When a woman gets married, she will always face one problem or another. If it is a family trifle, it is enough, and the husband and wife have something to say. But if there is a sister-in-law who does not make people worry, it is really a headache.
Because the husband and wife can also quarrel at the head of the bed and the end of the bed, but if they quarrel with the sister-in-law, it may be a lifetime of mustard and cannot be resolved.
Xiaofang had contact with her mother-in-law for a period of time before getting married. At that time, Xiaofang was still a little lucky, because although her mother-in-law was a rural person with no culture, she was more easy-going, not strong, and not unreasonable. Not to mention the father-in-law, the honest farmer, who just saw her as a girl in the "city", smiled so hard that his mouth was not closed.
What she didn't expect was that she escaped the contradiction between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but she couldn't hide from the contradiction between her sister-in-law.
Xiao Fang's sister-in-law is 10 years apart from her husband, Ah Wen, and due to her young age, she has been favored at home since she was a child. When she first got married, her sister-in-law was only 15 years old, and she looked like a girl with a lot of water spirits, and when she saw Xiaofang, she always shouted "sister-in-law" vigorously.
However, I don't know when it started, XiaoFang gradually felt that something was wrong, and the sister-in-law began to target her intentionally or unintentionally. Although it is not obvious, but the woman's intuition will not be wrong, Xiaofang is thinking about whether he has offended her somewhere?
Then something happened, and Xiaofang finally knew the reason. On that day, the sister-in-law came to the city to play, and at night she stayed at her brother and sister-in-law's house. At that time, Xiaofang was worried that her sister-in-law had no money to spend, and she also took 300 yuan to her, and as a result, after this scene was seen by Ah Wen, she criticized Xiaofang a few words, saying that she had grown up and could no longer casually find her sister-in-law to ask for money, even if she wanted, she would have to ask him.
The sister-in-law felt a little aggrieved, because this was What Xiaofang took the initiative to give her, and it was not her initiative to ask for it, so she angrily threw the money on the ground and said: "Brother, since you married your sister-in-law, you have become less and less concerned about me, anyway, what your sister-in-law does is right, and what I do is wrong." After saying that, the sister-in-law slammed the door and left, leaving a stunned Ah Wen and Xiao Fang full of embarrassment.
It turned out that the sister-in-law felt that she had robbed her brother's love? After figuring this out, Xiao Fang couldn't laugh or cry. But what she did not expect was that although the sister-in-law was young, her ability to remember revenge was very large. Since then, Xiaofang has never taken the initiative to talk to her again, even if they meet, their nose is not their nose, and their faces are not their faces.
XiaoFang took the initiative to find opportunities several times to ease the relationship with her sister-in-law, but all of them ended in failure, and finally she had no choice but to give up: Since you don't want to get along well, then I am too lazy to be a bad person anymore.
A few years later, the sister-in-law graduated from college, and suddenly wanted to partner with her classmates to open a shop and start a business, and needed a start-up capital of 30,000 yuan. This money, the sister-in-law naturally can not afford, so she found Arwen. In the third year after marriage, Ah Wen gave the family's financial power to Xiao Fang, so in the end, Ah Wen found Xiao Fang again.
Originally, the sister-in-law had asked for something, and it was not a big deal to borrow tens of thousands of dollars from her. But the problem is that the sister-in-law has just graduated from college and is in a hurry to start a business, and Xiaofang is not optimistic. Once the loss is lost, the money does not know when it will be repaid. On the other hand, Xiaofang's attitude towards her over the years has long chilled her heart, so when borrowing money, she is very hesitant.
Although XiaoFang did not want to borrow much, after all, blood was thicker than water, and finally under the constant pleading of Ah Wen, Xiao Fang still borrowed thirty thousand yuan to her sister-in-law.
As expected, the sister-in-law's shop lost everything in less than three months. Xiao Fang, who was not optimistic about it, was even more anxious this time, and these money needed to be returned in the Year of the Monkey.
After another three years, the sister-in-law is about to get married. Before getting married, Ah Wen discussed with Xiao Fang that he would give ten thousand gifts to his sister-in-law. Xiao Fang, who was already distressed that thirty thousand yuan would not come back, was even more dissatisfied. She told Arwen that if the thirty thousand yuan was a gift, she would not come back anyway, but don't take it out again.
After Ah Wen listened, although he felt that something was wrong, he also knew that this was already a compromise solution. Therefore, he had to take this statement back and report it to his sister in advance, so as not to misunderstand her.
Originally, Arwen thought that his sister could understand, but he did not expect that as soon as he finished speaking, his sister's face went black. She said contemptuously to Arwen: "Brother, after all these years, you still haven't changed at all, what does your sister-in-law say, how do you do it?" I am your sister, just thirty thousand yuan you still want to go back? Now you have to pay off your debts? ”
I don't know whether it is because my sister has grown up and become strong, or because after Arwen handed over the financial power of the family, the momentum of his brother has also disappeared, and in the face of his sister's yin and yang weirdness, Arwen can't even say a word of rebuttal, and he slipped home.
When she learned of Ah Wen's encounter, Xiao Fang was suddenly angry: did she get cheap or sell well? You don't give me a good look, and I don't give you mercy.
On the day of the sister-in-law's wedding, Xiaofang still prepared a "big red packet". However, when singing, it surprised everyone. It turned out that in the big red envelope prepared by Xiaofang, there was no cash, but a note written on red paper: "A debt as a gift, worth thirty thousand!" ”
After seeing these big words, everyone present was stunned. Soon, word spread through the wedding scene. The sister-in-law completed the big thing of her life in this awkward atmosphere...
epilogue
Brothers, clear accounting, this is the truth since ancient times.
Between relatives, the most taboo is that there is no measure and do not know how to keep a distance. Out of love for our loved ones, we may often make some acts of gratuitous help, but this kind of behavior is from the heart and willing.
If you can't see this clearly, and always feel that the help of your relatives is taken for granted, or even inched forward, then relatives can help each other because of family affection, and they will also turn against each other because of money. Such examples abound in reality.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between relatives is, we must clearly calculate the economic account. In particular, brothers and sisters who are destined to start their own families and live separately do not have financial disputes, and they must be able to borrow and repay. You can owe, but you can't.