She is a mother who loves her son very much, and she is very qualified to look at this mother from her son's point of view.
However, from the perspective of her daughter, this mother's words are very partial to her son, and she is even willing to use her daughter's happiness as a price to create a better life for her son.
In order to buy a house for her son, she repeatedly asked her daughter to find a way to make a down payment, but because her daughter did not go to work for many years, she has been concentrating on taking children at home, basically there is no income, and the family expenses are borne by the son-in-law, so she did not help her mother's family in this matter.
However, the mother did not give up, she asked her daughter to borrow money from her mother-in-law, and after the daughter sternly refused this matter, the mother did not hesitate to personally go to her daughter's mother-in-law to borrow money.
The first time, the family did not lend them money, but Li Jia's parents only borrowed it the second time they came to the door, but because her son needed to buy a car after he got married, she found her daughter's in-laws for the third time to borrow money.
But this time, not only did she not borrow money, but even let her daughter have a home and could not return, and now she can only borrow to live in a friend's house.
The mother-in-law had opposed this family affair, but at the insistence of her son, she reluctantly agreed to it!
Li Jia is 29 years old this year, currently has two sons with her husband, originally her and her husband's life is relatively peaceful, but recently because of the matter of her mother's family, she can not return to the home, and now she can only live in a friend's house.
Li Jia and her husband met in 2015 through a friend's introduction, and after a year of falling in love, they began to talk about marriage. However, she did not expect that her mother-in-law, who was originally very satisfied with herself, had held an opposing attitude towards this family affair since meeting her parents once, and even said it herself, she opposed Li Jia and her son's marriage.
In fact, the problem is not in Li Jia's body, but in her parents, it turns out that when the parents of the two sides met, Li Jia's mother not only proposed a dowry of 200,000 yuan, she also said a lot of words that surprised her mother.
For example, your family is so rich, this two hundred thousand is not much, after all, our brother Li Jia is not yet married, and he will spend a lot of money in the future.
At that time, Li Jia's parents tentatively asked Li Jia's parents a lot of questions, originally the focus of the meeting between the two sides should be Li Jia and her son, but Li Jia's mother-in-law was very concerned about Li Jia's mother's family.
Later, the mother-in-law felt that Li Jia's mother-in-law had more affairs, so she opposed this family affair, but at the insistence of her son, the mother-in-law reluctantly agreed to this matter.
However, on the day of the wedding, the relatives of the two families almost quarreled because of some small things, and it turned out that when picking up the bride, Li Jia's parents were reluctant to open the door and had to ask her son-in-law to agree to her two requests.
First, you must take care of the brother-in-law's affairs later!
Second, when the parents-in-law are old, the son-in-law cannot look at them and ignore them.
Even though Li Jia's husband agreed to these two requests, her parents still had to charge an opening fee of 8888 yuan to let the bride out.
Having said that, everyone present understood that the bride's family was not getting along well, and they all looked at the groom. Although the groom agreed to the previous conditions, he did not agree to give the door a red envelope because he was also a little angry.
Neither side gave in, and they remained deadlocked at the door, because Li Jia's aunts said a few words that were not very generous to the groom, which almost led to a quarrel between relatives on both sides.
Although Li Jia's mother's family took the initiative to compromise and took the initiative to open the door, Li Jianiang's family was not easy to get along with, but it spread among the groom's relatives.
Due to the affairs of her mother's family, Li Jia has not had a good relationship with her mother-in-law after marriage!
When Li Jia got married, her in-laws prepared a marriage room for them. Although the mother-in-law has always been dissatisfied with Li Jia, fortunately, the in-laws have not moved in with them.
The husband thought that he could live quietly after marriage, but he did not expect that his mother did not give up the idea of letting her help her brother.
As long as the younger brother encounters something outside, her mother will always come to tell Li Jia, in fact, the implication is to let Li Jia pay some money.
After more times, Li Jia once had a question, why did her brother have such a hard time?
At first, when Li Jia was still working, she would give some money, but after Li Jia gave birth to a child, her mother rarely came to her, because Li Jia had no income.
