The love that comes from begging will never be cherished. This truth should be said that many people who have been married have deeply felt it. It can also be said that how resolute the person who took the initiative to court at the beginning will regret it after marriage.
Unfortunately, Xiaofang is one of them. At the beginning, for the so-called love, she did not hesitate to marry to the provinces, thinking that her efforts could be exchanged for the kindness of her in-laws, but she did not expect to become an "upside-down sticker".
Before getting married, Xiaofang, who only had a junior high school education, met Ah Wen in the south, and Ah Wen was not Xiao Fang's first boyfriend, but most of the previous relationships were because of the ignorance of adolescence. But Arwen made her feel a warm feeling of home, maybe she was old, maybe she had been wandering outside for a long time, and she suddenly had the idea of urgently starting a family.
Originally, XiaoFang just thought about it, and before deciding that the other party would definitely be Ah Wen, after all, Ah Wen's hometown and her hometown were thousands of miles away, and if she really wanted to marry him, then she would have to marry far away, which made her hesitate. However, her hesitation did not last long, and soon she was caught off guard by an accident.
XiaoFang was pregnant, and she did not expect to be pregnant only when she promised Ah Wen not to take precautions. After learning about this incident, Arwen was even more anxious than she was, and the two people wanted to cover up the mistake like a child who had done something wrong, and discussed to beat the child up. But when they were on their way to the hospital, XiaoFang touched her stomach that was not yet pregnant, and suddenly had a wonderful feeling.
She rested her head on Arwen's shoulder and said, "Let's get married!" ”
When Xiaofang's parents learned that she was pregnant and wanted to marry far away, they naturally disagreed, her father scolded her loudly, and her mother was bitter with her, telling her that she had married so far, and what could she do if she was wronged later? After my parents get old, it is not easy to see my daughter.
However, at this time, Xiao Fang, who has been overwhelmed by love and marriage, has made up her mind and cannot listen to any words from her parents, and she believes that Ah Wen will be good to her. In the end, Xiaofang married herself to the Arwen family thousands of miles away with almost no bride price. All her parents could do for her was to get her a separate home.
This so-called "house" was not immediately honored, but the in-laws promised Xiaofang's parents that after Xiaofang married, once they had saved enough money within two years, they would immediately buy a house for the two of them.
When she first arrived at Arwen's house, Xiaofang did not feel any discomfort, and only occasionally thought of her parents and family in the middle of the night, but it was only a faint sadness. Looking at her belly, which she shows day by day, and her kind and considerate and understanding husband and mother-in-law, she feels that she has not married the wrong person...
A year later, XiaoFang, who had originally sworn an oath, had already lived up to her original self-confidence. When the sweetness of love fades, there are only the blandness of chai rice oil and salt, and the contradiction with the personality of the in-laws and husbands. It turned out that the in-laws were kind to her at the beginning, but only because Xiaofang had just married and was pregnant, out of a kind of courtesy respect.
Over time, whether it is in-laws or husbands, Xiaofang gradually finds that they all have a side that they don't know, such as the father-in-law is delicious and lazy, and the vitriol and meanness hidden under the mother-in-law's smiling face. There is also her husband, Arwen, all the care and love for her at the beginning, and soon after marriage, gradually disappeared.
Only then did Xiaofang feel regret, regretting that she did not listen to her parents. Although Arwen has given her family a sense of happiness, is there any difference between her current situation and finding someone to marry in her hometown? Maybe it's better. Is it because I am married far away? Just because of their own "upside down"?
However, now that it is too late to regret it, Xiaofang can only hope for the purchase of the house promised by her in-laws. In her mind, as long as she lives separately from her in-laws, lives independently with Arwen, and lacks her in-laws' constraints, she is still sure to live a happy and warm life again. It is under this expectation that Xiaofang finally ushered in the day of buying a house.
At the beginning, the in-laws promised to buy a house for Xiaofang and Ah Wen, and only paid a down payment and did not repay the mortgage, but when the time came, the mother-in-law changed her mind and proposed that she could only pay 50,000 yuan. Although angry with her mother-in-law, Ah Wen and Xiao Fang have also accumulated some savings over the years of their respective work, so they made up a lot of money and finally made up a down payment.
At the moment of handing over the house, XiaoFang had a feeling of relief. Although it is a second-hand house, although it will be saddled with a mortgage in the future, as long as there is hope in life, it is worth it no matter how hard it is.
Unexpectedly, Xiao Fang's joy did not last long, and she was suddenly hit by her mother-in-law.
It turned out that Xiaofang had a big sister who divorced a few months ago and is currently renting a house alone. When the mother-in-law saw that Xiaofang's house had been handed over, she proposed to leave a room for the eldest sister to live temporarily, and when the eldest sister remarried, she would move out again. XiaoFang naturally refused, but her mother-in-law said that there was money in this house that she had contributed, and if she did not agree, she had to agree.
Hearing what her mother-in-law said, Xiao Fang was so angry that tears flowed down without a fight, and she angrily questioned her husband, wondering what he thought? The husband looked at XiaoFang's tearful look and whispered, "Or else, just let my sister live for a while, at most for a year, even if my sister doesn't find an object, let her move out, okay?" ”
As the saying goes, it is easy to ask God to send God, and it is only a few years after marriage, and the in-laws calculate themselves everywhere. Now we still have to invite an outsider into the family, if the eldest sister will not marry again for a lifetime, then will she not have to live in the wilderness of the earth?
Although I know that it is too late to mention divorce now, and I have more to lose. However, Xiaofang did not want to stay in this family that made her feel suffocated anymore. She dried her tears and said to Arwen word by word: "Divorce, it is not mine, I don't want a penny, it should be mine, I won't let anything go." Wait for the indictment! After saying that, Xiao Fang snatched the door and came out.
epilogue
Love is blind, life is rational. Sweet love is enough to make lovers ignore each other's various shortcomings, so lovers always think that the other party will be their own Prince Charming and Snow White.
Are all breakups with regrets? Not necessarily so, but when love has passed the sweet period, the lover gradually discovers the shortcomings of the other party, so it gradually drifts away. So the separation in this case is not only not a pity, but also a very wise early stop loss.
Therefore, before a woman gets married, she must not be impulsive or blind. In addition to carefully assessing the strengths and weaknesses of the man, it is also necessary to consider the other party's family environment. You should know that you will be able to spend decades with each other's families, and if there is an irreconcilable conflict, you may be troubled for a lifetime.
At the same time, I would like to say that although parents cannot easily interfere in the marriage of their children, most parents are for the good of their children. Therefore, although they sometimes behave more utilitarianly, from a practical point of view, their suggestions and choices may be correct, and children should not rush to reject, but listen, see, and think more.