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What kind of woman is prone to betrayal by her husband?
From ancient times to the present, women in marriage have been defined as "devotees" in the role. At the same time, he was also required to be a good wife and mother who was filial to her mother-in-law, teach her children, and unconditionally support her husband.
It seems that only by obeying her husband's words, working hard for the family, and not arguing about everything and not making a fuss is the duty of a good wife. Only by relying on the blind sacrifice of women can family relations be more solid.
In real life, many traditional women often try to align themselves with the "good wife" after marrying a woman, and wholeheartedly give everything for the family.
However, life is not something you can reap the same rewards for a hundred points of effort.
Sometimes, when you exhaust all your strength and sincerity, you will only touch yourself in the end. The man who enjoys your unrepentant service to him to eat and drink Will still covet the scenery outside of marriage and commit acts of betrayal of marriage.
Women are indignant about this: Why? Why?
When a marriage is betrayed, everyone instinctively shifts the blame to the other. I always feel that I have done enough, why should he betray me?
But in fact, the occurrence of many extramarital feelings is inseparable from the "injured party" itself.
In real life, there are three kinds of women who are easy to "attract" the betrayal of their husbands, hoping not to have you.
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The first: "brainless" trust each other.
In feelings, the saddest thing is those who do not have the ability to think independently.
Couples trust each other and give each other a certain amount of freedom, which is a manifestation of respect for their partners. But blindly trusting men, the other party is very likely to use your trust as a weapon to hurt you and betray your marriage.
There is such a scene in the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home":
Ellie and Lin Pinru's husband, Hong Shixian, have extramarital feelings.
Ellie is tempted to tell her that her husband and another woman (actually Ellie) have started a new family outside.
Taste like unbelief.
She believes that her husband is rich, polite, and an honest man, so he is often taken advantage of, and the girls outside often cling to him. But he would never turn his back on her and do something sorry for himself.
Ellie asked her rhetorically, the void may not come to the wind, does Se-hyun often not go home or return late?
At this time, although Pin Ru was a little shaken, she still believed in her husband.
She said that men who do business will encounter such a situation. If you doubt your husband because of this little thing, how will you live?
The "third child" has been hinted at so obviously that he almost wrote things on his face, but Masamune is still obsessed and trusts his husband 100%.
Such a woman, should she be called naïve, or stupid?
Everything should have a degree, and so should trust.
Obviously there are traces to follow, but still choose to turn a blind eye, then you can't blame men for trampling on your trust and doing whatever you want outside of marriage.
The second: in daily life, do not establish their own bottom line.
Each of us living in this world, whether it is rare to be confused or confused, should establish a bottom line of our own to resist the invasion of life.
I don't break it easily, and I don't allow others to overstep it at will.
However, in real life, there are many women, I don't know whether they are born with a weak personality, or really love their husbands into the bone, in the marriage again and again to lower their bottom line, or even no lower limit.
The husband sneered and endured. Husbands are violent and tolerant. The husband betrayed the marriage, or endured.
The result of this is often to fuel their arrogance. Let Ben still have a little care of the man, become more unscrupulous.
There was once a female colleague who was unfortunately betrayed by her husband.
In other words, other women, when encountering such things, they inevitably have to have a good fight with their husbands, make him pay for his infidelity, so that he can have some memory.
But as for her, the phrase "just go home" will no longer be pursued.
The result of the husband's exposure of extramarital feelings was no more than this, and he betrayed her not long after. Although she felt uncomfortable in her heart, she still endured it. Always hope that the other party will one day understand her good intentions, the prodigal son turned back.
The result is betrayal after betrayal, and the marriage survives in name only.
I remember that Mr. Yang Dai once wrote in "What is a Good Marriage":
"Thinking about it carefully, I put up with this, and I put up with that, just to seek inner freedom and inner peace for myself."
A good marriage requires both parties to endure together, tolerate each other, and find a point to balance the marriage. But it is not blindly backing down, there is no bottom line.
The third: pay too quickly and easily for the other party.
Women in marriage often feel that as long as they are virtuous enough and dedicated to each other, they can tie up a man's heart and make him die to himself.
However, the rice is raised, and the rice is raised.
If you don't ask for a willing return, you may be grateful at first and feel that you have married a good daughter-in-law.
But over time, men will become accustomed to it, and while not knowing how to be grateful, they will become more and more picky.
Like every newly married couple.
Out of love for her husband, the wife gets up every day before dawn and prepares a love breakfast. Maybe at the beginning, your husband will praise you for your kindness and be reluctant to work hard.
But after a long time, he got used to it, and sometimes even complained: every day is these things, and he is tired of eating!
Then, he went outside to "steal food".
In marriage, loving each other and paying for each other is, of course, right.
But men are sometimes like this, and the more you give for him without complaint, the less he cherishes. The more lazy you are, the more likely he is to arrange things clearly and have no time to go out.
This is why in many families, if the wife is omnipotent, then the husband must be "incompetent". If the husband is omnipotent, the wife will have a better life.
However, no matter which side, it should pay their own love while reaping the other's efforts.
Otherwise, the long-term paying party will also be tired and tired, and it will be difficult to be happy in marriage.
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Marriage is a lifelong subject, and it is necessary to learn to manage it through continuous exploration.
If the marriage is unfortunately patronized by thieves, don't just take care of the thief. I also have to look back at my own master, whether I have closed the doors and windows.
Don't let yourself be that poor thankless woman.
No matter what kind of relationship you are in, be a woman with a bottom line and a temper of your own attitude. While giving all for the marriage, it is appropriate to consider a little "gain and loss" and let the man give back the same return.
You will find that a man's sense of responsibility is enhanced, and his sense of happiness will also increase.
Born to be human, first to please oneself, and then to please others.
At any time, only by making yourself happy, life will be pleasant to you.
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