There is a classic line in the movie "To Youth":
"For women, love is all there is to life.
For men, love is only a small part of life.
No matter what kind of promise he gave at the beginning, when faced with a choice,
They are always more realistic and rational than women. ”
Some women, when they were young, immersed in the fairy tales of princesses and princes,
When I grew up, I was obsessed with the plot of handsome guys and fans,
All day long fantasizing about his own Prince Charming coming to meet her,
Love is really the whole of their lives.
But there are also some women, they are more sober, calm and rational,
They choose their partners, not to show off.
They choose marriage, not to satisfy vanity,
They are calm and gentle, firm and convinced,
They can harvest the most beautiful love and are the best at running marriages.
The person they want to marry can be not handsome, can have no money, but there will be the following 3 points.
There is a kind of man, even if he is not handsome and has no money in his waist, he is also the most annoying to women.
01 Bear hardships and stand hard work
As the saying goes: "Rich is not more than three generations",
But the diligence of "cultivating and reading heirlooms" can make a generation stronger than the next.
Professor Li Meijin wrote in the book "The Subtle Humanity":
"I once summarized several angles from which men attract women:
The first, looks;
Second, if you don't look good, you can only speak the Tao;
Third, there is money;
Fourth, the right;
The last one, if you don't have the first four, you can do it if you have feelings and righteousness.
What is sentient and righteous?
That is, you are real with people, can endure hardships, and can pay for people.
Well, this kind of man will also have someone to love. ”
After her friend Reiko graduated, she was admitted to the civil service in her hometown.
A year later, her college boyfriend broke up.
The ex-boyfriend blamed Reiko everywhere, saying that she had become realistic,
After so many years of feelings, I want to climb the branches when I am admitted to the civil service.
There are also many ugly words.
In the face of these accusations, Reiko only smiled faintly,
Gently speaking, it's not that they haven't given each other a chance, I've tried very hard, and I've cried bitterly.
But he graduated a year ago, and he was still not looking for a job, so he thought about playing games every day.
He's too lazy to move anything, too lazy to think, just to escape from reality,
We are all children of ordinary families, what else can we expect without our own efforts?
I don't know why some men will not hesitate to accuse women of reality,
It seems that when a woman thinks about material problems, she is "original sin."
In love, women should be realistic the most, and they should think about one step earlier.
A man who can't make a woman materially satisfied, simply doesn't have the right to say she's realistic.
Because as long as you bear hardships and stand hard work, be self-motivated,
Women who really love you see you working hard,
How can you feel that you have no future, you have no future, and choose to leave you?
02 High emotional intelligence
Shakespeare once said:
"Women fall in love with their ears, while men, if they have love, they fall in love with their eyes."
Professor Li Meijin also ranked "being able to speak the Tao" in the second point where men attract women.
Of course, there is no woman who doesn't like sweet talk.
But a wise woman must not only listen to what you say, but also see how you do.
They understood that the promise of the sea was only then.
Sweet talk is just comfortable to listen to, but has high emotional intelligence,
Can control their emotions, can empathize, can understand the state of mind of their lovers, can think of others,
Only when you get along are you comfortable, and your life is comfortable.
03 Thick road
We all know that to find someone with good character, how to know if his character is good or not?
At the very least, if he were a kind man,
A kind person can never do anything to hurt others.
When colleague Xiao Zhao talks about her husband, everyone can see the appreciation and satisfaction in her eyes.
At the beginning, Xiao Zhao's family said that his husband was not worthy of her, and wanted Xiao Zhao to find a better condition.
But Xiao Zhao was very firm in marrying him.
Xiao Zhao said that when he was in love, her husband had told her that he absolutely could not accept miscarriage because he had always felt that abortion was too cruel.
Xiao Zhao saw from this that her husband was a kind and good-hearted person.
It turns out that Xiao Zhao's choice is very correct.
Marry a kind person, there is no mistake.
Xiaojiao Heart Language:
Song Siming's original wife in the TV series "Snail Residence" once said such a passage:
"You are my husband, what I want, not how beautiful and prominent you are, how soaring you are."
That's all for outsiders.
All I want is to have a partner when I am old, and my child has a father.
However, now I know that I have paid for more than ten years,
What you get is not that when you are old, you have a person who supports each other to go to the cemetery, but you are making wedding clothes for others.
A woman of my age should have understood long ago,
Men are all the same,
Stepping stones are needed when you are young, you need a strong needle in middle age, and you need a crutch in your old age. ”
Of course, if this is a sad person, it will inevitably be a little extreme.
But it can also remind us that when a woman chooses a partner, it may be wiser if she can reverse the ranking of Teacher Li Meijin.
In fact, smart women have long done this.
I am Xiaojiao Heart Language, focusing on emotional writing and counseling, may my words nourish your heart, may we all live every moment of the moment, and live up to this life.
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