It is often said: distance produces beauty! This is especially true for family affection, because if love is separated for a long time, without emotional maintenance, sooner or later it will fall apart. But family affection is not the same, family affection is a memory engraved in the genes, the longer separated, the stronger the stirring in the heart.
Therefore, people always carry a perfect filter for distant relatives. Because you can access the other person's information, it's basically the good side. This is not the case with relatives who are close at hand, although you get along day and night, it is reasonable to say that the feelings should be deeper. Unfortunately, because it is close at hand, no matter whether the good or bad information is received, it will be received as ordered.
Xiaofang and her mother-in-law have been living under the same roof for more than ten years, so many years, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good or bad, in short, it is inevitable that all kinds of bumps and bumps will not be possible, but it will not make Xiaofang unable to go on. The only thing that made her feel bad was that her mother-in-law was so good to her young son who was far away that she felt that she was not worth it.
It turned out that Xiaofang's little uncle was five years younger than her husband, Arwen, and in the early years, because her mother-in-law's family was relatively poor, Arwen, who had poor academic performance, had left the society early, in addition to earning money to support himself, he also had to provide living expenses for his uncle who went to college from time to time. But these efforts are all deserved in the eyes of the mother-in-law, because the mother-in-law's concept is that the eldest brother is like the father.
Later, through his own efforts, the little uncle took root in the big city and settled down, and every month he would send money home to filial piety to his mother-in-law. This makes the mother-in-law even happier, feeling that there is no white pain for the younger son, going out to praise the younger son is really filial piety, and the eldest son will only listen to the daughter-in-law's words, and the daughter-in-law will make her unhappy all day.
Xiao Fang did not have any opinion on the little uncle, because the little uncle read a lot of books, was a reasonable person, and he also had great respect for her when he saw her. It's just the eccentric eyes of the mother-in-law, which makes her feel very uncomfortable, although there will be various small contradictions between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but usually who is taking care of the mother-in-law, is the mother-in-law not counting in her heart?
Let's say that the time when the mother-in-law had a leg pain before the operation, it was not Xiaofang who took a month off to serve her mother-in-law at home? Every time you eat, you have to bring it to the bed, and even going to the toilet is helped by Xiaofang to the toilet. Why have you paid so much, but you can't get the approval of your mother-in-law? This made her more angry the more she thought about it.
Some time ago, the mother-in-law did not know which tendon had offended the nerve, and suddenly wrote down a will, saying that after a hundred years, she would leave the old house to her younger son. Although Xiaofang and Ah Wen have bought a house in the county town after hard work, the house in the village not only has their common memories, but also has a share of Ah Wen!
This made Xiao Fang explode immediately, you don't recognize me, you are biased towards the younger son is good, even if it is, I have worked hard to take care of you for more than ten years, but the result is not enough to withstand the little uncle's few words of booing and asking warm?
"The little uncle has to give living expenses every month, doesn't Arwen give it?" Yes, Arwen is giving a little less, but what you eat and drink, life and living, which one is not given by Me and Arwen? Xiao Fang cried and told her mother-in-law about the grievances in her heart, and returned to her mother's house in a huff, no matter how Much Ah Wen persuaded, Xiao Fang was unwilling to come back.
After learning of this, the little uncle felt deeply guilty and took time to return to his hometown from the city. The little uncle did not even enter the eldest brother's house, and directly let the eldest brother follow him and visit his sister-in-law's house again. Under the emotional narration of the little uncle, Xiao Fang reluctantly agreed to go home with them, and she wanted to see how the brothers were going to deal with the stubborn old woman.
After returning home, the mother-in-law was very happy to see the young son who suddenly appeared, but before she could express her joy, she saw the eldest daughter-in-law who appeared behind, which made her face sink again.
After seeing this scene, the little uncle took the lead in breaking the silence. The little uncle said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, I know that you hurt me, but you must know that the son is working outside because you have a sister-in-law to take care of, and I have no worries about the future to be so smooth." If it wasn't for my sister-in-law, I would have taken care of you instead, and I'm afraid you and I wouldn't be so good. ”
Subsequently, the little uncle counted the efforts and efforts made by Xiaofang for this family and for her mother-in-law, and every sentence was reasonable and reasonable, so that the mother-in-law could not refute it. Finally, the little uncle said that compared with the efforts of the eldest brother and the eldest sister-in-law, he did too little for the family, so the mother-in-law gave him the old house, and he was ashamed. Even if it was finally given to him, he would unconditionally transfer it to his brother and sister-in-law.
After saying something, the mother-in-law bowed her head and was silent. And Xiao Fang saw that the little uncle was so reasonable, and the grievance in her heart was also alleviated a lot. She decided that even if the mother-in-law insisted on giving the old house to the little uncle, she would not object, and she would still give the mother-in-law a pension and send her to the end. However, if that is the case, then from then on she has only obligations to her mother-in-law, not affection.
epilogue
People are really strange sometimes, and they always like to pick and choose between the people closest to them. However, after changing an outsider, he suddenly became very "open-minded and enlightened", always able to find various excuses for other people's mistakes, and it was easy to be moved by a little favor from others.
But the same thing is very different from the person closest to you, and the person close to you makes a small mistake and can easily make a big splash. People close to you who do good things will feel that this is taken for granted, and there is no need to affirm it. This kind of behavior of "far away and near smell" is one of the main reasons for family discord.
Therefore, each of us should have a scale in our hearts, especially parents, and we should be fair and just. Otherwise, if you deviate from your heart, you will hurt people's hearts, and you may eventually hurt yourself.