I know that there is a very hot question: why is it obviously a blind date, so that I still have to chase girls?
90% of the following high praise answers are men, and one of the highest praise answers is that there is such a group of women in the blind date market, and they really think that blind dates are "giving you a chance to chase her".
Many comments are one-sided, advising boys to change people, Ning Que is not indiscriminate, anti-PUA...
I can't help but wonder, in the eyes of some men, what is a blind date?
1. Blind date is not a commodity sale
It is said that what kind of people are popular in the blind date market and what kind of people are not popular. It's like it's a hypermarket, and people who come on a blind date are like picking a commodity that meets their own standards and asks.
Some people have concluded that men at the top pick women; men and women in the middle class pick each other, but women pick more men than men pick women; and women in the lower levels pick men.
But blind dates are not business, both sides are living people, flesh and blood and feelings! People are not commodities on the shelves, not that you think this person can, you can order to buy back, whether it is picked or picked can not be.
What is the essence of blind dates? In my opinion, this is to give you a channel to know and contact the opposite sex. After many people go to work, they are two points and one line, the circle of friends is limited, it is difficult to know the opposite sex of the right age, and blind dates are to let these people jump out of their own circles and have more ways to know the opposite sex.
Blind dates don't necessarily lead to the right person, but you can definitely get to know the opposite sex outside of your circle of friends. If there is any opportunity, it is the opportunity to know and contact more of the right age of the opposite sex, a chance to meet the true destiny of the heavenly son/goddess. And not who gives you a chance to chase her.
2, blind date girls still need to chase?
If you agree with what I said earlier, blind dates are to give each other a chance to get to know each other, then this question probably does not need to be asked.
Chasing or not chasing depends on whether you like her or not, or how much you like her, not on whether you know her on a blind date.
Suppose that girls who know each other on blind dates do not need to be chased. So according to this logic, how to spend this intermediate process from realizing marriage? Directly check the household registration, understand the economic situation, and if appropriate, start talking about how many bride price to give, how to hold the wedding ceremony?
People who know each other don't need to fall in love and understand each other about this process? Give a minimum of respect, please!
I'm not saying guys have to chase girls. If the two people who know each other on a blind date, girls like boys, girls can also take the initiative, "Ode to Joy" in the rich second generation of Qu Xiaoxiu, don't you still chase Dr. Zhao? Don't say they don't know each other on a blind date. This is not a reason.
Who chases whom depends on your own charm and how much you like each other, not the way and way you know each other. In case you fall in love at first sight, then no one will need to chase anyone. Even if you don't chase, there is always a party to take the initiative.
Therefore, really don't use blind dates to demean a person, or use blind dates to cover up your reluctance, you don't like to say you don't like it, you don't want to do it, no one forces you. You use your own way to accomplish your life goals, don't complain.
Quite simply, if you meet a girl like Di Li Reba on a blind date, will you still hesitate to chase or not chase?
3, no one wants to be the dish to be picked
I think the reason why young people are so resistant to blind dates is because the feeling of being commodified is so bad. Who wants to be a dish on the shelf? Being labeled, facing people back and forth, being picked and pointed at random, is so hurtful.
Blind dates have been quite a long time ago, not in modern times. The parents' generation also knows a lot of blind dates, and if they are interested in each other, the man will also have a lot of actions. A netizen said that his father would run from his own village to his mother's house in another village to help with farm work. Doing farm work was secondary, and the idea was to see my mother more and stay a little longer.
Although people in the past would also consider whether each other's conditions matched, they were really not as utilitarian and mean as people now. As a result, blind dates have become a market.
Treating blind dates as a market-like behavior, and ignoring the more important emotional factors, is doomed to not get a lover. Maybe you will be married because of this, but can a marriage without feelings be strong and happy? After we have talked about freedom of love and freedom of marriage for so many years, do we want to go back to the era of blind marriage and dumb marriage?
It is more important to put the position and mentality right and then go on a blind date than to discuss whether to chase the blind date.
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