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"How much money does a man have for a girl to dare to marry?"
Wu Zhen, 33, kept asking himself this question. He is only 33 years old, and there are still infinite possibilities in life, but at this good age, he is ridiculed by relatives.
Relatives ridiculed him for being 33 years old and not yet married, classifying him as an older leftover man. But he felt that he had only graduated a few years ago, and it was normal for him not to be married at this age, and he didn't know why, so he became an older leftover man.
Relatives also laughed at him, all this age, but also riding an electric car to commute to work, which girl dares to marry him, this life is not so self-motivated, afraid that it should be lonely to end up old.
Wu Zhen was very aggrieved, listening to the ridicule of his relatives, he fell into meditation, how rich are men, and girls dare to marry?
In fact, Wu Zhen's conditions are not so bad. Graduating at the age of 24 and working for seven years, he used his ability to borrow money to buy a house for himself, without spending a penny on his parents.
His salary has been rising, from the initial internship salary of 800 yuan to seven years later 300,000 yuan, which has increased by an unknown number of times.
All along, he has told himself to work hard, work hard to make money, let himself get rid of the past days when he can't even drink drinks, let his parents live a good life without worrying about eating and drinking, and let him and his partner in the future at least not have to worry about raising children.
He has hundreds of thousands of savings, not because he doesn't want to buy a car, but because he feels that the unit is so close to home, the electric car is enough, not that he has to buy a car. If in the future he falls in love, gets married, and uses more places to use the car, he will naturally buy it.
Through this incident, he understood that this part of the relatives looked down on the "no money" people in this way, and there was so much malice.
To tell the truth, he does not complain about these relatives, after all, they do not know that they are actually better than them, but through this matter, he is very suspicious and entangled, how rich are men, only women dare to marry, can men not afford to buy a car, no money, it is not worth women to marry?
My friend's experience probably answers this question.
Friends and family conditions are not good, ancestors have farmed for generations to survive, parents have been sick for many years, not to mention helping him buy a car and a house, not dragging him down, he can take care of himself is already a blessing in misfortune.
The friend's own conditions are not good. Looks are unremarkable kind, height is not dominant, can be average, work ordinary, barely able to support the family, try their best to borrow tens of thousands of dollars, before buying a house in the county.
Such conditions are not many times worse than Wu Zhen, but there are still girls who are willing to marry her.
When the girl first promised to deal with him, she said that she did not want anything, just that there was a person who could know cold and hot to her.
After the girl became his wife, she was very virtuous, and while taking care of the children at home full-time, she could also earn money to supplement the family.
Two people think in one place, and work hard to make one place, and within two years, the living conditions have been greatly improved.
A friend once asked his wife that his conditions were so bad at the beginning, his parents could not count on it, and it may be a burden, why he was willing to marry him, if he was replaced by another girl, he would have hidden far away.
Her wife told her that it is not terrible for people to be poor, but to be afraid is that they have no ambition and no ideals. We have hands and feet, as long as we are diligent, we can't live a good life.
Of course, none of this matters, and the most important thing is that I have seen you and known you for a long time.
You are helpful, you often suffer losses, others call you a good person on the surface, but behind your back, they say that you are stupid, that you are honest, that you are honest.
Although they say this about you, I think that people like you are worth relying on. At that time, I thought, since you have no complaints to warm others, then I will come to warm you.
Although the friend laughed at his wife's stupidity, he secretly swore in his heart that he must treat his wife well and not let her regret her original choice.
Men have money, and women naturally rush to marry, but men have no money, and it is not that no woman dares to follow.
Women choose men, money and materials are naturally to see, but they are not the most important. But all wise women understand the principle of choosing a husband.
01 Women value whether you are responsible more than having money
Is matter important? The economic base determines the superstructure. Whether in love or marriage, without a certain economic foundation, the relationship will not be stable and solid.
There is an old saying that the same is true of poor couples Pepsi Lamentation.
But women who don't have money don't think about it? That's not the truth, women care more about whether men are responsible than whether men have money or not.
If the other party is an irresponsible person, even if there is money, the woman will not get the slightest benefit. This is the same as many men who have ability and money, but they are not good to their wives and do not cherish their wives.
02 Women value whether you put her first or not than power
In addition to money, power is also valued by most people. In particular, the woman's parents will use this as one of the criteria when their daughters are looking for a partner.
But for women, they value whether you put her first or not than power.
Seeing more men who become bad after having power and look down on their wives, they do have power, but they invisibly belittle their wives, act as a blessing at home, regard their wives as their subordinates and employees, and come and go as soon as they are called.
Women are not stupid, if you have the right, but no longer put her in the first place, they probably do not want you to be promoted in this life.
Feelings are a kind of thing that they know that they don't care if their men have power or how much power they have rather than getting warmth from their partners.
03 Women pay more attention to whether they fit their eyes than their looks or age
Is 33 years old? I believe that even for a 23-year-old woman, 33 is not a big one. Two people together, looks, age and other external conditions are not important, what is important is whether two people can get together, whether they can close the eye, whether they can talk.
What is the most important thing for two people to be together? Actually, there is something to say. It is said that feelings will continue to be stable, and when they can be talked about, feelings will continue to sublimate.
Therefore, whether a man has money is not so important, riding an electric car to commute to work is not shameful, all of this, can not determine whether a woman dares to marry you, what you need to do, is to continue to work hard and motivated, continue to be positive and optimistic.
As for the gossip of relatives or others, let them say go, the smaller the pattern of people, the more they value the outside, the more bad people, the more willing to mock others behind their backs.
People who can have long-term development will not walk with their heads down, but only look at the present.
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