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01. Preface
People will meet all kinds of people in this life, kindness to the right person is lucky, giving the wrong person will make themselves sad.
People, live, don't be too "soft-hearted".
As Wu Zhihong said, "It is not easy for adults to destroy anyone." When others perceive that you are a bad person, it is easy to get respect and easy to get good relationships. ＂
On the road of life, do not repeatedly compromise with others. Your kindness must be sharp, and losing your own principles and bottom lines will only allow others to hurt themselves.
It is often believed that blessed are those who have a good heart. However, after entering society, you will find that getting along with people too kindly is often not a good thing.
Because, people get along with each other, paying sincerity does not necessarily get the same return, too soft-hearted, but has become the root cause of their own harm.
People, if they live too "soft-hearted", they will ruin themselves, please don't live too "soft-hearted".
02, too "soft-hearted" people, live in the eyes of others
People who are too "soft-hearted" live in the eyes of others and care too much about other people's opinions.
In the TV series "Female Psychologist", Xiao Mo was always asked by colleagues to help in the company. Because he was too soft-hearted, even if he didn't want to do something, he could only agree to it.
He cares too much about his colleagues' opinions of him, afraid that his rejection once will affect the relationship between colleagues and make people hate. No matter what happens, it is also accustomed to putting the blame on themselves, which eventually creates such an image of "instigation".
People who are too soft-hearted will unconsciously think about others.
Getting along with people, always used to agree to the various requests of others, can not bear to reject others, thinking that this can harvest the sincerity of others.
People who are too soft-hearted are accustomed to looking at other people's eyes and acting, and pleasing others has become the focus of life. Over time, a "flattering personality" is formed.
A person with a "flattering personality", it seems that he does not mind anything, can accept everything, and is a "good sir" in the eyes of others. But, in fact, no one really cares about him and understands him.
In the long run, people who are too soft-hearted will live in a dead cycle of self-doubt and self-hatred. In the end, living is both anxious and painful.
03, people who live too "soft-hearted" cannot be themselves
People who live too "soft-hearted" are always compromising, lowering their principles and bottom lines, and unable to be themselves.
Liao Zhishen said: "The place where people are most likely to get lost is not the reckless jungle, but the noisy sea of people, who are often like a broken piece of paper, chasing a gust of wind." ”
In the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home", the heroine is an extremely soft woman in the early stages.
She works as a full-time housewife at home, taking care of her mother-in-law and taking care of the housework, while her husband, Hong Shixian, is with her good sisters.
Pin Ru discovered the misdeeds of the two for the first time, but because of his soft heart, he easily forgave the two and gave them the opportunity to continue to hurt themselves.
The second time he was caught by Pin Ru, Hong Shixian wept bitterly. In the face of this man who repeatedly hurt himself, Pinru did not take any action except crying.
Even in the face of constantly criticizing her and scolding her mother-in-law, Pinru also chooses to intercede, choose to forgive, and always treat them as a family.
She did not know that it was her blind kindness and too soft heart that eventually pushed herself to a dead end and almost died.
A person is too soft-hearted, lives without self, without a bottom line. Naturally, others will not care about you respecting you, and will not consider your situation.
In the adult world, don't think too simply of yourself. When necessary, you still have to take some edges and corners, and carry some spikes to protect yourself.
04, live too "soft heart", easy to be used
Michelangelo said, "Doing good to a good man makes him better; doing good to a good man makes him worse." ”
People who are too soft-hearted are people with good hearts, but if they are too kind, they will be used by people with hearts. They take advantage of your soft heart and do self-serving things again and again, but they push you into a desperate situation.
Living too "soft-hearted", without bottom lines and principles, it is easy to be hurt and used by others.
To live too "softly" is to give others the opportunity to hurt themselves. Over time, it will only make people feel taken for granted, so as to "reasonably" bully you, and all the grievances can only be swallowed in their stomachs.
The kindness of a person must be given to someone who deserves it. Only when the other party understands your goodness, will cherish your efforts, your tolerance, and will give you enough goodwill in the future.
If you do not know how to distinguish between black and white, and blindly indulge people with hearts, you are likely to be used by others, causing irreparable harm.
People live, don't be too soft-hearted.
In life, if you can't protect yourself and love yourself, others won't cherish you well, won't hurt you, and take care of your feelings.
05. Summary
On the road of life, please remember: people, too "soft-hearted", will ruin themselves, please do not live too "soft-hearted".
Those who are too "soft-hearted" are unblessed.
In this world, not everyone is willing to exchange sincerity for sincerity. Good and evil are relative, and your excessive kindness to others is cruelty to yourself.
Soft-hearted, but also need to have a degree, for people to set up principles and bottom line for themselves.
People get along with each other, not all are harmonious appearances, people who exhaust their energy to please, and eventually give others the opportunity to hurt you, and at the same time become one of the people who hurt themselves the most.
People, don't be too "soft-hearted", in the face of a sinister society, let yourself look bad, the road of life will be much easier.
In this life, learning to be "hard-hearted" is more important than choosing to compromise.
In the days to come, don't live too softly. Sincerity is expensive, don't waste it on people who don't deserve it. In the days to come, cherish the people who love themselves and stay away from those who consume themselves.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.