Many parents are the same, but whatever they can tiptoe and get, they are willing to bring to their children. Parents desperately want to make money, and they are reluctant to spend it, just to give their children a better future. However, the future of children is not that they can be happy and beautiful with money, and they also need the correct way of education for parents.
"The kitchen is where women stay!" Raising a son like this is a dereliction of duty on the part of the parents
Xiao Zhang is 28 years old this year, has married a daughter-in-law, and his wife Xiaoli is very beautiful. Xiao Zhang is the only child of a family, his parents are in business, and the family conditions are good. Xiao Zhang got married, his parents bought a wedding house and a new car, and everything was done very well. However, Xiao Zhang's married life is not very happy.
After Xiao Zhang got married, he moved into his new home, and he and his wife began to live independently. Xiao Li soon discovered many of his problems, he couldn't cook, and he preferred not to eat or do it. At first, the two people thought it was good to order takeout, but after a long time, the contradictions began to increase.
Small clothes will not be washed by themselves, smelly socks are also lost this one, that one, sometimes the beard is not willing to shave. His original bright appearance was due to his mother's meticulous care for him.
Daughter-in-law Xiaoli filed for divorce because she took Xiao Zhang back to her mother's house many times, and each time he sat on the sofa like a grandfather, and the family was busy until they invited him to dinner. Xiao li's brother-in-law, from beginning to end, is busy in the kitchen, and the two sons-in-law form a sharp contrast.
Xiao Li said, "Can't you help?" Just give me a little face. Xiao Zhang said very dismissively: "My mother never let me work, the kitchen is a place where women stay, I will not go into the kitchen, you don't want to think about it." ”
Teach your son to be masculine, and many mothers think this way when raising their son. But educating a child to be a macho person is not a good thing. Children develop a solipsistic mentality, whether in family life or in the interaction with others are prone to problems.
Educating sons, there are "four big pits" that need to be avoided, otherwise parents may ruin their babies in their old age!
First, do not let the son do housework, cultivate the idea of machismo.
In the past, the family was the life mode outside the male and female, the men earned money outside, and the women at home took care of the housework. There are many mothers who are distressed about their sons or macho ideas, and they will not let their children learn to do housework from an early age.
The mother feels that her son should be a man who stands tall in the sky and should not be around the housework all day, so even if the son is married, she still thinks like this, let the daughter-in-law do housework, and her son can't do housework.
The mother does not let her son learn not to do housework, which looks very good on the surface, but it is not good for the child. A mother cannot take care of her son forever, and when her son leaves his mother's side, he will do nothing, will bring trouble to his life, and will feel that he is much worse than others.
Even after the son becomes a family, the wife is not a nanny who marries, and she also hopes to be taken care of by her husband, your son will not do anything, life will continue to be contradictory, and he will not be happy.
Second, boys say dirty words, which is a bad thing.
When a little boy grows up, there is always an age stage when a dirty word or two will come out of his mouth. Some mothers do not feel that the child is impolite, and they also think that the child is a long skill. The mother thinks that the education of boys should be more rough, do not care too much about the details, and the result is that the children raised are very unpleasant.
If a man will pick his teeth at the dinner table, cut his feet in front of others, or make a dirty remark from time to time, it is estimated that both men and women will avoid it.
A person's quality cultivation is the most obvious sign, but also his business card, we must educate children from a young age to know how to respect others, to be civilized, to understand politeness, to be a quality citizen.
Third, the boy is the mother's little lover, and the father rarely brings it.
Mothers are the main force in the family with children, so many children are more with their mothers, and fathers are less. Boys should let their fathers bring a little more, boys contact people, in addition to mothers, grandmothers, teachers are mostly women, which is not good for the child's personality growth.
There are many things that boys need to learn from their fathers, such as strength, bravery, and courage, and fathers should take their children to grow up together so that children can have the courage that a man should have.
Fourth, boys develop late, and there is no need to worry about intellectual education.
Boys develop slightly later than girls, but children's intellectual education cannot be ignored. Especially in the child's enlightenment stage, if the child has some not very good learning habits, or the learning attitude is not correct, the mother should help the child to correct it, and cannot feel that the child is still young and indulge him. If the child's intellectual development, the foundation is not laid well, the future development will definitely be affected.
Boys and girls are the hope of the family, but the way parents educate their children should be different, and educating their children well is the most important cause of parents.