A philosopher said: "There is no gratuitous grudge in the world, and behind every contradiction, there is a thought-provoking wake-up call." ”
People attach importance to feelings, especially family affection, which is a bond that everyone cannot let go.
On the Internet, I saw a pair of fathers and daughters arguing, the daughter and the father and brother did not hesitate to kneel down, express their emotions to each other, and the family members made a fuss to tear their faces, what was the purpose?
Onlookers who understood the situation shook their heads, believing that the old man treated his children differently and that the tragedy was self-inflicted.
01. Millions of assets are given to the son, and the mother is sick to find her daughter
Uncle Fu has 3 daughters and a son, the daughters are married, and the sons stay with him.
The old house demolition, got more than a million demolition money, parents did not hesitate to give all the money to the younger son, buy him a house and buy a car, the daughter asked herself if she could share a little, the father said: "Marry the daughter to splash water, how can the money be given to outsiders." ”
2 children no longer mention this matter, in fact, the daughter is not good, the younger daughter marriage is contradictory, her monthly salary is only more than 2,000, there is no money left, the child wants to buy a toy is difficult.
The eldest daughter's life is slightly better, but there is no dowry when she gets married, and her parents say that there is no money in the family, and it is good to raise you, which has always been a pain in her heart.
The younger son got a million property, went to contract a farm, ready to do a big job, but the ability is limited, the farm operation failed, the wife filed for divorce, and also took away the 300,000 yuan of the family, leaving him 2 children, so that the younger son's life is in trouble.
The mother found out that the cancer was advanced, needed money to treat the disease, the son could not get the money at all, he remembered that his father had mentioned that his parents still had 100,000 savings, and wanted to use this money to give money to his mother to see a doctor.
As a result, the money has long been withdrawn, the withdrawer is the second daughter, it turned out that when she divorced, she had deposited her salary to her parents' card, and later she withdrew the money, and the parents' 100,000 yuan was also returned to the father (there are staff as evidence), the father has already subsidized this money to the son, where there is still left.
Perhaps accustomed to the help of his parents, the younger son did not realize that his parents had spent all his savings and still insisted on letting the second sister take out this money, and the father also followed the younger son, believing that the daughter had the obligation to support her parents.
This is the opening scene, the father and son kneel on the ground, the second daughter also kneels on the opposite side, are swearing that they did not get 100,000 yuan, the result is that the younger son punched in the face, the money is indeed the father spent on him.
02. Everyone has an obligation to support, provided that the parents' money is taken out first
Seeing the results of the investigation, the younger son changed his opinion and no longer pursued the 100,000 yuan.
He said: "The same is to eat the mother's milk to grow up, supporting the parents is the obligation of every child, whether you get property or not, you must take money out to see your mother, medical expenses should be divided equally, filial piety does not pay conditions." ”
Looking at the face of this son, many netizens are not calm.
Some netizens said: "This ending is caused by parents, children are the flesh that fell from the body, but they must be treated differently according to gender, you have not divided the property for your daughter, why ask your daughter to take money?" ”
Some netizens also said: "The son does not understand things, but also by the parents spoiled, you took away the parents' million property, when the mother is sick, of course, there is an obligation to take money, you can give your wife 300,000, can not take out 300,000 to the mother to treat the disease?" ”
Some netizens said: "The idea of son preference, parents think that they have raised their daughters, do not ask for things from their daughters feel very bad, they think that their sons and grandchildren are their own families, daughters are outsiders, this result is also already doomed." ”
Yes, parents think that they have the right to be biased, but they do not think about their daughter's feelings, and the most feared thing is that when dividing up property, they treat their daughters as outsiders, and ask their daughters to divide equally when they undertake obligations.
In fact, the daughter is not unsupported, just like the two daughters of the Fu family, they are willing to go to the hospital to serve their mothers, and even in the future, they are willing to take care of their fathers, but the medical expenses cannot afford it.
If the son really has a heart, he can sell the house and the car, and take the money out to see his mother, but he is not willing to move his property, but cries miserably: "I still have 2 children to raise, and the business has been in debt, where to take the money." ”
If you are in financial difficulty, at least you must have an attitude, you don't want to give up your property, and you push your obligations outward, so don't blame others for being contemptuous.
03. There is no absolute fairness in the world, it is all done with the heart
There is a word in psychology called "cold-blooded psychosis."
Symptoms are apathy, selfishness, thinking according to one's own needs, never experiencing the feelings of others, not reflecting on problems, and only targeting others.
Such people are not uncommon in life, when they have interests, most of them rush to the front, when they see the crisis, they hide behind, can not bear the responsibility, and complain that the people around them are unfair to themselves.
The reason for this kind of thinking is inseparable from the doting of parents, especially in families with many children, parents are particularly fond of their sons, requiring daughters to take care of their younger brothers, and when the property is distributed, they are also given to their sons.
Long-term favoritism, so that the son has no fear, encounter problems will also be blamed to the sister, he is accustomed to the care of his parents, but does not have the ability to take care of parents.
When he has money, he can splurge, and when he encounters difficulties in life, he will habitually reach out, and when his parents are incompetent, he will turn his eyes to his sisters and think that the sisters have the obligation to help them get through the difficulties.
He may not have done anything bad, but the limitations of his thinking also made his life difficult to live well, and caused the resentment of his sisters, he still did not reflect at all, carrying the banner of filial piety to his parents, and he was bold to ask for his sisters.
When you meet such a person, it is difficult for you to reason with him, and to be reasonable is that you are not filial piety.
In fact, in the end, only the parents who taste the bitter fruit, the parents' eccentricity has cultivated the arrogance of the son, but also let the daughter feel cold, they are helpless, perhaps lying on the hospital bed, will realize the mistakes they have made.
Here, I also want to tell my parents that you can love your son, but you must also leave a way out for yourself, at least to leave a part of the pension money, and when you need it, you will not be too passive.
At the same time, I also hope that my son can understand that rights and obligations are relatively equal, you enjoy all the property of your parents, you must have the obligation to support, the elderly have the right to ask their daughters to take care of themselves, you, as a beneficiary of benefits, have no right to ask your sister to take medical expenses.
In this life, many people take the road narrower and narrower, all related to their own thinking, if you are less harsh, more understanding and love, may be another result.
What do you think about that? Do you think your daughter should give her mother medical expenses? Feel free to leave a message to share your views.