Ah Hong, a 34-year-old who lives in the Pingtan Comprehensive Experimental Zone, married Ah Wen in the next town in January 2018, and at the end of 2018, Ah Hong gave birth to two children. Who knows, not long after the child was born, Ah Hong ran away from home. Not long ago, Ah Hong suddenly asked the gang group to intervene, saying that she wanted to go home and talk to her husband's family. What the hell is going on in this home?
The daughter-in-law's sudden return after many years of absence has caused controversy
Ah Hong and her father-in-law, Yao Laobo, had an argument over Ah Hong's ran away from home. Yao Laobo said that Ah Hong had been away from home for many years, and suddenly appeared at the door of his home, leaving him overwhelmed.
Yao Laobo
I stayed confined at home for 33 days and then ran away from home.
Red
Everything he said now was a bull's head against the horse's mouth. He gave me confinement for forty days, and I remember it very clearly.
So, why did Ah Hong leave her husband's house? Previously, Ah Hong had confided in the mediation team.
Daughter-in-law: Scared by the man's father with a knife, so he left home
The night we left home, we had dinner, my husband and I were upstairs with the kids, and then the in-laws came back and argued with me inexplicably. When my relatives told me that I was going to take the child away, I said I didn't, and then there was a lot of noise, and he (my father-in-law) took a knife that was almost as long as a flat shoulder.
However, Yao Laobo's statement is not so.
After she left, she came back again in about five or six months, and she was going to take the child, and I took a knife and put it on the table, and you dared to take it. I'll kill your head to scare her.
The mediation team felt that if it was only a misunderstanding caused by the communication of outsiders, the family could explain to each other. But Ah Hong left in years, which is incomprehensible. Ah Hong said that the main reason for running away from home for many years was that the husband's family concealed that her husband had mental illness.
Daughter-in-law: Suspect that the man's family concealed Arvin's medical history before marriage
Ah Hong told us that in 2017, she was introduced by a matchmaker to meet Ah Wen, and the two quickly came together. In January 2018, the two registered their marriage and went on a trip. During the trip, Ah Hong accidentally found that Ah Wen had been taking psychiatric drugs.
He said that he had been suffering from the disease for almost five or six years, and he did not realize it before he got married, that he had schizophrenia, and that he was normally polite and polite.
Lawyer: The woman may apply for the annulment of the marriage within one year of becoming aware of the situation
So, whether people with mental illness can get married, legal experts discussed this phenomenon in the "Gang Gang" lawyer came to the webcast program.
Ding Zhaozeng, Associate Professor, School of Law, Fujian Normal University
Before the "Marriage Law", there are provisions that can not marry diseases, such as infectious diseases, like this kind of mental illness, can not be married, but now from the perspective of human nature, mental patients are allowed to marry, if he is intermittent or, he can have a certain consciousness, drugs can be controlled, then he can apply for a marriage license, this marriage is valid. But our "Civil Code" also has provisions, before marriage there is a history of concealment of mental illness or infectious diseases, or other such major diseases, there is concealment before marriage, only after marriage to learn, as Ah Hong said, after receiving the marriage license, go to the travel process to know, it should be obvious that the man before marriage has concealment, in this case, Ah Hong in accordance with the provisions of the "Civil Code" can go to revoke the marriage, annulment of marriage has time requirements, from knowing this matter within one year.
However, Ah Hong said that after learning that Ah Wen had a mental third-degree disability, she listened to her husband's family and did not apply to the court in time to annul the marriage.
Who knows, Ah Wen's situation has not improved, so that Ah Hong gradually lost hope.
He would sometimes talk to himself at home, cry and laugh at home, one night I asked him to pour boiling water for me to drink, he almost poured a bowl of boiling water from my face, usually at night if there is no medication to control, his disease will recur.
At the end of 2018, she asked the court to annul the marriage, but because she was pregnant at the time, the court could not accept it, Ahong said. In desperation, Ah Hong could only give birth to a child. Ah Hong said that after giving birth to the child, she left the house after arguing with her husband's family.
In this regard, we also asked Lao Bo Yao for verification.
The man wants custody of the child
The mediation team believes that if both men and women have major diseases, they must inform each other in advance before marriage, otherwise even if the two parties are married, it will affect the feelings of the husband and wife. Now, Ah Hong has been away from home for many years, and she hopes to negotiate with Ah Wen so that she can get together and disperse.
In Yao Laobo's view, his son fell ill, his daughter-in-law left home, and the family became fragmented, but because of the arrival of his grandson, he was given great comfort. Now the child's guardian Ah Hong has returned and filed for divorce. The mediation team speculated that Yao Laobo was worried that the child would be taken away by Ah Hong. In previous interviews, Ah Hong and the mediation team discussed the issue of child rearing.
Since I left his house, the children are generally not at home, and they are carried to Fuzhou by his grandmother. Go back and see the child, sometimes you can see the child, sometimes you can't see it.
Hearing that Ah Hong would not take the child, Old Uncle Yao's attitude changed.
Outcome of mediation: The man agrees to visit the child once a month in the divorce
In the end, the two parties agreed that the child would be temporarily raised by the man's family, and Ah Hong could choose to visit the child once a month on the weekend.
The mediation team feels that marriage is a major event in life, in order to be happy after marriage, both parties should fully understand each other, if one party suffers from a major illness, they should tell each other frankly before marriage, so that the other party can make a true awareness of whether they are willing to marry under full knowledge, so that they can get along better after marriage. Now that Ah Hong's child has also been born, the mediation team also hopes that the two sides can give in to each other and give the child a more secure future.