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I have heard such a saying: "The head is born again, and the second is ripe." ”
Falling in love is a gradual process, from strange to familiar, from familiar to loving and getting married.
But some people, who are very positive at the beginning and turn their feelings into "feeling cards", have no intention of living with anyone for a lifetime. It is often a scene of drama and deception of feelings.
As a woman, you must learn some skills to recognize people and refuse to be deceived.
The host Lu Yu wrote in the book: "The question of finding a newbed or a veteran in love is a problem of idleness. Whether it is a blank piece of paper or an old river, it may be a passer-by in your life, or a love in this life, or a scum that hurts you. ”
Generally speaking, when encountering a veteran of the love scene, women will be furious, immediately expose his true face, refuse to associate with him, and warn all sisters not to be deceived.
Smart women, who know how to wait and see how it changes, deal with it in the following four ways, whether it is fate or robbery, will take the initiative in their own hands.
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First, keep your distance and stick to a lukewarm attitude.
In the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home", Hong Shixian has been circling between Pin Ru and Ellie, while saying that he loves his wife and betrays his family.
When he chose to marry Pinru, Ellie's relationship with him never stopped. After his scandal with Ellie is exposed, Pinru is devastated and falls into the sea.
Why, in the beginning, Pinru could not see Hong Shixian's face clearly?
In fact, at the beginning, it was Hong Shixian who made a set - looking for an opportunity to make Pin Ru drunk, and then saying some vows.
The routine is very simple, but the woman in love can't see through it, because she prefers to "love with her ears".
In the play, Hong Shixian said to Ellie: "If I choose you today because of love, then one day I will also abandon you because of love, love is the most unreliable thing." ”
Deeply.
Many women, thinking that they are married to love, do not know that romance is just an illusion, and the trap is real.
Dealing with a very romantic man, you just keep a lukewarm attitude and make him unable to get close to you. The person who loves you will continue to pursue you, and the person who does not love you will leave with interest, and he knows soberly that the routine has not worked.
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Second, take the initiative to talk about money and test his loyalty to love.
Tu Lei said: "In terms of men, who loves the heart, who the money loves." Don't give money, don't really. ”
Veterans of the love field must understand that it costs money to pursue women. Not to mention the house and car, at least the money for eating, supper, and entertainment is always spent.
Spend a little money, he will not be distressed, and he will enjoy it. Especially for the rich playboys, even if they spend a thousand dollars a day, they won't blink.
If you want to see through a man's plan, you have to find a way to talk to him about money, borrow money, and spend money. Afterwards, observe his attitude.
When you take the initiative to talk about money, he will think hard. People who are hypocritical will reject you directly; people who are sincere will discuss with you and find ways to make up money.
Measuring a person in terms of money may seem vulgar, but unwilling to tear open this "fig leaf", women may be deceived.
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Third, throw out the troubles and ask "reliable people" to help analyze them.
As the old saying goes, "Three stinky cobblers, one Zhuge Liang." ”
When a woman is confused, she should ask for help from those around her. Things that are in love are not easy to say to the family, and it can be said to girlfriends. Or, in the name of a stranger, you turn to an emotion analyst for help. After interactive communication, things will become more and more clear, in case the other party's analysis is wrong, you block him.
There was a female netizen who asked Lu Yu for help through email. She said that she met a veteran of the love scene, cheated on her emotionally and experienced, and could not see any traces at all, foolishly pandering to her.
Lu Yu made a trick, first fell in love and then said, instead of arming himself with various theories and analyses, and then going to find someone. Between reason and "hun", each of us has to take sides.
Obviously, in love with people, don't doubt each other at the beginning, but love bravely, and then stay rational and good at making judgments.
Every relationship is unique and has a personality. However, there are many places of commonality, and with the help of the wisdom of others, it is seen through.
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Fourth, delay time and let him reveal his true "purpose".
As the saying goes, "The fox's tail cannot be hidden." "Time makes you slowly get older, and at the same time, it also eliminates all the things that cover up shame."
People who really love you, there is no guarantee that they will wait for you for a lifetime, but they will definitely wait a long time.
Love field veterans, most of them will not wait for you, as soon as he turns around, he can fall in love with other people and quickly forget you. If he is willing to wait, let him wait, how the ending will be, the day will be clear.
In the movie "A Dog's Mission", the male protagonist Ethan is depressed because of a leg injury, stubbornly believing that he has no way to give his girlfriend a happy life and drive her away.
Later, Ethan never fell in love again, guarding that pure feeling, and slowly getting old.
A lot of love can be romantic to the limit, but there is no way to cross the torrent of time. Only those who are willing to accompany you to the end, hard days, good days, can persist.
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Tu Lei said: "Men are just a little trick." To deceive a ten-year-old girl, to use sugar, to deceive a twenty-year-old girl, to use flowers, to deceive a thirty-year-old, then you can only use your heart. ”
Women, no matter how much you love someone and how good a man you meet, stay sane.
Not your dish, don't stretch your chopsticks and avoid emotional entanglement.
Being old is not a reason for you to casually find someone and marry yourself off; being young is not a reason for you to find someone and explore the doorway of love.
Generally speaking, love field veterans have these obvious characteristics: quickly occupy the protagonist position and make you obedient; know how to do what they like, so that you can immediately rely on him; take the initiative to intervene in your life, and feel your personality, family, work and other situations clearly.
Women, to carry out the understanding of the pretense of confusion, the other party's careful thinking, pondered thoroughly, but do not say it, but use some small tricks to uncover the fog.
If it is fate, cherish it, it is robbery, just turn around and leave, don't drag mud with water.
May the women of the world choose a city to grow old and meet a person with a white head.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.