This biography of Xiao Hong, a female writer in Northeast China, is the most comprehensive and personalized dissection and interrogation of Xiao Hong, a literary young woman, by a female scholar, and also the sharpest and most powerful anatomy and interrogation of women under one value to women under another value. From a female perspective and modern values, the author retells Xiao Hong's story in a popular and fluent language with a distinct personality, restoring Xiao Hong's turbulent and displaced, bumpy and short and tragic life. On the basis of the analysis and research of effective materials such as the memoirs of friends, from the perspective of anthropology and sociology, Xiao Hong's love tragedy and life tragedy are deeply explored, and it is believed that internal factors such as mind and values are the main factors causing her tragedy. In the analysis, the author also delved into the values of objectivity, rationality, neutrality, self-reliance, self-love, and self-esteem. Remind readers to abandon the irrational flood in Xiao Hong's research and writing, the tendency to "hide for the lover" and thus over-beautify, and face up to the human weaknesses of female writers. The author believes that learning to "embarrass" oneself can constitute a stepping stone for social and human progress.
About the Author
Duanmu Zhixiang, formerly known as Li Guizhi, the net name Sanmu. He is an associate professor at the School of History and Culture of Anyang Normal University and a part-time researcher at the Institute of History, College of Humanities, Tongji University. His major works include: "The Trap of Traditional Chinese Culture", "That Time We Were Beaten: A Panoramic Interpretation of the First Opium War between China and Britain", "This Time We Were Beaten Again: The Beginning and End of the Second Opium War between China and Britain", "History is not a Haha Mirror: Distinguishing Between True and False Yuan Shikai", "Dark Incense Attacking People: The Paradox and Obscurity of History", "Minor Surgery: Dissecting the Spiritual World of Lu Xun and Xu Guangping", etc.
Wonderful digest
What woman can withstand such profligacy and indulgence
If Xiao Hong's life is a tragic life, then her origin is not a tragedy, and her literary achievements are not a tragedy. Sadly, her short life of promiscuous love. Some people call it the tragedy of love, and summarize the causes of the tragedy:
The first is that people are unladylike.
The men Xiao Hong has experienced in her life include Li Jiewu, Wang Enjia, Lu Zheshun, Xiao Jun, Duanmu Hongliang, Luo Binji... These people are no longer unladylike, and they are far less unladylike than Xiao Hong herself!
Some people also summed up Xiao Hong's love three times, saying that her short life "suffered three love attacks, one was the Chinese language teacher 'Teacher Li' who was always chaotic and abandoned, the second was the rude and irritable Xiao Jun, and the third was Duanmu Hongliang, who was too self-pitying and stilted to his lover."
Let's just say these three, which of them is not your active acceptance and self-selection? And which one is not what you say to pick up, and throw it away?
The second is personality incompatibility.
The so-called personality discord, of course, mainly refers to the second Xiao. The question is, which man can match Xiao Hong's personality?
It is estimated that in addition to her grandfather, there is no second man under the sky who can match Xiao Hong. Marriage is a kind of contract, a kind of cooperation, and one is nature, and the other is Xiao Hong's willfulness that Xiao Hong has achieved under the doting of her grandfather, and she is not tolerant of the friction of worldly life at all. Not to mention Xiao Jun, even Duanmu and Xiao Hong were not compatible, and at the critical moment, he hid, causing Xiao Hong to put the harmful claw on Luo Binji's shoulder when he was dying. What "when I'm well, let's get over". Fortunately, it was not good, after a good time, can she and Xiao Luo's classmates live well?
The third is Xiao Hong's weak and dependent on men.
When did Xiao Hong have a weak personality? She has been going her own way since she was a child, and this is how she has come all the way. As for attachment to men, it is true. According to her path, if there is a woman who is willing to raise her, she dares to cling to the woman. She just has the courage to rebel and be independent, and she does not have the ability to stand on her own.
Human freedom lies in economic freedom and economic independence. Xiao Hong's early man, Li Jiewu had no money, poor student; Lu Zheshun had money, but once the family cut off the economic supply, he himself could not stand, only obediently went home; Wang Enjia was a rich second generation, and he did not dislike Xiao Hong, but Xiao Hong was an abandoned place for him to go back and forth, even if it was a mask cloth bag, you can't be so rash, let alone his fiancé. When living with these men, or electrocuting these men, are you really just a brain, driven entirely by the low instincts of living things?
