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The mother is too strong, which can be a "disaster" for the son.
In the process of growing up, he will not learn self-discipline, and he will not know how to arrange his own affairs.
I once saw a picture of a blind date, which probably means a pair of men and women dating, during which the man said the most is "My mother said." ”
My mother said that girls should be diligent and thrifty to run the family, my mother said that girls should not dress too exposed, my mother said that the biggest destination for women is the family, so everything should be based on the family...
The girl was a little surprised, she did not understand whether he had come to meet or his mother. The man was silent about the question because he didn't know how to answer. After half a day, he began to say "my mother said" again.
The girl felt devastated and eventually chose never to see her again. But the man's mother did not think so, felt that the other party did not see the "value" of the son, and even when chatting with others, she was complacent, indicating that the son was very obedient and did not need her to bother.
It is true that obedient children make parents feel at ease, but it is often such children who will not handle their own lives when they grow up, especially after marriage.
His usual practice is to listen to his mother, but when the mother argues with her lover, he will involuntarily side with the mother, even if the mother is wrong, he does not care.
In this case, the woman is isolated. She left her own family and married him. In this family, she could rely on him the most. However, no matter when, he will always be on the opposite side of her, and I would like to ask, what woman likes this feeling?
Therefore, smart mother-in-law knows that when facing her daughter-in-law, she must let go of her strength.
It's just that not every mother-in-law can see through this.
For example, Aunt Liu.
Aunt Liu was widowed at an early age. In order not to let the child be wronged, she raised the child alone, and the hardships can be imagined.
Fortunately, her son was more obedient, and he did not let her bother in life or in study.
She was satisfied with that. It's just that she didn't expect her son to marry the foreign migrant girl no matter what.
Know that her son is a graduate student and a local. And that migrant sister is just graduating from college, and there are younger siblings to take care of at home, and the two people are really not a good match.
So Aunt Liu tried her best to stop it, and her son resisted with all his might.
If Aunt Liu knows some psychological knowledge, she probably knows that her son is only pursuing himself, not hating her mother. And the more she obstructed, the more it stimulated his rebellious emotions, and as for the migrant sisters, they were just the trigger for the breakdown of their mother-son relationship.
But there is no if in this world, so Aunt Liu has exhausted all the ways. In the end, he lost to his son, only because the son said that he would not marry if he was not a working sister, otherwise he would never marry again.
Aunt Liu gritted her teeth and agreed, but in her heart she had a mustard for the migrant girl, and felt that she had made the demon law as said on TV, so that her son was so dead-hearted. So he hated her in every way.
Especially when the migrant sister gave birth to her daughter and urged her to have a second child, she resolutely refused, and Aunt Liu's dislike for her daughter-in-law reached the top. Therefore, Aunt Liu is always outspoken.
In this regard, the migrant sister chose to be patient, on the one hand, because Aunt Liu is an elder, as a daughter-in-law, she is always not good too much; on the other hand, it is also forced by the reason of life, after having a child, the mother-in-law is not willing to show her the child, she can not go to work, and the mother-in-law occupies her husband's salary card under the pretext of "saving money for her son", but gives her a little living expenses every month. For this reason, the migrant girl really did not have the courage to leave.
Of course, the main thing is that the husband is not bad. So the migrant sister thought about being patient, after all, the time with her mother-in-law is limited.
It's just that people's tolerance is also limited. When the migrant sister said that her mother was sick and needed to go to the hospital, Aunt Liu was unwilling to pay for it on the grounds that "money was taken out to invest", and she no longer wanted to endure.
It turned out that the mother-in-law did not take her as a family member at all, so she would guard herself like a thief and hold all her husband's money in her hands; so she could ignore her own bitter pleading.
And the husband who can best rely on her is only aside. On all odds, she chose divorce.
Watching her husband beg her not to leave, the migrant girl was a little soft-hearted. But looking at the indifference on Aunt Liu's face, she held back tears and left with her daughter.
Speaking from the heart, watching her daughter-in-law go, Aunt Liu was also uncomfortable in her heart, especially the appearance of her little granddaughter crying bitterly. She is a bit patriarchal, but that doesn't mean she hates her granddaughter, after all, they've been together for a while.
Thinking of this, she especially hated the migrant girl, thinking that it was because of the other party's indomitability that this family had become what it is now. Didn't he just want her to resign and go home and have a second child! Isn't it just that she takes good care of her family and doesn't always study and study, so that her son and granddaughter can't eat a mouthful of hot food! she......
Forget it, now that the two are divorced, there is no point in saying more. At present, I am still thinking about how to let my son start a second marriage life, which is the right thing.
For this point, Aunt Liu is confident, after all, her son has listened to her most since he was a child. He must be sad to leave his daughter-in-law and daughter for a while, but it will be fine after a long time.
Only this time the son was unexpected and had no interest in the second marriage at all. He was so drunk all day that he couldn't even go to work. Aunt Liu asked him what he wanted to do, and he said that he only wanted his wife and children.
During this period, Aunt Liu beat and scolded and pleaded, but it did not work. In desperation, she had to bow her head and ask for a migrant sister.
Seeing the migrant sister again, Aunt Liu was surprised. She did not expect that in just two or three years, the migrant girl was like a changed person, and the whole person was confident from the inside out. Thinking that she was proud of the spring breeze here, but her son was full of sorrow all day to borrow wine to dispel his sorrows, Aunt Liu felt particularly uncomfortable, so she said in a blunt tone: "Come back and remarry with my son!" It's a big deal as long as she pays half her salary. ”
The migrant sister first greeted Aunt Liu, and then smiled and said no, indicating that she had a good life in recent years.
Aunt Liu thought that the chips were not enough, so she gritted her teeth and said that she would not interfere in their lives. The migrant girl still shook her head, and then said something that surprised Aunt Liu - I remarried.
In order to make a living, migrant girls set up stalls in the night market. By chance, I met another man who set up a stall. The other party is widowed, she is divorced, the other party is a son, he is a daughter, and most importantly, he has an opinion and takes care of her emotions.
After a few thoughts, they got married.
After listening to the experience of the migrant sister, Aunt Liu was silent. The thought of the look of her son's expectation when he came was particularly painful.
But who can blame this?
Mother is the son, and it is in nature that the plan is far-reaching. But the mother should not forget, let go of the child to grow. After all, there are some roads that you have to walk on your own; some are bitter, and you have to eat yourself.
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