"On the 30th day of giving birth, I got divorced."
Before Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, he couldn't imagine why his life would become a chicken feather after giving birth.
Before giving birth to a baby, no matter how the girlfriend persuaded herself and warned herself, Fang Yinuo firmly believed that after giving birth to a baby, her life would never change.
Unexpectedly, after giving birth, life gave her a loud slap.
When the amniotic fluid broke and was hospitalized for delivery, the husband who was supposed to be with him sneaked home on the pretext of work, and sat on the sofa watching TV.
After desperately giving birth to a baby, the husband actually went to get the placenta for the first time, sent it to the mother-in-law who waited downstairs with an ice bucket for a long time, and cooked soup for the little uncle to drink;
It was hard to get out of the hospital, as soon as I got home, Yinuo was cold, the house was dirty and messy, there were beer bottles everywhere, the quilts on the bed were nested together, and there was no joy in welcoming himself and his children home, and this was still a small matter.
Sister-in-law fed milk powder to the child behind her back, always lazy and did not work, and eventually secretly ran away;
The mother-in-law helps to watch the baby, because watching others play mahjong, causing the stroller to roll over and fall to the child;
The husband comes back every day to say that he is tired and never counts on taking the baby at night;
Big things and small things have to worry about themselves, and they are always accused of being too nervous, too anxious, and too many things. Fang Yinuo cried and said to his girlfriend, "How can I not count on anyone, what should I do?" ”
In the end, at the daughter's full moon banquet, the husband's xiaosan who cheated on him during the First Moon Period smashed the scene, and Fang Yinuo chose to divorce.
Why, the child has become a mirror for Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage, illuminating the true face of everyone?
The relationship between Fang Yinuo and his mother-in-law before giving birth to a baby is not very good, but it is also passable. But as soon as the child was born, Fang Yinuo chilled.
Fang Yinuo, who had just given birth to a child, had a sore wound and was weak and weak, and she wanted to drink a sip of water. However, the mother-in-law standing opposite only looked at the granddaughter she was holding in her arms, and did not give her daughter-in-law a single look. It wasn't until Yinuo's mother entered the house that she quickly handed her daughter a cup of water.
In fact, Yinuo's mother-in-law is not bad, she has no culture, her heart is straight and fast, and her mouth is unguarded.
In ordinary life, there is still a bottom line between the elderly and young people, and they will not interfere too much in the lives of others, but once they have a baby, this bottom line is easy to be touched.
Mother-in-law often likes to use the experience of the older generation to direct the daughter-in-law to confinement, guide the daughter-in-law how to raise children, and even interfere in the private life of young people, while the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law has no intimate mother, can not take care of herself, and always has to work against herself.
And Xiao Lu?
The arrival of a new life will surely change a lot,
Causes a family to be very chaotic for a while.
The most test of a family's cohesion and centripetal force,
To make life move upwards, every family member should do:
Communicate more and understand more
Especially for new moms
, inexperienced, overnight identity change, to take turns 24 hours to take care of the child, to feed the child, postpartum physical weakness, severe lack of sleep, take care of the child's tight nerves, so that they are full of anxiety and irritability, if no one can understand at this time, it is easy to lead to postpartum depression of new mothers, resulting in a series of problems.
If it is a mother-in-law with a baby,
Waiting for the confinement, although there will be different concepts between young people, but there is no need to go on the line with the elderly, more deadly, as long as the big principle is not wrong, mothers should also learn to turn a blind eye appropriately.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
We must mediate well in the middle and do a good job in the role of the middleman.
The most important thing for a family is to understand each other and be considerate of each other.
Stretch out your hands to help
In fact, after having a baby,
During this period, the mother is weak and confinement, the child often eats night milk, and the old man is also very hard to turn every day, whether it is to take care of people or to be taken care of.
Although the mother is very tired with the baby, but also to understand the husband's hard work, can not always blame the husband to go home without the baby, especially when the husband encounters difficulties in work, constant reproach will only make the hearts of the two people go farther and farther.
Whether it is a grandmother or a grandmother waiting for the confinement to take care of the baby, young people should not always see what is wrong with them, but should be grateful;
For the new mother, the whole family tolerates the point, understands the point, and helps her survive this exhausting day;
For new fathers, the family also understands their hard work, and do not blindly accuse them of being a hand-throwing treasurer.
Therefore, after having a baby, it is not only the novice mother who needs to change the mentality and identity, but also every family member, hand in hand in order to make the day prosperous.