In Zhang Xiaodong's letter to Xiao Hong, she believes that Xiao Hong is using men, she said:
My mother-in-law told me privately: Your appearance is average, and your homework is average. It seems that if you want to jump out of your Hulan River, you must find another way out.
This part of your history seems a little unclear, you ran away from home. It seems that you ran away with your cousin, but then you didn't know what was going on, and you lived in Beijing with the man who had been betrothed to you in your family. Your acquaintances in Harbin came to see you in Beijing and felt that you had an unspeakable melancholy and depression (Ding Yanzhao). I can't understand it here, since I am depressed and depressed, why should I run away from home? If you are against arranged marriages, why do you want to live with that man? Are you catching a man just to get him to help you jump out of your Hulan River?
You have a big belly and are abandoned by the men in front of you. Fortunately, I met Xiao Jun at this time, so you are like grasping a life-saving straw... Xiao Jun is righteous, but he does not cherish you, a woman who is thrown around by men. After you watched Xiao Jun empathize with others, you were angry, the story of history was repeated again, and you caught Duanmu Haoliang.
That's what you do, and you can always find something to rely on, and that's it from the beginning. When encountering difficulties, first make a look of a weak woman being wronged, and look for the strong to lean on. That fight caused public outrage and shrank back home, you did not go out to face it, but ran upstairs, relying on my father to help you solve it.
This kind of woman is the simplest thing to let men take advantage of, and they like to chat, talk, and even roll a foot in your life until your deathbed. Luo Bingji recalled that he spent 44 days with you in the chaos of the war, "composing a literary story that is innocent and sincere, and that the layman will never understand." On the sickbed in the sound of shells, you said to him, "We're going to die together!" "It's just wishful thinking. You use other people, and others use you, but no one really wants you. ......
Can't figure out, why can't you respect yourself? This makes men not respect you. They look down on you, and it's only natural that they look down on you as a "prostitute." You have such a high IQ, how come you don't get rid of men and stand up on your own? Is there a psychological or physical problem? You complain about the world, complain about your family origin, the day of birth of the taboo, the steel needle of your grandmother, the greed of your father, the indifference of your mother, the ruthlessness of men, the domineering of Xiao Jun, the fear of Duanmu Hongliang, and so on. You keep complaining, even complaining, "The greatest pain and misfortune in my life is because I am a woman." ”
Zhang Xiaodong really slapped several big slaps in a row, and he snapped!
Fourth, there are also people who paint the bullseye bigger, bigger to the sky, saying that Xiao Hong's tragedy is due to patriarchal society and feudal consciousness...
Obviously, the feminist consciousness is too arrogant, and the anti-feudalism has gone too far! In this way, I think we can start scolding from Qin Shi Huang. It was he who created the Chinese-style feudal society two thousand years ago, as for the sense of male power, you can also scold further, check, our Chinese patriarchal society originated before the 5000 or 6000 AD?
I don't know when Chinese developed such a national nature, that is, intellectual laziness and moral decline. Whenever something happens, it is nothing more than complaining about others, that is, not complaining about yourself. Every three forks in Xiao Hong's life path, which one is not her self-selected? Self-choice means self-responsibility. I am full of leprosy, but I scold others for being bald, where is the female liberation of this door under the heavens? It is better not to be liberated in this way, to listen to the arrangements of parents, to honestly teach their husbands and children at home, and it is also the mediocre happiness of women.
Some people will say that in that case, there will be a lack of a famous female writer in the Chinese literary world. It's also too utilitarian. Think about the Truman and his wife I said earlier, how many scholars in China, without the knowledge of an ordinary Woman in the United States, I really have to be ashamed of people! I would rather have one more mediocre woman with homely happiness in China and one less so-called famous female writer. Besides, anger out of the poet, suffering out of the writer, a lifetime of such inhuman days, and then do not write something out, is it worth it?
After Xiao Hong's death, Xiao Jun said: "As a six-year literary partner and comrade-in-arms, I miss her; as a talented, accomplished, and influential writer, unfortunately she died short-lived, I regret her; if measured by the meaning of 'wife', she left me, I have no 'regrets'!" ...... Maybe it's fair to say that she was a winner in her literary career! In terms of personal will to life, she is a weak, a loser, a tragedy! ”
Xiao Jun's meaning here is very clear: as a sexual partner, I miss her; as a writer, I regret her; but as a wife, fortunately, she left me...
