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Stal said: "Love is the history of a woman's life, but only an episode in a man's life." ”
Women love a man, they want to live a lifetime, feelings are usually very specific; and men may fall in love with several women in their lifetime, often very careful.
Someone said: "Choosing a partner is like a big gamble, everyone is happy if you choose the right one, and if you choose the wrong one, you will lose for a lifetime." ”
Indeed, as a woman, if you choose a partner who spends a lot of money, it will make your life suffer.
Love is everyone's life chain, a woman will be attached to a man, she needs the man's care, feel that this is happiness.
But in the human world, the most incomprehensible thing is Providence, and the most incomprehensible thing is the human heart. If you want to entrust your life to a man, you must see him first.
In fact, whether a man is sincere or false, pay attention to three small things, you can distinguish clearly.
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First: Willing to bear the mistake after the quarrel shows that he cherishes you
Two people are together every day, and quarrels are always inevitable. Although the quarrel is normal, the focus is on the attitude after the quarrel, and it can be determined whether his love for you is sincere.
The man who truly loves you will definitely take the initiative to admit his mistake and take the initiative to comfort you after the quarrel. Because he cares about you, I am afraid that you will be angry with your body and will not be able to accompany him to the end.
As there is a saying: "Marriage is a piece of porcelain, it is difficult to do, it is easy to break, and it is not easy to clean up the pieces on the ground." ”
Men who like you will care for your feelings like porcelain in their hands.
In a variety show, Huang Lei and Sun Li were guests in the live broadcast room. The host asked about two people who have been married for so long, how to achieve love preservation?
Huang Lei said that after the two people quarreled, he would take the initiative to apologize, and it was a grimace apology.
He said that he was more able to speak, often turning Sun Li around reasonable and unreasonable, and he looked willing and willing to gamble and lose.
It is also said that even if there is a contradiction in the life of two people, it is always the two sides who admit their mistakes to each other, and then take the initiative to communicate and communicate until the contradiction is resolved.
The man who cares about you will only consider this, because he loves you, and his attitude towards you after the quarrel hides the temperature of loving you.
He will find reasons from himself, keep his inner line after the quarrel, and find a way to make you happy and make you happy.
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Second: There is a distance between him and the opposite sex, which shows that he respects you
There's a line in The King of Comedy: "We're talking about business now, not about falling in love." ”
The best measure for interacting with the opposite sex other than the partner is to regard the interaction as a "business", and what is needed is courtesy exchanges, rather than ambiguous and talking about me and me, so that it is loyalty to love and let everyone respect you.
A few days ago, her girlfriend Xiao Yao and her husband had a quarrel. Because she feels that her husband and the opposite sex get along without a scale, often challenge her love bottom line, and disrespect her.
Listen to Xiao Yao, when they first got married, her husband often chatted with the opposite sex on the mobile phone. For this reason, the two people did not quarrel less. Later, he stopped talking.
But what she didn't expect was that recently she found that the chat between her husband and the opposite sex shifted from online to offline, and there were several opposite-sex friends in her husband's WeChat.
She often wakes up in the middle of the night and sees her husband's mobile phone lit, and her husband's facial expression is mysterious and strange, looking like he is not doing a good job.
Just yesterday, the two people quarreled again, and the spearhead pointed directly at the emotional center of gravity of the two people. The husband said that Xiao Yao did not trust him, and Xiao Yao said that her husband was not sincere with her.
Lu Xun said: "Young men and women should maintain a sincere relationship, that is to say, there must be such a relationship: no matter what is not exaggerated, nor underestimated. ”
Between the opposite sex, even if it is a precious friendship, we must keep a distance, which is not only a defense of their own marriage, but also a avoidance of life.
This is not only the self-consciousness of the individual, the cultivation of the individual, but also the respect and maintenance of the other half. The man who can do this is the man who is worth entrusting for life.
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Third: Caring about you in small things shows that he cares about you
The sweetest feelings are often reflected in a person's attitude towards small things, and it can be seen whether he values love and is responsible.
Gottman once said, "Why do we want to marry someone because of money?" Because of the house? Because of appearance? No, because of the details, because of the little things. ”
Two people getting along, making people warm in small things, is the happiness of life.
In "Daughters in Love", zhang Mingen's love with Xu Lu touched everyone. Their lives are full of joy and love.
After eating, the two people teased each other together, went to play with the trampoline together, and also put together building blocks, it seems that the gaps in life are full of warm sunshine.
There is a video of Xu Lu wearing two small pigtails, which is very cute. In the process of the two people teasing each other, Zhang Mingen saw something on Xu Lu's teeth and helped her to floss her teeth.
The success or failure of feelings does not necessarily go through major events, and sometimes depends on the details of two people getting along. Love is not earth-shattering, not full of love, but happiness in reality.
Life is originally composed of trivial things, so be careful and live the daily trifles into a happy look, which is the best look of love.
Good love needs long-term persistence, not temporary passion.
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A man is not sincere about you, don't listen to him, the "details" are clear
As mentioned above, the willingness to bear the fault after the quarrel shows that he cherishes you; the distance between the interaction with the opposite sex shows that he respects you; and he cares about you in small things, which shows that he cares about you.
Everyone wants to be happy, and everyone wants to find the other half who is hurting themselves. Although life is complicated and difficult for us to distinguish, love and unlove cannot be concealed.
If it is true love, it will definitely be revealed in daily life.
As a woman, half of the happiness of a lifetime is in the hands of men. Therefore, we must be responsible for ourselves, to recognize men, to find where our hearts belong, and to live a lifetime of happiness.
As Haruki Murakami said, "As long as you love everything, you can love to some extent, and as long as you live as happily as possible, you can get what you want to some extent." ”
As long as you have the attitude of looking for true love, to live, to find love, you will definitely meet men who are good to themselves and love themselves.