46-year-old Yu Xiuhua and her post-90s boyfriend broke up? Last night Yang Yongce hid all their loving videos. Many people asked: Broke up so soon? This morning Yang Quece updated: I and Xiaoyu are very good, the first anniversary of my mother's death, three days of silence.
Some people say that it is a wave of hype for traffic; some people say that he is just using Teacher Yu... People questioned him. Because the reality people see is: Yu Xiuhua, a cerebral palsy poet, a peasant woman, a middle-aged woman who is embarrassed to walk and talk, a huge age difference and an image mismatch, no one believes that this is love.
But this is only a mismatch in the eyes of the world, people see it as an appearance, and I believe more in the confirmation and fit of the soul.
No matter what the result of this relationship between Yu Xiuhua and Yang Yongce is, how long can it go? How far? I don't think it's a waste of time. And, as ordinary people, what did we realize and learn in Yu Xiuhua? That's what we should focus on.
1. How long Yu Xiuhua and Yang Yongce can love depends on how deeply their souls can fit together.
It can be said that in the worldly relationship, in the initial stage, dopamine is at work. Freshness, passion, let desire like fire. However, the effect of dopamine can only be maintained for half a year, just like the drug effect, and then it will dissipate. In the days that followed, appearance, figure, and so on could no longer play much of a role, and the fellowship of the soul was particularly important.
True love requires the embrace, dancing, and deep fit of two souls, as if deeply rooted in the soil. But unfortunately, such two souls can rarely meet, let alone love each other and keep each other.
Many people spend their whole lives with a person who can't understand themselves, and their souls are lonely. It's sad. But that's life.
Obviously, Yang Yongce could not match Yu Xiuhua's soul. I have been concerned about their relationship from the beginning, but I know that this post-90s boy, even if he confirms that Yu Xiuhua's soul is what he is looking for, he still can't catch up. Of course, Yu Xiuhua is also well aware of this, she said in an interview:
"Yang Yongce has not yet reached this level, he has no way to understand me, what he said is wrong."
"The physiological problem is solved, the age problem is solved, and the problem of thinking is left, and the two people cannot be unified." You can temporarily accommodate, one year, two years, three years, four years, you can't accommodate for a lifetime, this is my pain. He couldn't reach me. ”
"I think he loves me in any way, but why doesn't it feel right?" I can't reach the deep love in my heart, right? ”
Yes, not to the very deep love in my heart.
For true deep love is the union of both the soul and the body. This is very rare.
Of all the books I've read about love, I love Jane Eyre the most. Because Jane Eyre and Rochester in the book made me feel a precious soul fit. To be born with a soul mate is something that can be met and unattainable.
2. Even if it can't be long, if you love each other for a long time, you will not waste this life, and I am still grateful.
Yu Xiuhua wrote:
I am full of gratitude to you, and no matter how it ends in the future, I will be grateful for this wonderful time.
This is where I admire her, and where a woman in love should learn.
Before, we were all young and didn't have enough minds to bear the pain of the end of love, so we were entangled, sad, depressed, hurt, and did not hesitate to destroy the beautiful past. Later, I realized: that person he accompanied us on a journey, so beautiful and heartwarming. It is difficult to have it after that, so this experience, it is precious, it should be cherished, it should be grateful.
A hundred years of life, the final look back, is just a journey of experience and feelings. If this journey is wonderful and sweet because of his company, there have been pleasant feelings, and after the end, you are free to embark on the next journey, how can this not be a good life?
So, don't hate, don't grieve, love is like all things, it can't be eternal, it was enough to bring you happiness, wasn't it? It's the right time, enjoy the moment, and live up to the moment.
And, at this moment, I understand: I have truly loved a person, and I only have gratitude and blessings for him, where is the resentment and revenge? Of course, this person is worthy of your love. He also treated you sincerely.
3. The biggest inspiration that Yu Xiuhua brings to me is that to strive to become a better and better person, there will be more good people, good partners will come close to you, and your life will have more possibilities.
Just think, if Yu Xiuhua was a self-destructive peasant woman, she did not write poetry, did not publish books, did not become famous, then who would know her? How can there be this love? How could she change her life and destiny by writing poetry?
So work hard! Self-discipline and self-reliance! Want a good future, want a good partner, want unlimited possibilities, just work hard! As the saying goes, "If you bloom, the butterflies will come."
Finally, I ended with this sentence of Yu Xiuhua, I like it.
"This person around me, I don't put hope for the future on his shoulders, everyone's future can only be completed by themselves, including his own."
Best wishes to Teacher Yu.
No matter what the ending, consummation and regret, sweetness and hurt, this experience is a good poem for Yu Xiuhua.