After 4 marital changes, the first love girlfriend finally lived the life she wanted

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Reader's Letter:

Muzi Lee:

I've had fun with my first girlfriend for more than a year, and more often than not, she's picking at me.

Eventually, the two of us broke up, for reasons: I didn't live the way she wanted to be, and crucially, I didn't want to lose myself for love either.

Less than half a year after we broke up, she got married in a hurry. Unfortunately, the relationship lasted less than half a year, and she divorced the other party. She complained to me at the time: the other party was not romantic enough;

After another six months, she married again, the marriage is still very short, her explanation for divorce: the other party is a bit unprofessional;

Her third husband, a handsome man, could not tolerate the other party's flowers, so she also divorced.

When she complained to me again, I was actually a little irritable, and said to her: Feelings are a matter of two people, when you have requirements for others, first weigh up your own pounds and a few pounds, and ask yourself how much you have invested in this relationship, and your current true state.

It's a reminder, it's a taunt.

She hasn't complained to me since, and she's now in her fourth marriage, which she's now in for 6 years. In my perception: she should now live the life she wants, that she should be happy now.

Muzi Li edited the following words:

When we were very young: a candy, a bag of snacks, or a toy, we could have fun for a long time.

After we went to school, everyone actually focused on academic performance, and some of them really worked hard to learn, but their academic performance was very average. Or genetic self is not learning material at all. At this time, it is inevitable to wonder whether "three points of inheritance, seven points of effort" is false, and what I want to say is that it is indeed false.

After we join the work, we aspire to have a loving person who is compatible with the heart, and in the end, we are not defeated by the fit.

I don't know when we started, we gradually became obsessed with money, but found that the starting line, opportunities, family situation, ability are very important. So those who lose at the starting line, those who fail to seize the opportunity, those who come from very ordinary families, will sigh, money is hard to earn, is hard to eat.

So, we have specific troubles at every age.

About adults: Career and love are two main lines, and sometimes, either we're not good enough, or maybe we're a little bit unlucky.

The reason why your first love girlfriend can now ensure the stability of the marriage is because: 1) she did not have a clear understanding of herself before, and your preaching to her played a role; 2) With the increase of age, her concept of marriage and love and her attitude towards marriage have changed qualitatively.

You are bound to be married and have children now, about your first love girlfriend, you better not worry about it, after all, it is unfair to your wife.

Reminder to you: Don't focus too much on the people and things that have been lost, and hope that you can cherish your current happy life.

We are not all walking and stopping in this life, and in the choice or feel happiness, or feel regret.

In fact, no matter what we have experienced before, we must firmly believe that all the people who can still accompany us are important people. Even the mistakes of the past, in the river of human growth, will become an invisible wealth, at least, let us be a little smarter.