There are many "brothers and demons" in life, some of which are because they have been indoctrinated with wrong ideas in the abnormal family education of the three views since childhood, and some are caused by the coercion and inducement of strong parents.
In short, if you can't face it squarely and solve this problem quickly, then your life will be seriously affected. Arvin falls into the latter case.
When Arwen was about to graduate from college, he did not feel relieved, but was very anxious to get busy with his work and make various preparations. Fortunately, because Arvin himself was also very motivated, he was recognized by the internship company shortly after graduating, and soon became a regular employee, and his salary also rose sharply.
Arwen was very happy and immediately called his mother to announce the good news. Speaking of his mother, Arwen felt very sad. When he was in middle school, his parents bore him a younger brother, but shortly after his brother was born, his father died in an accident. Since then, the mother has supported the family alone, not only to take care of her brother, but also to provide for his schooling.
Now that Arwen can finally make money, he excitedly expresses his joy to his mother and proudly tells her that he can help share the responsibilities of the family in the future. After listening to it, her mother was also very happy, and she told Arwen to go to work well and cherish the job, which made Arwen smile and keep nodding.
What Ah Wen did not expect was that the original mother's instructions turned out to have another deep meaning.
After paying the first month's salary, Arwen deducted his rent and living expenses, and originally planned to send 1,000 yuan home to his mother, and planned to arrange it every month in the future. Although he still has a few thousand yuan of savings left, first, his family conditions are not good, and second, he is also old, and he needs to save some wife.
But unexpectedly, when her mother learned that he had left thousands of dollars for herself, she was immediately unhappy and asked Arwen to send her another 1,000 yuan to go home. The mother said that she had worked hard to pull their brothers to grow up over the years, and now that Arwen could earn money, it was time to honor her, and he had to save some savings for his younger son.
Although he was not very happy in his heart, thinking of his mother's efforts over the years, Ah Wen's heart still softened, so he raised the original plan of 1,000 yuan per month to 2,000 yuan per month.
As the days passed, Arwen not only got on the right track in his career, but also gained his first love in the company, which was a newly hired female colleague of the company, who was taken in by Arwen at a glance. However, this love did not last long, not that Arwen did not love, nor did the woman not love, but the woman was frightened by Arwen's mother.
It turned out that after being in love with his girlfriend for a while, Arwen felt that the timing was right, so he took her home to meet his mother. As a result, the girlfriend and the mother just met well, but after the meal small talk, the mother inadvertently proposed to Arwen to help support her brother's schooling and marriage in the future, the girlfriend did not make a sound after listening, but immediately went back to break up with Arwen, and in order to avoid embarrassment, she left her job before turning positive.
When Arwen learned the reason, he was remorseful and complained to his mother in his heart, he did not promise to raise his brother, he could help, but his mother put the heavy responsibility on him, and he couldn't stand it. Therefore, Arwen confessed his thoughts to his mother, but unexpectedly exchanged for a stinky scolding, saying that Arwen was a white-eyed wolf and raised him so big in vain. This upset Arvin.
Half a year later, Arwen found another girlfriend, and before taking it home, Arwen repeatedly told his mother in advance that he should never talk about raising his brother again. For the sake of Arvin's lifelong events, her mother also agreed with her mouth. But what she thought in her heart was that after getting married, whether she could raise her or not was not a matter of words?
Sure enough, when Arwen took his girlfriend home again, his mother's enthusiasm made his girlfriend feel very happy, and several people were happy and harmonious, and they really felt like a family. Moreover, the girlfriend does not seem to be disgusted with Arwen's brother, which makes Arwen seem to see a bright future.
Before leaving, his mother and brother stood at the door to send Off Arwen, and when Arwen was about to get on the bus, his mother suddenly shouted to him: "Arwen, today is the 20th, don't forget to transfer money." Arwen was stunned for a moment and replied vaguely: "Got it." After saying that, he hurried to get into the car, but his heart was worried.
After a few minutes of silence, the girlfriend still spoke, and what she wanted to ask was what Arwen's mother suddenly said to her, "Transfer money". Arwen hesitated, he didn't know whether to tell his girlfriend and the truth, or to hide it for the time being? But after thinking about it, Arwen knew that this kind of thing could not be hidden, and in the end it was also to be said, so he had to tell the truth...
After returning to town, the girlfriend told Arwen that she needed to think again about the relationship. Although the girlfriend did not say it explicitly, from the performance of the girlfriend, Arwen has already got the answer.
At 10:30 p.m., Arwen, who was lying in bed in a daze, heard the ringing of his mobile phone and picked it up to see that it was his mother. His mother had come to collect living expenses, and Arwen suddenly had a feeling that he wanted to cry and laugh, so he told his mother about the fact that he had been broken up again.
After listening to Arwen's complaints, the mother on the other end of the phone was not the regret that Arwen imagined, and she also said angrily: "If you have divided well, you will not be allowed to give your brother money before you are married, and this woman cannot marry!" ”
Ah Wen was completely chilled: "Mom, my brother is your son, and I am also your son?" Why do you only care about my brother's happiness and ignore my happiness? ”
epilogue
A qualified parent is definitely not a dissatisfied parent who desires dissatisfaction in their children. Although children have the responsibility and obligation to support their parents, this kind of support needs to be measured and bottom-line, rather than using the child as a tool to satisfy their own selfish desires.
Endless exploitation of children is actually a practice of killing chickens and taking eggs. Children, intimidated by the majesty of their parents from an early age, may succumb temporarily. But when the child is forced into a desperate situation, it is easy to break with the parents.
Therefore, whether it is coveting a momentary happiness, or a long stream of water, enjoying the continuous filial piety of children, as long as it is a smart parent, they will know how to choose.
At the same time, I would like to say that children should bravely refuse the unreasonable demands of their parents. Otherwise, you will only face a lot of insufficiency and endless demands. In the end, the family affection you want to maintain cannot be maintained, and your life will become a mess