A question for everyone, have you ever received a text message that sent the wrong one?
I believe that some people will have experiences, but it is rare for couples to break up because of a text message.
This matter let Ms. Cheng meet, she and her boyfriend originally discussed getting married at the end of the year, but when buying a car, they encountered one thing, the boyfriend proposed to break up, and the feelings could not be reunited.
Originally, Ms. Cheng and her boyfriend had a good relationship, and the boyfriend worked in the field and promised to give her a car as a birthday present.
Ms. Cheng was very happy, taking advantage of the auto show to understand the car first, she did not understand very well, so she pulled up a male friend.
At the auto show, Ms. Cheng was received by a saleswoman, she clearly stated that she had the idea of buying a car, and took a fancy to a car, and also said that it was a gift from her boyfriend, and the female saleswoman was also happy for her, letting her leave contact information, saying that when the time came to find her, she could enjoy the discount.
After Ms. Cheng went back, she waited for her boyfriend to come back to pay the money, and one day she received a text message from the female saleswoman, which said: "Are you brain-sick?" ”
She felt confused, so she returned to a question mark, and the saleswoman quickly replied that she had sent the wrong message and apologized to her.
This incident made Ms. Cheng feel very unhappy, she felt that the female sales were too much, and she also lost trust in her.
After the boyfriend returned, she took her to buy a car, Ms. Cheng went to the 4S store, deliberately skipped the female salesman, and found another salesman, just when the female salesman was not there, she and her boyfriend successfully bought the car.
When she got home, she received a text message from the saleswoman.
"Beauty, you don't know this way is a bit unauthentic, the last car show you held hands with the man, do not know what role play, including this time what role play, I compared the photos, anyway is not the same person, I can not manage, but the last time you received you, you also held each other's hand and called boyfriend, are you playing a role?" 」
Coincidentally, when Ms. Cheng was stunned by the text message, the boyfriend came over, he also saw the text message, thought that the girlfriend cheated on his feelings, and proposed to break up.
The upcoming marriage is so yellow, Ms. Cheng is of course uncomfortable, she found a mediator, want a fair, let the saleswoman speak clearly.
The saleswoman explained on the phone: "I made a typo, I originally wanted to ask her if she was playing any role, and then said it a little directly, the meaning changed, I apologized, but as for what I saw at the auto show, I didn't want to say it, and it was misunderstood." ”
It can be seen that the words of the female saleswoman have reservations, and there are discrepancies with the information provided by Ms. Cheng.
First, Ms. Cheng pretended not to know her.
For the salesperson, there is a commission for selling a car, which is also her performance.
Of course, she will value every customer, Ms. Cheng looked for her for the first time, and also reached a verbal agreement, and when she bought a car, she was still looking for her, but Ms. Cheng lost her trust.
She explained that the saleswoman was not present, but the saleswoman said that she pretended not to know, and it was obvious that the saleswoman saw her on the side, but the two sides did not establish a cooperation.
As for Ms. Cheng saying that the other party sent her text message, there was no evidence, and neither of them mentioned it later, and the authenticity of this matter could not be judged.
From the perspective of interpersonal communication, Ms. Cheng skipped the other party to buy a car, it is indeed some inappropriate, but the other party does not look for you, nor is the female saleswoman send a message to disclose the reason for privacy, in this matter, the way the two handle it is half a pound.
Second, Ms. Cheng took two men to buy a car.
In the process of receiving customers, female salespeople took photos in order to facilitate the next communication.
This way is also enough to see her carefulness, a very meticulous person, it is unlikely to say unfounded things, she dares to say so, must be what she saw, perhaps Ms. Cheng's words and deeds made her misunderstood.
Although the way the woman sells is not right, Ms. Cheng can also avoid it completely, if she did not take other men to buy a car, there would be no such misunderstanding.
Speaking of which, some people may raise the bar: "What's wrong with how many male girlfriends a woman has?" ”
Suffice it to say that being human requires a sense of boundaries, and you think male girlfriends are normal, but not everyone can accept it.
Especially when your boyfriend can't agree, the innocent male girlfriend will become a stumbling block to feelings.
It seems that Ms. Cheng broke up because of a text message from the female saleswoman, in fact, the real reason is that the boyfriend can't accept that she has a male friend.
I remember watching a similar emotional mediation show.
The girl and her boyfriend reached the point of talking about marriage, because on a birthday, the two got into a fight to break up.
She and her boyfriend are free love, before this, the girl also has 2 male girlfriends, she and the male girlfriends are working in a unit, in her words, that is, how much private money can be revealed.
After falling in love, she did not break off contact with her male girlfriends, or she would go out to eat together or go out on weekends.
Once, when the girl had a birthday, her boyfriend chartered a KTV private room to hold a birthday party, and he also bought a cake and gifts.
The girl's colleagues and male girlfriends all came, and when they played, the girls and the male girlfriend sang together, talked and laughed, and did not take care of the boyfriend's feelings at all.
When cutting the cake, she chose the cake bought by the male girlfriend, took the cake sent by her boyfriend as a toy, and smeared it on everyone's face at will, seeing that she did not cherish her gifts, the boyfriend was very angry and proposed to break up.
The girl said: "You are also too stingy, I can not have a boyfriend, but can not go without a male girlfriend, our feelings are very pure." ”
In any case, the boyfriend can not accept her thinking, many netizens also leave a message, really can not accept a person without a sense of boundaries.
The sense of boundaries is the cultivation of a person's handling of things.
People with high emotional intelligence tend to have this boundary in place and will not affect their feelings because of a member of the opposite sex.
In psychology, everyone has some boundaries for the people and things around them, and physical contact and communication will affect a person's feelings, not that you say "it's okay", it will really be okay.
Especially in love, people have exclusivity.
If you really love someone, you will care about their feelings and will not easily get close to the opposite sex, even behind their backs.
Only from the heart of respect for the lover, in order to win the trust of the other party, so that your feelings can be well developed.
What do you think about that? Do you feel that there is pure friendship between the opposite sex? Welcome to leave a message to talk about your views~