Marriage emphasizes affection and affection, and some people say that the age gap in marriage is not the gap, and the emotional attraction is the foundation.
Two people are in their teens, there may be a marriage that makes people envious, there will be some contradictions, and in the end, because of the values and generation gap, the marriage is also broken.
The age difference between men and women is too large, the husband expresses dissatisfaction, and the wife is also helpless
Xiaona and Lao Zhao are a typical example, Xiaona is 38 years old, Old Zhao is 53 years old, the two have been married for 7 years, in recent days Xiaona is very disgusted with Old Zhao, and there are always all kinds of dissatisfaction!
Old Zhao said bluntly: She just hates me for being too old, unwilling to take me out, and doesn't even like to go out with me. When interviewed by reporters, Old Zhao was also dissatisfied, always complaining, digging deep into the reasons, or the age gap was too large.
And Xiaona also said: "His family is prejudiced against me, thinking that I am a third party!" Especially his second aunt, who has always felt that I have destroyed his family, and when he is with the original match, his family will be satisfied. ”
The husband and wife lack communication, old Zhao did not express clearly with the family, there was a misunderstanding, coupled with Xiaona's classmates gathering, worried that the appearance of old Zhao would be talked about by classmates, and if the two did not communicate, there would inevitably be a gap.
Later, after old Zhao and Xiaona communicated deeply, Old Zhao still hoped that Xiaona would be at home, that he would still love her very much, and would not force Xiaona to take herself out.
Xiaona also said that she will also do more housework at home and communicate with her family, and later Old Zhao and Xiaona also began to dance together and go shopping together! The road of love between the two can also be regarded as smooth and happy. This matter is also worth pondering, how much does the age difference affect marriage?
Of the 3 factors that affect marital happiness, age is not the most important
Parents have the greatest influence on their children's concept of love. 65% of the children under the unhappy families of the original family, their marital happiness is not high! 70% of people are reluctant to find a single-parent family when choosing a mate, hoping that both parents will be complete.
Parents are happy in marriage, children will feel the flow of love between parents, a beautiful family, should be the father to spoil the mother, the mother to worship the father, and the child is only the crystallization of love, is the chip of family happiness.
If parents always quarrel with each other, children will feel that love is all reasonable, all quarrelsome, and cannot feel love and tolerance.
Especially some couples with a relatively large age difference, it is easy to have contradictions in parenting, which is also related to their original family, so if you want to give your children a positive view of love, you need to create a happy family by yourself.
Home is about love, but also to be reasonable at the right time
Couples living together will inevitably have contradictions, but these contradictions and disputes are derived from love, and they all hope to make the home better. Therefore, when arguing and arguing, the inner appeal is to hope that the other party will see his dedication to this family and get praise. When it comes to love, the rules are serious, but the language is soft and persuasive.
Especially in communication, the first 30 seconds, how to express is very important, first from the understanding of each other's feelings to chat, may be better effect.
Skillfully take advantage of the age difference and become the appearance of catching up with each other
In a marriage, if you really feel for each other and can get the happiness of two families, then this marriage is established. And if the age difference is too large, each other must learn to use the art of love to get along with each other.
For example, the younger party should give the older party more freshness and youthfulness, and under the nourishment of love, the older party may be younger and more energetic.
There is a girl named Qianhui on the Internet, who has found an uncle who is more years older than herself as a partner, and the two people are also happy, with two children.
Qianhui has always called her husband Teacher Sanbao, and her eyes are full of love and expectation, and Teacher Sanbao will also use her talents to conquer her wife and use her talents to educate her two children. There is an age difference, but love requires skill and needs to be learned.
The large age difference is not an excuse, and there are small techniques for improving sweetness between husband and wife
Surprise moments: From time to time, couples should prepare surprises for each other, be able to know what the other person likes, what they need, and prepare a good gift on some important holidays or anniversaries.
You can also take each other to travel when expressing your heart, or experience a different life and give each other a different experience.
It is also possible to hand over the gift to the child, let the child act as the deliverer of the gift, and let the child also participate in the flow of parental love.
Mutual help time: In ordinary times, especially in things that they can't do, they need each other to help each other, and they can help each other, such as women helping men wash clothes, making a warm meal, and ironing clothes for men.
The man can help the woman to do some hard work, such as changing the lamp, moving things, washing face and feet, and so on. These small details of interaction will make love flow, but also better increase the adhesion between husband and wife, and help enhance family happiness.
Family outing: Traveling outside is also a good way to communicate, sometimes you can arrange some sports, badminton, table tennis, etc., you can also go swimming, climbing and so on. In tourism, you can close the relationship, restore the world of two people, and make the love between the two more sweet.
Sometimes, age difference is just an excuse, and the root cause problems are all in the details of life. Marriage is not easy, since the original breakthrough difficulties to come together, mutual care and mutual love is also a responsible performance.
Rush through the obstacles of marriage and stay together for a lifetime
Now most of them are young couples, even if the age difference is large, there will not be too much estrangement, sometimes you can hold family gatherings, find some good friends to play together at home, eat together, hi together, better release your emotions, you can also invite your child's good friends to party at home, exchange parenting experience, communication methods.
A good marital relationship is mutually maintained, and it is necessary to communicate with each other more, and understand and tolerate each other, what problems can be communicated more, and find solutions together.
Under the age gap, there is more of an interdependent and trust, and a good family also needs more sense of ceremony and proportion.
It is not that you can relax at home, informal, but pay more attention to some details, give each other more warm feelings, let love flow at home, constantly let love heat up, and create a warmer and happier beautiful family.
Today's topic: How do you think that in marriage, the age difference between the two is larger?