If a person wants to be successful, he may need excellent emotional intelligence, superior emotional intelligence, etc., which are very important.
But a very important factor in reality is that "spring is sown, and autumn can be harvested." It is extremely unrealistic to want to eat a big fat person in one breath.
Zeng Guofan said:
"Don't ask about the harvest, but ask about the cultivation."
Being a person, the most afraid of impetuousness, doing things, the most afraid of quick success.
Therefore, if a person is in a state of mind that does not insist on paying, he wants to harvest early, which is tantamount to picking up seedlings and growing, and the gains are not worth the losses.
In the long grind of life, what you need to do is to try to persevere and wait quietly.
1: Do things patiently
The more we reach a certain age, the more we will have such a profound realization: the most reliable ability of a person is to be able to carry things.
Reliable character, in order to gain the recognition and like of others;
Reliable ability, in order to get the gifts and rewards of life;
Only a reliable personality can bloom wonderfully in life.
Many times, we obviously work hard and work hard, but why haven't we succeeded?
In fact, the reason is not that our choices are wrong, our direction is wrong, and our efforts are wrong.
At the end of the day, we didn't make it to the end.
Romain Rolland said:
"The most terrible enemy is the lack of strong faith."
If a person does not have a strong belief, in fact, no matter what kind of career he chooses to do in life, he is impatient and impetuous.
Because they are easy to encounter problems, the psychological pressure is particularly large, and the most important thing to think about is to give up, rather than insist.
Imagine, if a person does not have the patience to work all day, nor does he have the mood to do things patiently, where does his success come from?
Moreover, some people may really make great efforts in the short term, and really persist for a long time, but once they can't bear it one day, they can't bear it, and then they give up.
In fact, it is easy for such people to feel sorry, because all their previous efforts can obviously achieve a better ending, but everything is in vain.
Be patient, focus, resist temptation, forget anxiety.
Not impatient, in order to do things seriously, patiently, and insist on doing things, gradually see the dawn of hope.
2: Insist on doing things
Pasteur said:
"Tell me the mystery that made me reach my goal, my only strength is my perseverance"
The reason why success is not easy to come by is that it is difficult to persevere and easy to give up.
The meaning of insisting on doing a good thing is like insisting on cultivating a habit, the longer the time is stretched, the greater the value of the return.
In fact, there are always many ordinary people in life, and the reason why they are old or ordinary people is not that they are enjoying such an identity, but that they have never wanted to change such an identity in the past.
Sometimes, they even joke that they want to do this, but there is no way.
In fact, in their own position, is it really impossible to achieve a class leap?
It is not so, but to change such a status quo, the process is really confusing and painful.
As a result, many people swear every night before going to bed how to change themselves tomorrow, and how to return to their old business the next day, without any change in attitude, so that even after decades, life is still the same, they are still the same.
Even some people will become discouraged because of a momentary blow and dilemma, so they choose to get by, give up on themselves, and even have no interest in anything, and they have no fighting spirit.
Throughout the ages, how many benevolent people, even in the face of various life changes and setbacks, as well as climbing up, continuing to do things, and even more fanatical and passionate to create their own wonderful lives.
In ancient times, Sima Qian suffered the pain of palace punishment, but still adhered to his faith, strengthened his career ambitions, and finally achieved the "History of History" that has flowed through the ages.
Today, Luo Yonghao has a debt of six hundred million yuan for failing to start a business, but he did not act like a loser and chose to go bankrupt, or evade the creditor, but chose to open a new career, insist on doing things, insist on live broadcasting, and pay off the debt in less than a few years.
The Austrian poet Rilke said a particularly true sentence:
"Where there is any victory to speak of, holding on is everything."
Deeply believed, behind the success of everything, in fact, there are corresponding efforts and costs, and then to get this fruit.
All the glamorous appearances and enviable successes are actually under great pressure and pain behind them.
In the face of these pains, these sufferings, these blows, the truly strong will not be afraid of this, but will always stick to the faith and patiently do everything in the moment.
In this way, defeat, fight again, fail again, fight again.
Then, silently choosing to wait, there is always a moment to lift the clouds and see the blue sky.
3: Life is long, don't worry
Someone once asked the famous host Lu Yu a question: Among the people you interviewed, what do you think are the most valuable features of them?
Lu Yu replied calmly, "There is no hurry. ”
In this life, no one is born strong, and in life, they will encounter both suffering and suffering.
Just like a flat leaf boat, people are on the boat, everything can only rely on themselves, if the terrible waves of fate just hit the head, to tell themselves not to worry, to be calm, but also to be brave.
Qian Xuesen said:
"Don't lose faith, as long as you persevere, you will eventually achieve results."
Therefore, no matter how many accidents and difficulties are encountered in life, do not let yourself be discouraged, let alone sit still.
Grit your teeth, insist on it, force yourself to work harder, just pay and cultivate, and then calmly and patiently wait for good things to come.
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