Recently, "Xiao MinJia" is very popular, which is a film and television work that is both close to life and far from life.
The TV series mainly revolves around several divorced and remarried couples. They are Liu Xiaomin and her ex-husband Jin Bo, Liu Xiaojie and Tong Bing, Xu Zheng, Chen Zhuo and Li Ping. According to reality, in recent years, the divorce rate of young and middle-aged couples has become higher and higher, and the TV series will focus on these divorced couples, which is indeed based on today's real social conditions. So, what kind of enlightenment will the experience of these characters give us in reality?
First, let's look at the couple Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo. Their union is not because of love, but more because of fit. Because Jin Bo's family conditions are good, the work is also good, and the two grew up together, but also have the love of green plum bamboo horses, plus the Jin Bo family has a lot of care for the Liu family, out of conditions and gratitude, so Liu Mother is bent on letting her daughter marry him, so that her daughter will live a so-called good life.
Isn't it commonplace to have no love and only the right marriage model today? In order to work and survive in this inner-rolled society, today's young people have no time to take care of personal happiness in the early stages, and when they become the so-called elderly leftover men and women, they can only live together through blind dates and other ways.
They end up divorcing, not only because there is no basis for love, but more because it is superficially appropriate, but it is actually not appropriate. Liu Xiaomin is a chief nurse, positive and lawful in life, dressed in fashionable and beautiful, while Jin Bo is an alcoholic, does not think of making progress all day, relies on a rich father to live, the husband and wife personality is also incompatible, divorce is inevitable.
After the divorce, Liu Xiaomin met her later husband Chen Zhuo, and the personalities of both of them belonged to the calm and calm type. Coupled with the fact that they are middle-aged divorced and remarried, they choose their partners more carefully, not only to like, but also to be suitable. It is because there is more rationality in the treatment of feelings, their combination can be plain and not lose the fun of life. They feel sorry for each other, support each other, face problems hand in hand, treat feelings seriously, and can move forward together when they encounter difficulties.
Middle-aged couples have faded the extremes and recklessness of their youth, and have more stability and maturity. At this stage, the husband and wife are mediocre in life, only chai rice oil and salt all day, but they have integrated each other into their hearts, and love and affection account for half of each other. They know how to support each other and encourage each other in life, and the days seem ordinary, but in fact, the feelings are very strong.
You don't have to say anything, I understand; you don't have to be afraid of anything, we face it together, which is the best interpretation of love for middle-aged couples.
The marriage of Xiaomin's sister Liu Xiaojie is also a typical example in real life. Liu Xiaojie does not have a sister who is calm and calm, lacks consideration in doing things, and has a very serious love brain, in order to get the so-called love, you can be desperate.
She and her first husband were acquainted through a game, flash marriage after love, the two sides know very little, and various drawbacks broke out after marriage. The first is that falling in love to getting married is too quick, and neither party has considered whether it is because of love or freshness. Secondly, the man is a mother treasure man, Xiao Min can be said to have no status after marrying in the past, nor is he respected by the in-laws, such a marriage is doomed to last.
And then she and her second husband. Her acquaintance with Xu Zheng was accidental, and it didn't take long to know each other, and she began to fall in love under the fierce pursuit of the other party. Obviously there was an unfortunate marriage, but she still does not have a long memory, the other party is slightly romantic, she fell, and her love brain is not generally serious, she did not say such a big thing to the family, directly with the boyfriend flash marriage, first cut and play later. Is this love brain impure and incurable?
Liu Xiaojie's personality is also doomed to make her marriage difficult to stabilize. She is the youngest child in the family, her parents have loved her more since she was a child, plus she has a stable and independent sister, she does not have to worry about anything, everything is considered for her, resulting in her lack of planning from childhood, impulsive and willful. Spoiled since childhood, she is too simple-minded, thinks that everything in the world is beautiful, and cannot see the sinister side of people's hearts, so she has repeatedly encountered unladylike people.
Chen Zhuo's ex-wife, Li Ping, is Chen Zhuo's first love, and the two people are free love, which should be the happiest couple, but in the end it is also the result of divorce. Although the two of them have a strong emotional foundation, their personalities are not suitable. This is also a common problem in real life. When in love, you can tolerate everything about each other, only emphasize love, do not consider the future, but marriage is not only maintained by the love of the head, the passion is like seawater, once it fades, it will eventually reveal a sharp knife-like stone.
Chen Zhuo, just like his name, is a very "calm" person, steady, not much ambition, just want to live in peace. But Li Ping is not such a person, she is a person with a strong sense of enterprise and self-motivation, she is not willing to live this kind of stable life, the conceptual gap is too large, although it is not long.
In general, these couples are married and combined, there are arranged parents, there are free love, although the reasons for the union are different, but without exception there is no good ending - they all fail on the surface of the fit.
The secret of long-term marriage lies in mutual tolerance and understanding, and the basis for maintaining mutual tolerance and understanding is the fit of personality, the so-called final love, loyalty to character.
The love and marriage of these couples and even divorce are very representative, basically covering the current situation of marriage in today's society. Of course, this also illustrates the liberation of modern women's minds. In the past, society promoted women to abide by the three virtues and take pride in chastity, but this chastity is distorted, does not support women's divorce and remarriage, and it locks women firmly in the siege of marriage.
From the TV of "Xiao MinJia", we can see that the increase in the divorce rate today, from the perspective of women, is partly because women's thinking is progressing, and the status of women in today's society is gradually rising, with their own careers and pursuits, and they can survive independently without relying on men.
Perhaps this is the unique charm of film and television works, close to life, but also far from life, if the visual sense of separation, in order to let us feel the unique life experience inside.