The sex partner who has lived together for six years evaluates himself like this, sad?
In my opinion, the cause of Xiao Hong's tragedy does not need to be analyzed at all, it is very simple: mental immaturity, personality problems, and the body is a broken can. These three things, accounting for the same is enough for people to bear, not to mention that all three things are occupied! In the case of all three, Xiao Hong's life course has formed a fatal squandering: squandering willfulness, squandering youth, squandering health, squandering life, squandering men, squandering female resources... Lin Daiyuguang squandered carefully and carefully and teardrops died early, not to mention that you squandered so much! What woman can afford such profligacy?
Hao Qingjun said: "Objectively speaking, Xiao Hong lacks great wisdom and ability in love. As a special emotional relationship between the sexes, love is always rendered too mysterious and hazy, always exaggerating its irrational and fanatical side. In fact, love is only a contractual relationship between people, which requires both parties to abide by the 'rules of the game' in between, and it is more necessary to operate and maintain it with heart. More minds are needed to be constantly cultivated. Unfortunately, this aspect is not Xiao Hong's domain of expertise, or even her weakness. ”
Other than that, every time Xiao Hong chooses a man, in addition to choosing Xiao Jun is forced, which one does she choose is not a brainless move? For example, Lu Zheshun, such as Duanmu. In contrast, only the fiancé is still an ideal choice, but unfortunately she chose to escape marriage with someone. She abandoned the family twice in the middle, and as a result, the family abandoned her once, and she has not been evened!
In fact, mind and character are two sides of the same coin. When the mind matures, the character is intact. If the mind is not mature, there will be no intact character. Xiao Jun said that he and Xiao Hong both had the "tramp-like personality" of "ignoring the sky and the earth" and "defying everything and being proud of everything".
It really doesn't matter what the sky is. But you can't just break with your family, live with any man, you can't care about the world, you should care about the world in any way, and you can be considered a woman. In fact, we can find that this northeastern woman is absolutely opposite to two characteristics embedded in her: in terms of breaking with the family and social tradition, it is absolutely irrespective of heaven and earth; choosing a man and living with a man is also regardless of heaven and earth; but once it falls into daily life, the bad dish is broken, her female style is gone, and her feelings are delicate, and every man in her life is required as her grandfather.
Xiao Jun once complained that Xiao Hong was bitten by mosquitoes in Japan and had to lie to men. It is okay to be spoiled, but behind the child, what is shown is the ultimate cause of Xiao Hong's tragedy: the immaturity of the mind and the internal conflict of personality. On issues of principle, such as marriage, sex, men, reading and other major issues, she is thick and leafy, regardless of disregard, willful nature, in the middle of the night near the deep pool, blind people riding blind horses generally rushing around, but for the water temperature of the deep pool, the fur of the blind horse is soft and hard, she has the ultimate requirements. Isn't this the rhythm of self-inflicted death?
Xiao Hong broke up with Xiao Jun, but took Duanmu. A friend said: "When you left Xiao Jun, your friends did not object." But can't you live alone? Unexpectedly, Xiao Hong angrily asked, "Why should I live independently?" Because I'm a woman? I don't care what my friends think, I can't live the ideal way for my friends, I have my own way of life. ”
This Xiao Hong has the courage to be independent of the family, but she has never had the ambition to be independent of men. Just in response to the folk proverb in the countryside: "Eat a man, wear a man, and find a man without a man." "What kind of female liberation is this?" Of course, women's liberation is not that you don't want to find a man, please find a success that you can afford? Some people may say that people just want to find something they look down on. Then we have nothing to say, Linzhou has a dialect cloud: "The world is big, there is no wonder; people have their own aspirations, can not force; eat steamed bread and dip urine, personal favor!" "Therefore, it is already a personal good, and you complain to people again, saying that the bread you eat has the smell of urine, which is a pretense."
Hu Feng was surprised to hear that she was with Duanmu, who was not similar and still very despised, thinking that it was not strange that she was separated from Xiao Jun, and it was strange how to find Duanmu? For this reason, he criticized Xiao Hong in person: "As a woman, you have been mentally humiliated, and you have the right to do so, which is a manifestation of your strength." We are friends who are happy that you can get rid of mental pain. But why be so fast? Wouldn't it be better for you to calm down? ”
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