The ancients cloud "four great joys of life", the long drought of the land of heaven descended nectar, people in other places met the old know, the wedding night cave room candles, after the scientific expedition gold list title. The process of people's growth is the first gold list inscription after the cave house flower candle, after 8090 people have passed the period of the gold list title, facing the problem of marriage. According to the data, the marriage rate after the 90s is only ten percent, which can be described as unbearable, China's population of all ages is unevenly distributed, the elderly population is large, and the newborn birth rate has fallen to single digits year after year. In the last century, in the 1980s and 1990s, the state strictly implemented family planning and severely punished families with overbirths. Now that the three-child policy is open, the proportion of marriage and children has declined. It is difficult to get married in the city, it is even more difficult to get married in the countryside, I heard that the woman not only wants a sky-high bride price but also requires "2 throws 3 sides and 4 rounds", what is this?
First say "2 dumps"
Specifically, it refers to the self-reliance of the man's father and mother after marriage. Since ancient times, there have been families, virtuous wives and good mothers used to describe people's lives and families, in today's view, this sentence can be said in reverse: mothers and wives have established a family, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult interpersonal relationship since ancient times, whether it is the door to the door, when it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many newlywed wives have a headache. In the previous social environment, no matter where it was, it was necessary to obey the husband. The woman lives with the man's family after marriage, even if the family is not harmonious, it will not easily quarrel or even fight.
Nowadays, the social status of women is constantly improving, most women express their reluctance to live with the man's parents before marriage, on the one hand, the woman is spoiled by her parents at home as a little princess and does not want to look at the faces of others to live, on the other hand, the woman in addition to going to work every day to take care of the children, but also to take care of the man's parents feel too much pressure. However, there are still women who accept to live with the father's parents, not only can they take care of each other, but the father's parents can also help with the children when the two families are busy, reducing the pressure on women's lives.
The second is "3 sides"
Side 1 specifically refers to the location of the house. Buying a house in the urban area, people should consider the children going to school and the elderly to seek medical treatment, the house is best to choose the location of the school district close to the hospital, and the rural house selection should also look at the golden location. Rural housing should be selected in a convenient location near the roadside, which is convenient for travel and convenient for doing some small business in the future.
The second side refers to the fact that the man is an only child. Families with many children will inevitably have property disputes after a hundred years of parents, and even if they get along in ordinary times, there is also a problem of eccentricity between people. Only children can avoid such problems, parents are single-mindedly only for one child, and there will be no concubine contradictions when the woman marries in the past.
The third side refers to the in-laws who are young, young and healthy. This request is entirely for the woman to marry and not to serve the in-laws immediately. Although the law does not oblige the woman to support her in-laws, from the perspective of moral system, it is also necessary for a woman to support her in-laws. The in-laws are not very old and healthy, which can not only help the new family financially, but also reduce the burden on the new family life. Newlyweds do not have to bear high medical expenses, do not have to serve the elderly, children and elderly help, such a family is perfect.
Finally, "4 rounds"
Although the price of the wedding bride price in the countryside is not high compared to the city, it is required to have a car. In the past, people's living standards were not high, and travel depended on bicycles, and if anyone bought a motorcycle, they would be envied by many families. Nowadays, the improvement of the living standards of every household has become a necessity, especially in the countryside, it is inconvenient to travel, if there is a car at home, it can be another matter. In today's society, the man's car is a mandatory requirement for marriage, and it also provides convenience for the woman to return to her mother's home.
Judging from the above requirements, rural marriage is no longer limited to the material requirements of money, but is more of a spiritual satisfaction. In this era of imbalance between men and women, it does take a certain amount of effort for men to marry their wives.