without a trace, everyone was silent, and the atmosphere suddenly froze there.
2
I have been married to Li Qiang for thirteen years, and my son is already twelve years old, and he is going to junior high school this year.
I am a rural girl, who stayed in this city after graduating from college, and after meeting Li Qiang, she quickly fell in love.
Li Qiang's family did not agree to our marriage, and in their opinion, I was too ordinary to deserve him at all.
My family is out of town, not to mention, the appearance is average, the work income is average, the parents do not have a formal job, and there is no guarantee at all when they are old and sick. He also has a minor brother, which is too much of a family burden.
But Li Qiang had to marry me, so they had to give in.
When getting married, the in-laws did not buy a wedding house, and the bride price was only symbolically given. But at that time, I didn't care, as long as Li Qiang was good to me, these were all external things.
After the marriage, we lived in the three-bedroom hall of our in-laws.
As long as I'm at home, I'm cooking three meals a day at home, and I'm basically doing laundry and mopping the floor.
After giving birth to my son and taking maternity leave, I wanted to go to work. But my mother-in-law said that she had high blood pressure and often felt dizzy and could not bring me children.
I was suddenly in trouble, and the babysitter couldn't afford it. No way, Li Qiang persuaded me to resign and take the child at home. In addition, the in-laws are also older, their health is not very good, and they also need to be taken care of in the future.
In this way, I resigned my job and took care of the family's diet and living at home.
Not only that, but the two eldest sisters came to eat every three or five minutes, and they also came to stretch out their hands to open their mouths, all relying on me to wait. I lived my life as a nanny.
In the past ten years, I have not had any other skills, but I have practiced the skill of cooking and doing housework with one hand.
Fortunately, the financial burden is not very heavy, the in-laws have retirement wages, and every month the mother-in-law will give me living expenses. From the previous one thousand yuan to the current three thousand yuan.
Li Qiang's salary is used for other expenses of our family of three, and there is no mortgage, and life is easy.
Since last year, I have become more and more crisis-conscious, and some of my sisters of the same age have bought a second home. And I still live under the eaves of my in-laws, and my heart is not at ease.
So, I want to buy my own house.
Moreover, my sons are twelve years old, and they will soon go to junior high school, and then they will go to high school and college, and there are more and more places to spend money. If we don't buy it now, we'll be even more unable to afford it in the future.
To be honest, we are some deposits, but not enough for a down payment. I wanted Li Qiang to borrow some from his in-laws and two sisters. But he wanted face, and at first he said that he didn't agree with anything, and I said that he reluctantly agreed to try.
Whoever opened his mouth, the atmosphere fell into such an embarrassing situation. Everyone didn't squeak, and I was so embarrassed that my face was buried in the vegetable bowl.
3
Or the eldest brother-in-law broke the embarrassment: "Come, come, eat first." This matter is not urgent, and it will be discussed later. ”
After the meal, Li Qiang helped me put the pots and pans into the kitchen, and I took the opportunity to tell him that the matter of borrowing money let him continue to follow up, and the house price rose day by day, or it was necessary to start faster.
Before Li Qiang could reply, the second sister called him out in the living room.
I looked from the kitchen into the living room, two brothers-in-law and two nephews playing mahjong, and did not see the figure of in-laws and Li Qiang's brothers and sisters.
Looking at this situation, I understood that this was a meeting of the family again. Whenever there was something to discuss in the family, I would be excluded from them. Even though I have been waiting for them for more than ten years, in their eyes, I am always an outsider.
Taking advantage of the gap to go to the bathroom, I put my ear to my mother-in-law's door and listened.
The eldest sister's voice came out: "I knew it was her idea, old third, I don't want to lend you money." If you think about it, you earn money alone in the family, she eats idle meals all year round, and after the mortgage, the arrears have to be repaid by you, can you eat and consume? ”
The second sister's voice was harsh and mean: "I think the eldest sister is right, the third elder, it is not me who said you, you score clear outsiders, our sister and brother of a mother and brother, will also hurt you." Don't be stupid, she is thinking of squeezing you dry, you don't have to be stupid to be sold, and you are still counting money for her. ”
Mother-in-law's voice: "I think your two sisters are right, this house can't be bought." I have a few dollars in my hand, but I can't take them with me when I die, or the three of you. The old third daughter-in-law gave me three thousand yuan this morning, I can't spend it, your sisters will share it, the clothes and massagers you bought are very expensive, one person one thousand and five ..."
I couldn't hold back any longer, and all the blood rushed to the brain door, and slammed open the door, and the people in the room looked frightened.
I looked at my mother-in-law and said word by word: "Mom, I gave you money to honor you, you turned your head and divided it among your two daughters, have you thought about my feelings, have you ever regarded me as a family member?" ”
My mother-in-law glanced at me dismissively: "Your money, where did your money come from, or did I give it to you?" You don't earn money, what you eat and drink at home is not the money I spend, my own money, give it to whomever you want. ”
Before I could speak, the eldest sister roared in a strange voice: "That is, you are content." Meet your mother-in-law so well, you eat her and drink her house, and now you still worry about her pension money..."
The second sister also shouted at me: "If you don't marry my brother, can you live such a good life, my brother is tired enough to support the family alone, you still want him to buy a house, you want to exhaust him..."
I was so angry that my face was blue: "I want to buy a house, and I also want to ask you to borrow money, you can not borrow, but you can't despise me like this." I turned my head to look at my mother-in-law, "Mom, didn't I eat your drink and your house?" Well, from today onwards, from now on, I will not live in your room, and I will no longer eat a grain of rice from your house! ”
4
With that, I went back to my bedroom and started packing. Li Qiang followed up and tried to stop me, so I used all my strength to push him away and snatch the door away.
