My mom threw me a few pictures and advised me to get a divorce quickly, and I chose to listen to my mom

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Letters from readers

Muzi Lee:

When I fell in love with my husband, my mother always objected to us being together, in my mother's words, your husband has nothing but a good-looking skin bag?

My mom summed it up for my husband like this:

1) Growing up in a divorced family, and the mother-in-law especially loves money, resulting in the husband's lonely personality, selfishness, and irritability;

2) Because of the open eyes of money and the good-looking skin bag, it is destined to be a big turnip in the future;

3) My excessive liking for my husband will make me very passive in my marriage with my husband, and even be despised by my husband.

However, I was a little in love with Wu and Wu at that time, and I couldn't listen to my mother's words at all.

Eventually, my mom helped them buy a wedding house and a wedding car, and we got married.

I am a civil servant and my husband is a small contract foreman. Because of the different nature of our work, it is difficult to intersect in married life, and it is difficult to overlap social circles.

More often than not, I try to fit into my husband's social circle, but I find that his friends have four hobbies: 1) talking about business; 2) speaking foul language; 3) drinking; and 4) discussing women.

Along with the progress of married life, I no longer be a heel of my husband, and I have less elements of love for my husband. Still, married life went smoothly.

A few days ago, I was at work when my mother called: After work, go home and discuss something with you.

At that time, I was very flustered, so I asked my mother if there was anything I couldn't say now.

My mom said, come back and say it again, then, hang up my phone.

After work, I rushed to my mother's house, and my mother took out a few photos and threw them on the coffee table: See for yourself.

In the photo, it is a picture of the husband holding hands and hugging a young and beautiful woman. At that time, my tears flowed.

My mom didn't comfort me, but said to me very calmly, get a divorce.

This time I listened to my mother.

At present, in the negotiation of divorce, the husband does not agree to divorce.

I seem to be wavering in my grip on divorce as well.

How exactly should I choose?

Muzi Li answered the reader's question:

Let's start with the fact that your mother is definitely not bored enough to agree to your marriage, and then secretly stalk your husband, and take pictures of your husband's cheating evidence, and then force you to divorce. Because, since your mother agreed to this marriage, she must hope that you can run the marriage smoothly. The photos of your husband's cheating on your mother's hands are nothing more than inadvertently seen and taken as evidence of your divorce.

Well, in my judgment, your husband's cheating behavior is definitely a frequent occurrence of stages, not the first time it happens inadvertently.

At this time, you file for divorce, and your husband disagrees, which stems from two points: 1) the marriage room and the wedding car are pasted upside down by your mother's family; 2) you are really good to your husband.

However, the bottom line that should be adhered to between people is: don't do whatever you want if others are good to you.

I believe that you have already experienced your husband's selfishness, violence, irritability, and love of money in life, but you love Wu and Wu, so you have chosen to be tolerant, and at present, you feel your husband's heart.

There is a saying in the folk: It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage. However, for low-quality marriages, don't do it either.

You are a good girl, and your husband does not deserve your gentleness.

Firm divorce without wavering may be your best destination.