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Last year, the happiest thing for the second aunt's family was that her cousin had a boyfriend.
The cousin is the eldest leftover woman who is running three immediately, and the conditions are not bad, but only because of her introverted personality and poor social circle, she has delayed her marriage.
Last year, by chance, my cousin met love.
Her boyfriend is a year older than her, has a stable and decent job, and looks gentle and elegant. After acquaintance, he painstakingly pursued his cousin for a while, and his cousin saw his sincerity and agreed to associate.
The cousin has always acted steadily, and her treatment of love is also "no rabbit and no eagle", if she is not very sure of a person, she will not fall in love with others casually; similarly, if she identifies a person, then she will dig her heart and lungs to be good to others.
After the two established a relationship, the cousin gradually moved the truth, and almost all her thoughts and energy were put on her boyfriend.
Just because the boyfriend said casually, often eating out is not good for the body, since then the cousin has followed the Internet every day to learn to cook.
Even my mother couldn't look at it: "I let you learn to cook, and you didn't respond for several years, and you were like getting a holy will!" ”
Half a year before falling in love, the boyfriend was still very good to his cousin. But then it gradually became less good.
At Christmas, the cousin asked the boyfriend to send a gift, and the boyfriend not only did not send it, but accused the cousin of being too material! My cousin is very aggrieved, her family is well-off, and in the end, what she cares about is not a gift at all, but the heart of her boyfriend.
After the two fell in love for a year, according to the meaning of the cousin's family, the two are old and not small, if they really identify each other, then settle the marriage as soon as possible!
But the cousin's boyfriend never mentioned marriage to her, and then the cousin couldn't help it, knocking on the side and saying it a few times, but the boyfriend flashed his words every time, or looked left to talk about him.
Once, the two of them ate together, and the boyfriend went to the bathroom, and the mobile phone was on the table.
At this time, the mobile phone rang, the cousin picked up and looked at it, the boyfriend just came back, calmly told the cousin, the mobile phone is a very private thing, do not move casually. This embarrassed my cousin.
Another time, the two quarreled over a small matter, in fact, the cousin was really not to blame for that incident, but she still endured for the feelings of the two, and first closed her mouth; but the boyfriend did not forgive, and there was no sense of concession at all.
Later, because the family urged the marriage to be tight, the cousin finally couldn't help it, decided to talk to her boyfriend and wanted to know what he really thought. At first, the boyfriend always shirked and didn't have time, and then he said that there was a girl who was more suitable than his cousin.
The cousin was angry and accused him of being a scumbag, but the scumbag actually said that the reason why he hid his cousin was for the sake of his cousin's good, in order not to hurt his cousin!
The cousin was heartbroken and immediately deleted all the contact information of this person!
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I believe that many girls have met this type of scumbag, he has long been empathetic and not in love, but never explicitly, but with cold violence or other ways to deliberately drag you, waste your sincerity, consume your kindness, he waits for you to feel that it is not right, let you retreat.
This kind of torturous feeling is far less painful than saying it straight out! How can we avoid the harm of this scumbag?
Generally speaking, if he's been in a relationship for more than a year and he's still not willing to give you three things, it proves that he doesn't take your feelings to heart.
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The first thing: after being in love for more than a year, he never mentions your future plans; or about his future plans, there is never a shadow of you.
Guo Moruo once said: I am too late to participate in your past, and I will accompany you to the end of your future.
To love someone, love is definitely the present and the future.
Unrelated to men and women, if you really love a person, you will definitely can't help but fantasize about the common future of two people and paint a beautiful grand plan for future life.
Conversely, if he never mentions it, it proves that he never really loved you.
Just like my cousin's ex-boyfriend, when it comes to marriage, he pretends to be stupid and shifts the topic, this is a signal of not loving, he does not want to face the future of having you, so what is there to say about it!
In short, enjoying the good future with the person who loves each other is an instinct of the lover, a natural reaction. If not, it only means that he doesn't really love you.
The second thing: After a long relationship, he never gives you his phone password, or never lets you touch his phone.
Some people say that mobile phones are a person's privacy, no matter how much two people love each other, they should not look at each other's mobile phones.
To a certain extent, if the boyfriend always does not let you move his mobile phone, proving that the mobile phone must be hiding an ulterior secret, if the cleaner is self-purifying, what is there to hide?
Some people say that there are only two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.
Those mobile phones that are not allowed to be looked over must also hide the hearts of people who cannot be looked at directly.
In real life, how many beautiful relationships have finally failed to the mobile phone!
Luo Zhixiang and Zhou Yangqing have been in love for nine years, and in the eyes of outsiders, Luo Zhixiang is definitely going to marry her. But later, through Luo Zhixiang's mobile phone, Zhou Yangqing found out how unbearable he really was.
According to Zhou Yangqing, when the two were together, Luo Zhixiang often told her that the most important thing for the two to trust each other when they were together, if you look at each other's mobile phones, you will break this trust.
Therefore, all along, Zhou Yangqing has carefully maintained the trust between the two. However, it did not happen, trust is just a cover, trust has become a secret channel for scumbags to do whatever they want.
If a man's heart is all on you and there is no secret to you, then how can you be afraid of being looked at by the phone?
If you are afraid, there must be a reason to be afraid: he is guarding a secret that you cannot let you know!
The third thing: when arguing, he never gives you any concessions and tolerances, only argues on the basis of reason.
Some people say that when couples quarrel, the first person to bow their heads must love more.
Because I love Ta, I am willing to tolerate, willing to take the initiative to admit mistakes, reluctant to make Ta angry, reluctant to let feelings fall into the ice valley.
Similarly, because they don't love and don't care, they will focus on right and wrong, but they will never care about each other's feelings, never care about each other's emotional changes.
There is a saying that home is not a place of reason, but a place of love.
In the same way, love is not long-lasting by reason, but by love.
If a man always argues with you, then you don't need to argue too much, and leaving him may be the best choice!
In short, if the above three points of men can not give, then stop the loss in time!