This incompetent and cowardly man, I've had enough with him.
I dragged my suitcase to my brother's house. My brother also stayed here after graduating from college. Last year, he took out his savings, and my parents sponsored another part of it, with a down payment on a house.
After the renovation this year, he and his girlfriend have moved in.
I told my brother what had just happened at home, and my brother smiled and said, "Sister, I won't let you open your mouth to them, you must not listen, I and my parents can sponsor you a part." A down payment on the house is not a problem, you really don't have to borrow it from them. ”
"It is necessary, I have been a nanny for their family for more than ten years, I just want them to have an attitude, an affirmation, but they make me too chilled."
My in-laws have always looked down on my mother-in-law's parents, believing that they have no formal job, but are just fruit sellers and have a humble status. But what they don't know is that in recent years, my parents have expanded their storefront, operating online and offline in both directions, and the turnover is several times that of before.
My brother's house, my parents out of a large part, even the decoration money is also from them.
My parents said, I bought a house, how much difference they make up. Therefore, this house I can't afford to buy, the so-called borrowing money is just an attitude from them.
5
I turned off my phone and stayed at my brother's house for a week. During this period, Li Qiang and my brother called, and they were all stuffed by my brother Tang.
But it is not a matter of hiding like this, I definitely want to buy a house, so some things have to be clear to Li Qiang.
I turned on my phone and told Li Qiang that I was at my brother's house.
Li Qiang came to pick me up, and he begged me to hurry back, saying that he and the child missed me.
I sneered, "Think of what I'm doing, so much better, anyway, I don't earn money, at home I also eat your drinks, so you can save a lot!" ”
Li Qiang's face became ugly: "Wang Jing, don't be angry." I admit that the attitude of the eldest sister and the second sister that day was not very good. But I thought about it, this house really can't be bought, one is the pressure, the other is that the market is unstable now, what if the price of the house is reduced? ”
I snorted coldly: "This is not the main problem, the main problem is that I bought a new house and left." Your family is short of a free nanny. Your eldest sister and second sister, your parents' lives will not be better, right? ”
Li Qiang's face changed drastically, and he was too embarrassed to speak.
A month ago, I mentioned to my mother-in-law that I wanted to buy a house, and she seemed very unhappy at the time, but she didn't say anything.
One day, I was lying in the bedroom with an uncomfortable stomach, my mother-in-law thought I was going to buy vegetables, and the words I said to Li Qiang came to my ears word for word: "Old Third, I discussed with your eldest sister and second sister, you can't listen to your daughter-in-law, this house is resolutely not bought." She is leaving, who cooks the family's food, who washes the clothes, she is a rural maid, marry into our family even if it is high incense..."
I was angry at the time, but after thinking about it, my mother-in-law is seventy years old, and it is normal to have this mentality, and people are afraid of being old and have nothing to rely on.
But they squeezed my labor without a bottom line, treated me as a free nanny for more than ten years, and felt that it was deserved, and I still felt wronged.
Therefore, I would like to take advantage of my mother-in-law's birthday to raise this question.
If the two eldest sisters and mother-in-law are willing to calm down and talk about this matter on the table openly, I will also properly arrange the in-laws' pension when I move away, or take them to move into the new house together.
In fact, I don't want much, just their understanding and affirmation, but the reality makes me disappointed.
They did not let me buy a house for only one purpose, afraid that after I moved away, the family would lose a nanny and disrupt their original living order.
6
I looked at a real estate and decisively paid the deposit.
I informed Li Qiang that if he agreed to buy a house, he would go through the formalities with me, and he did not have to worry about the money. If he doesn't agree, go with me for a divorce, half the property. The child will follow him if he wants it, and follow me if he doesn't want it.
Yes, I now have the courage and confidence to divorce.
I am a student of finance and accounting, and since last year, I have picked up my major again. Some time ago, my brother helped me find a job, start training in two days, and then I can go to work after passing.
Although the salary is not high, there is no problem in supporting me and my son.
Of course, Li Qiang did not agree to divorce, nor did he agree to buy a house: "We moved away, what should my parents do?" They are all in their seventies, their mother has high blood pressure, their father has diabetes, in case there is a three long and two short, regret is too late. ”
I gritted my teeth and forced myself to become cold: "I can't manage so much, I have been waiting for them for more than ten years, and I am also kind and righteous." Don't they still have two daughters, how filial the daughter-in-law is, accompany them to nag, and buy things for them, and the girls are more comfortable waiting for them than the daughter-in-law. ”
Li Qiang shrugged his head and was dumbfounded.
At my insistence, the house was finally bought.
It only took two months, the renovation was all over, and after buying a few pieces of furniture, I moved in with my son.
I told Li Qiang: If you don't move with you, you don't have to worry, just stay and take care of your parents.
My job is also on track, and the next step is to prepare for a senior title. Although I'm in my thirties, I don't want to give up on myself.
These more than ten years of full-time housewives have made me understand that the family is actually the same as the society, there is no income, no economic resources, no right to speak.
A week later, Li Qiang also moved in with him. I sneered in my heart, waiting for my own parents, and it was only a week of heat.
I heard that Li Qiang and his two sisters took turns to take care of their in-laws for ten days at a time, and it wasn't long before the three of them were all in a mess.
The three brothers and sisters have already done several games for this matter. However, none of this has much to do with me. People's sisters hurt their brothers the most, broken bones are still connected to tendons, I don't have to worry about it.
From now on, I just have to live my own life.