Confucius:
"Self-cultivation, family unity, governance of the country, peace in the world."
This is the way of becoming a benevolent person advocated by Confucianism, and it is also the universal life proposition and pursuit of the ancient benevolent people who have always conveyed the ancient benevolent people.
In this sentence, self-cultivation comes first, which obviously tells us that the attainment of an ideal and a belief needs to start from some small beginning.
In order to achieve the goal of "peace in the world", the first thing to do is "self-cultivation".
So, why should a person do everything with "self-cultivation" first? We can imagine that if we already have a perfect personality, then there is no need for self-cultivation? The answer is yes.
But the problem is that each of us cannot reach perfection in our entire lives, so much so that past experience tells us that man is small because of the vastness of the universe and the vastness of knowledge.
It is precisely because we have seen such a vast ocean of knowledge that we have more reason to believe that only in the process of continuous self-correction can a person truly glimpse the true face of the truth.
Therefore, a truly intelligent person knows to "cultivate" from books, from life, and from life.
1: Correct habits
If a person wants to improve his personal conduct and moral cultivation, he must first start by correcting his habits.
The roman satirical poet once said:
"Deep-seated vices are not something that can be cultivated overnight."
Each of us has more than one or two bad habits, and these bad habits have very likely to make it impossible for us to discover its existence through subtlety.
It is precisely because of this that we will encounter some resistance in some areas, and we cannot change and solve it by our own strength.
This is because the upper limit of a person's ability to deal with problems seems to be determined by the individual's talent and talent, but in fact it is determined by the lower limit of his own shortcomings.
It's like a barrel, and how many liters of water can fit in that bucket is not the tallest plank around the circle, but the shortest plank.
Therefore, if a person wants to achieve something, he not only needs to polish some good habits, but also learn to correct his bad habits in time.
Don't let your life stagnate because of the "subtlety" of bad habits.
Bacon said:
"Habit is really a tenacious and great force, it can dominate a person's life, so from an early age, people should cultivate a good habit through education."
The reason why everyone needs to constantly correct their habits is that habits have great power.
This kind of strength is tenacious, but also can maintain a continuous output ability, and like a kind of value investment, as long as the early stage to do a good job of relevant understanding, correction work.
Then, once a good habit is formed, it can play a major role in the future, and can make your life brilliant.
2: Correct the mind
Some people say that the height of thought determines the height of life.
It is deeply believed that if a person has advanced thoughts, it means that he has strong cognitive abilities.
And this ability is actually the appreciation ability displayed by a person, so that no matter what kind of environment he faces, he can make a difference.
At a certain age, we will sincerely sigh, many things, many things are linked one by one, what kind of life you want to live, in fact, the price has long been clearly marked.
At the same time, we will also deeply realize that when a person completes the tasks to be completed in food, clothing, shelter and transportation, it is bound to be a certain degree of spiritual satisfaction in order to make his life solid and full.
Plato wrote in the Republic:
"When a person enjoys less and less of the body, the more he asks for spiritual conversation."
If a person wants to pursue a higher realm spiritually, and then make himself more full and comfortable in life, he needs to constantly revise his thinking.
Because human nature has always liked freshness, and to change this shallow freshness, it is necessary to replace it with deep thoughts.
But the process of the evolution of ideas, in general, occurs without people knowing it, so we need to make a timely review and correction.
After constantly revising and improving the self-thinking, people can enjoy deep happiness from the process of perception, perception and thinking.
Korolenko said:
"Thought is the basis of action, it pulls young people to one side, and the practical demands of life and interests pull them to the other, and in most cases life always prevails,
As a result, most educated young people, after a period of intense adolescent infatuation, embark on the road that has been paved, and gradually get used to it. ”
In the face of interests and reality, most people are "carving a boat and seeking a sword", and then naturally embark on a road of going with the flow and blindly following the crowd.
As a result, we have pulled our thoughts and lives apart and let them "separate flesh and bones", so that in reality, we can always see some people who have long lost their original dreams and become "invisible".
In fact, life and thought, there is a certain commonality between the two, but also there is a connection point, as long as we take the initiative to make trade-offs, corrections, can be found.
As Dee Hawke put it:
"The question is never how to use new, creative ideas to come up in the mind, but how to weed out old ideas from the mind."
Just as the so-called golden footless and naked person is not perfect, a person's growth process is also the process of continuous evolution of his thoughts.
However, many people are in the process of curbing the development of free thought, stubbornly retaining the pedantic and old ideas in their minds.
Let your mind come alive, and in a timely manner to keep pace with the times, effectively correct, in order to create your own wisdom.
3: Modified Life
Socrates said:
"If a person's disposition is quiet and calm, then age is not a pain for them, otherwise, whether they are old or young, they will be troubled." 」
It is true that the description of this passage lies in whether a person who wants to live a peaceful and quiet life lies in whether he can cultivate his mind, correct his habits, correct his thoughts, and correct himself.
There is no greater need for us to achieve such a goal than to have this ability. And if you want to have this ability, you need to pay a corresponding price from real life.
The cost of this correction may have been painful and torturous in the early days, but with the continuous effort and persistence of the individual, through each change, it means one step closer to this goal.
Zeng Guofan said:
"Think big, start small, gather and keep your mouth shut, live alone and keep your heart"
As a person, you should lay out your life on a larger life pattern, support your own pattern, and open your career.
When doing things, we should also be cautious, encounter problems, pursue details, pay attention to strategy, and know how to achieve the goal through timely correction.
Keep your own principles when you are gregarious, correct your words and deeds, control your mouth, and cultivate your mind and correct your thoughts when you are alone.
In this way, down-to-earth, conscientious, keep pace with the times, create a better life, and enjoy life.