Love, for many people, is an expectation, but also a pursuit.
We want to be happy, and we want someone to know how to understand ourselves, which is the common sentiment of human beings. Therefore, in many cases, how to catch up with the person we like has also become an important part of our love.
In the public perception, it is often men who take the initiative. However, not every man can impress a woman with the right way.
In many cases, men's "step by step" will only make women avoid it.
Just like Li Yiming in "The Sea of Stars", he likes Jane Eyre, which is something that everyone knows, so he behaves very obviously.
However, this overly ostentatious way of pursuing is exactly what Jane Eyre hates the most. Therefore, Li Yiming was always rejected by Jane Eyre.
It can be seen that the pursuit of a woman, not only with heart, but also with her liking, this is the right way to start a love.
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Talking about Women": "For most women, love means to be loved. ”
It is deeply believed that what women want is to be loved, so men should also cultivate their ability to love others.
So, how do those "high-ranking" men catch up with the women they like? Do these three things, and you are not far from love.
1. Be bold
Someone said: "People who make mistakes in the face of common sense are not called bold, but stupid." ”
Admittedly, in the face of love, the same is true.
Men show boldness in front of women, not to ask you to do something earth-shattering, but to use your behavior to make women have a kind of admiration for you.
In psychology, there is a suspension bridge effect, which is said: a pair of strange men and women, walking on the suspension bridge, because of the fear of high altitude, will make the heart beat faster. At this time, if men can protect women with the trend, then women will feel that this "heartbeat" is the feeling of heartbeat.
In fact, many heroes in the TV series save the United States plot, taking advantage of this.
As the saying goes, "The faint of heart will starve to the brave." ”
If the man in love is a little braver, he can also have a good relationship.
This is the case with Fang Hengzhi in "The Sea of Stars".
Even though he knew that in the end Jane Ai would have to keep a distance from himself, when he learned that Jane Ai was being held hostage, he resolutely tried to raise money just to get out of Jane Eyre.
Originally, he had escaped, but in order to save Jane Eyre, he alone carried the redemption money to the place designated by the kidnappers.
Then, he told the kidnappers: Seize yourself and let Jane Eyre leave.
Seeing this, he not only sighed that Fang Hengzhi was sincere about Jane Ai. And this, but also once again awakened Jane Ai's deep affection for him, even if the two can not be together, but this love, but people are moved.
It can be seen that in love, the boldness of men is manifested in behavior as a kind of giving. Women are sensual and naturally fall in love with men because of this.
This is the power of love.
2. Be careful
Someone said: "Life is nowhere and hopeless, only depends on the heart of the seeker." ”
It is also true that what a woman wants in this life is only a man who can take care of herself and hold herself in the palm of her hand.
One of the biggest characteristics of men who want to chase women is to be careful.
I have a friend who calls him Xiao Wang for the time being.
At the beginning, when he and his current girlfriend Xiaoli were not together, they impressed each other with careful actions.
At that time, Xiao Wang was working in a company, and he had a crush on Xiaoli for many years, but he couldn't find the opportunity to confess.
Later, once brushing the circle of friends, I knew that Li was hospitalized, and Xiao Wang immediately took a leave of absence to go to the hospital to accompany Xiao Li.
Because he was worried that Xiaoli would be bored, he also specially accompanied Xiaoli to play games. Of course, what moved Xiao Li the most was that Xiao Wang went to buy lunch once.
At that time, Xiao Li could only eat liquid food, and Xiao Wang bought a bowl of fish soup. What puzzled Xiao Li was that there were no thorns in the fish soup.
Later, I learned that it turned out that Xiao Wang had already picked out the fish bones in the hotel. Just because of this incident, Xiao Wang confessed to Xiao Li later, and Xiao Li agreed without saying a word.
It can be seen that whether or not to impress a woman sometimes depends not on rhetoric, but on careful actions out of love.
In the public perception, it is felt that men are very careless in doing things and do not know how to take care of people. In fact, this is not the case.
Men who really care, when they meet the women they like, will bow their heads and be cautious and subtle, just to capture the hearts of women.
And this is exactly what women need.
3. Thick skin
There is a saying: "Humor, self-deprecation, thick skin can also block bullets." ”
Although this sentence is a bit cheesy, it is not unreasonable. In love, you also want to be thick-skinned.
Because, in real life, if a man's face is too thin, he only knows to blush when he encounters his loved ones, and does not take practical action. Well, it's easy to miss a love.
Qian Kaiyi in "Female Psychologist" is like this, with a thick enough face to eventually catch up with Horton.
Before he could catch up with Horton, Qian Kaiyi began to curry favor with his "mother-in-law".
Once, Horton received a call from his mother, saying that Ye Jiahui was doing acupuncture for her at his home, and Qian Kaiyi, who was on the side, heard it and immediately bought a lot of gifts and went to Horton's house.
When Horton's mother saw that Qian Kaiyi was coming, she got up to prepare the fruit, and then, a person put up the fruit plate and did not let Ye Jiahui eat it, as if she was swearing sovereignty.
Of course, the most important thing is that he also shows the gifts he bought one by one like a credit, just to win the favor of Horton's mother.
Such a "cheeky" is the "solo show" in the real drama.
Of course, it is precisely because of this that Qian Kaiyi can finally catch up with Horton and become a happy little couple.
Therefore, in love, we do not have to be too subtle and reserved. Especially for men, if they want to be able to successfully chase after the woman they like, they should take the initiative to attack, rather than waiting for the person they love to be snatched away by others, and then regret it.
This makes no sense.
Therefore, the person you love bravely chases after it, and it is not a big deal to be rejected, and there are no other consequences.
Xiaoyuan's message: To be able to be with the people you love, I think, is everyone's wish. However, some people are hindered by their own timidity and miss a good relationship, which is not only a regret, but also a sadness.
We have also been close to happiness, but because of our hesitation, we can only grieve alone.
As a man, in love with a person, there is no need to cower, should take the initiative, do not leave opportunities for others.
This is the attitude towards love, are you right?
Topic: How do you think men chase women?
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