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If you know Xiao Hong's emotional experience, or have seen the movie "Xiao Hong", you will definitely lament her bumpy emotional experience!
Xiao Hong is known as the "literary Roselle of the 1930s", and her literary achievements are obvious to all.
However, her emotional road has gone extremely hard, she is extremely eager for love, but she is always abandoned by men again and again, and when she is abandoned several times, she is pregnant with men's children!
She struggled with exhaustion and turmoil all her life, and died at the age of thirty, becoming a tragic song in the literary world!
What is even more tragic is that Xiao Hong's emotional tragedy is still staged in some women at the moment!
In life, some women are always emotionally abandoned by men, pitiful and pathetic!
As the saying goes, there must be something hateful about the poor.
Many times, you can't always complain about the creation of people and bad luck.
The reason why women are always abandoned may not be because they are unladylike in the next encounter, and the reasons for women themselves cannot be ignored.
Some people say that people who can't swim will choke on water in which pool they change. The fault is not in the pool, but in the fact that you can't swim.
Therefore, some women who are often abandoned are not because of the misfortune of meeting scumbags again and again, but because they have the problem of letting men abandon them.
These problems in them have long laid the groundwork for the fate of women being abandoned.
Women who are often "abandoned" tend to have three manifestations.
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The first: women who are often "abandoned" are accustomed to taking from men without hesitation.
It has been said that men are trees and women are vines. Women can only survive by climbing on men.
However, often in the end, the vine-like women are abandoned by the tree, and the tree grows taller and taller, the vine dies on the trunk.
Women like vines, most of whom cannot survive on their own, can only cling to men and count on the nutrients provided by men.
In their concept, "marry a man, dress and eat", a man is good with a woman, and he should naturally support a woman. Therefore, it is easy for them to take it for granted to men.
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" is a woman who lives "with her palms up", she has a face and a figure, but has no job, no income, and all counts on her husband Chen Junsheng.
In the end, Chen Junsheng abandoned her and married Ling Ling, a divorced woman who was not beautiful or young but had a job.
Men are also human beings, and like women, they are fleshly bodies, not made of iron, not made of steel; they will also be painful, they will be tired, they will be annoyed, they will also calculate, and they will not always be willing to be taken by a woman!
When one day, he is tired, bored, exhausted, and will not love, can only abandon women, find another way.
The second: women who are often "abandoned", excessively double standard.
There is a kind of woman who has become a "double standard" standard.
If the man of other people's family can't earn money, it's because the times are unlucky, sooner or later he can soar; and if her man can't earn money, he is born incompetent, nested, and simply unworthy of living in the world!
If a woman's own brother comes home late, it is because there is always a last resort; and if her man comes home late, he is out and about home, and this day cannot be lived!
The woman's father drinks every day, which is called relieving the muscles and activating the blood, and the health is good; and her man drinks, that is, bad habits, drunkard upper body!
In their minds, there are always two sets of theoretical standards, one for others and the other for their own men.
They can never see their own shortcomings, but they always like to be picky about men's faults everywhere!
Men are in their place, never to be understood, never to be understood, and women give them only sneers and sarcasm, sarcasm and ridicule.
Men's dignity is shattered by them, and face becomes a luxury.
Once had a friend, a woman who was born strong, and her husband was honest and honest, and she always pointed at her nose and scolded her every day.
The friend is a mother-in-law, always buying this and that for the family, and the husband occasionally buys something for his parents, and she will make a fuss, saying that the husband eats inside and outside, and spends all the money in the family on his parents.
If a man says the opposite of her, she will have a word: repay the grace of her parents!
Later, his husband filed for divorce because he couldn't stand her excessive "double standard".
The third: women who are often "abandoned" always like to complain.
A lot of women like to grumble and complain.
But everything is measured, and excessive complaining is not a good thing after all.
As the saying goes: complaining is the most useless thing in the world.
Lu Xun's Xianglin sister-in-law is a tragic figure.
In the early years, after she was widowed, she worked as a maid for others, and was snatched away by her mother-in-law to force her to become related to He Laoliu, and later He Laoliu fell ill and died, and her son was also eaten by wolves.
So she complained about her misfortune, and at first, some people sympathized with her, but then no one pitied her.
In the end, the complaint did not change her fate, and on a night of blessings, Xianglin sister-in-law died tragically in the snow and wind.
In life, many women have become a realistic version of "Xianglin Sister-in-law".
After they encounter things, they will only complain, complain about their misfortunes, complain about their men, complain about their children, complain about the sky, complain about the ground, and fill the home with negative energy.
Living with such a woman for a long time is undoubtedly painful and suffocating. Men don't want to flee as soon as possible!
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Women who are always abandoned by men often have the above three problems, so men should stay away as long as they encounter them.
Because of these problems in them, they may be difficult to overcome for life.
No matter which man they are with, they will not be able to live well, and they will eventually drag men into the abyss of their negative energy.
For women, if their emotional road has not been smooth, always abandoned by men, do not blindly complain about the world, may wish to calm down and rationally reflect on their own problems.
If you are only occasionally abandoned by men once or twice, it may be that men are not wise; but if you are always abandoned by men, then the problem is most likely in yourself, and you can't blame others.
Many times, the answer to feelings, the mystery of fate, is not in God,but hidden in the woman herself.
Learning to change yourself may be able to change the tragic fate and get out of the quagmire of feelings.
There is a saying that the most advanced emotional intelligence is to get yourself.
Instead of struggling with the pain of abandonment, pick yourself up and change yourself first!