However, when encountering some major events, parents will still find Li Jia's husband for help. According to statistics, Li Jia's parents have borrowed about 50,000 yuan from her son-in-law over the years, and Li Jia's younger brother has also borrowed 20,000 yuan from her brother-in-law. The money is not borrowed at one time, but is remembered for thousands of dollars at a time.
Later, seeing that the money could not be returned, Li Jia's husband did not lend it to them anymore, and after repeatedly refusing to cause discord between the two sides, Li Jia and her husband lived a peaceful life.
Li Jia has been at home with children for several years, and because she does not have any income, the family expenses are borne by her husband alone.
Li Jia could not get the money to help her brother buy a house, and her mother had repeatedly asked Li Jia's mother-in-law to borrow money, which finally led to Li Jia's family not being able to return!
When Li Jia and her son got married, her mother-in-law felt that there were too many things in her daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family, and how much money her son lent to her in-laws in recent years, Li Jia's mother-in-law had a number in her heart
She saw that her son and daughter-in-law had a relatively stable life in recent years, so she did not mention this matter again, but in the end, because of the affairs of her daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family, a lot of unpleasant things happened between her mother-in-law and Li Jia.
In November 2021, Li Jia's brother was ready to get married, because the woman's parents proposed a dowry of 160,000 yuan and a request for a marriage room, which made Li Jia's parents feel very stressed because they could not come up with so much money.
After they calculated the amount they needed, they opened their mouths to borrow money from Li Jia, they originally wanted to borrow it from their son-in-law, but the amount was too high, and they were not very good at opening their mouths, so they hoped to convey it through their daughters, or let their daughters find a way to make it up.
After Li Jia made up seven thousand yuan, she said that she had no money, and refused to ask her husband, because Li Jia knew that her husband did not have so much money, and if she opened her mouth, she would definitely make her husband unhappy!
But the parents did not understand Li Jia's behavior, they even felt that Li Jia was a little unkind, and how could they give such a point when their brother got married?
They had asked Li Jia for money many times, or asked Li Jia to find a way to make up money, but Li Jia did not actively cooperate with them. After the parents saw that they could not get money from Li Jia, they began to borrow money from relatives instead.
Even though many relatives are willing to help, it is still not enough for the down payment to buy a house, in order to buy a house for their son, the parents have found Li Jia, and they ask Li Jia to ask her mother-in-law to borrow money this time.
Li Jia's mother-in-law runs two supermarkets, and her father-in-law is also in the building materials business, so her mother will let Li Jia ask them to borrow money. Due to the bad relations between the two sides in recent years, and the mother-in-law is very disgusted with her mother's family, Li Jia resolutely expressed her opposition.
After repeated persuasions were fruitless, her parents directly bypassed Li Jia to find her in-laws. When she first went to borrow money, her mother-in-law did not refuse or agree to the matter, but asked for Li Jia's opinion.
After the parents and brother promised Li Jia everything, Li Jia agreed to borrow money from her mother-in-law from her parents, and at that time, the two sides agreed that after Li Jia's brother's wedding banquet, they would first repay 50,000 yuan, and the remaining 100,000 would be repaid in two years!
Where do you know that after the brother's wedding banquet, the parents not only did not repay the loan according to the agreement, but even asked Li Jia's mother-in-law to borrow another 30,000 yuan to buy a car. At that time, Li Jia's mother had explained that she had not repaid the loan on time, and also took the initiative to apologize.
She said that when she got married, she did not calculate the expenditure, and then they would repay the loan immediately when they had money, and the follow-up said this, your family does not lack this money, it is a big deal that I will write you an IOU!
Seeing that the last time she owed money was unwilling to return, this time Li Jia's mother-in-law did not lend money to her relatives anymore, but reprimanded Li Jia's parents, and even Li Jia took them in, and even they asked Li Jia's parents to take their daughters away after they paid back the money.
After hearing these words, Li Jia felt very embarrassed and ashamed, so she did not refute her mother-in-law's words, but directly left the house.
Her husband had asked her to go home many times during the period, but Li Jia had not returned, because her in-laws had already moved in, and they were worried that their son would suffer losses at the hands of Li Jia, and the mother-in-law had recently been asking for money from her relatives!
Because she did not dare to face her mother-in-law, Li Jia could not return to her home, and she had recently been living in a friend's house!